Why is it so hard to say "I Love U"?

Question

I feel as if Im lying to myself and to my girl by not saying exactly what I feel.At 1 point I thought"If you have to think about, then it isn't real".Now I'm thinking "what else can it be".I hate that we allow time to determain what we feel or what we should do about it.We've been going out for 4 months BUT,and this is very important,we have known each other for longer than that and it was our feelings that hooked us up in the 1st place.But this is why I hold back.Why does it matter if its 1 month or one year, you feel what you feel right?I've felt this way before for someone but after 3 years(long story), I never told her what I felt because I thought to much about it.The relationship/Friendship ended and I regreted it for the longest time.I don't want to make the same mistake. She says she wished she didnt feel what she does for me so soon but she cant help it,Im affraid she still dont feel what I feel. I love her, always have loved her and always want to love her. What should I do?

Answer 1

let her know.


my bf was the same way.
then one day..we almost broke up cuz i know how he truely felt..

so he let me know.. and he tells me me alot.

started only telling me once every now and again then trying to show me ..

Answer 2

Talk to her about your feelings,you took a long time to think about all the stuff but open up your feeling for her and see what happens,i am sure your girl will definitely understand you.She must have ended the relation bcoz you were not comfortable saying her what exactly you felt for her and that's what we girls really hate.Open up what all you have got for her and even try making her understand things,in your own way.And yes finally confess that you love her.

Answer 3

Try to tell her only once...only once.....you never know....that will make U the pathway to say U love her by thousand of time..........
Be a man....that she want....Feeling comes the way if U go to extreme...thing that U have never done...never would have donw...but u do in the name of love.....

and tell U something, we human are the most complex beahviour species..if u ask I even make question about myself...am I feeling love......then after few times gone....then there are things happen......which let me remind everytime...that ...how wonderfull LOVE can be...try your best...

U can do that....but time...will never give U the chance over an over if U don`t.

Answer 4

all this that you just took the time to write. take the time to tell her all this. HOw you feeel that will be enough just to know u care about her enough that u take ur time to tell her how you feel. if u love her do whatever u can to get her back. if u've known her longer than before your relationship its ok that she feels that way, girls tend to love faster than guys but if u do love her tell her in any way just dont wait or think about it too much, its not hard you love her or u dont, because u might lost her and regret it

Answer 5

To be honest, this whole thing sounds rather yucky and if she were my sister I would rather she'd go out a with less "sensitive" young man. Sorry.

Answer 6

to say i love you is a very big deal,and you gota understand what you feel for her if t love, like, lost , trust, inmotions, or of the other. if you don't understand it don't say it talk to your self first before talking to her understand really what you really feel or it wouldn't be what you expert, if you know what you feel and understand it she will too.

Answer 7

is it your first time to have a girlfriend..? just be true to yourself and express what you feel.. it is important to tell her what you feel.. because at the end when she is not around.. iuts too late to tell it her.. trust me.. every second counts...

Answer 8

You must be afraid of something.... commitment? Deeper relationship? or anything... ask your inner self about it :-)

Answer 9

coz aumtyms you are afraid of rejection..

Answer 10

you dont really love her