My boyfriend and I have been thinking of having one but I am worried I will lose him for another girl or I wont enjoy it and he will keep wanting it but if I wont he will go ahead any way. Has anyone been through this or done it?
2006-08-08 18:54:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I would never risk a serious relationship over a fantasy or whim.
Let him go. Find someone who will love and respect you.
2006-08-08 19:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Had one probably 10-11 years ago. It was suppose to be with another girl, but turned out to be my boyfriend at the time and his best friend which was also our roommate. What a disaster!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My boyfriend ended up getting up and leaving the room because he thought that I was paying too much attention to the other guy. Give me a freakin break!!!
Honey, the only thing that I can tell you is make sure that you have a solid relationship!!!!!!!!!
And my advice being that you are already worried would be NOT to do it. You have to have trust and confidence in your partner. It should be an enjoyable experience for the both of you. You don't want to make yourself sick afterwards worrying about your boyfriends thoughts. ie: was she better than me, is he thinking about her.................Do you know what I mean. And surely don't do it just to make him happy. Men want a lot of things that women do not. They either learn to live with it and just fantasize, or they act on it. If he loves you, he won't pressure you!!!!! Please think it through. It will change your relationship.........either for the better or for the worse.
Good Luck
P.S. sometimes it is not cracked up to be everything people say it is:)
2006-08-08 19:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I have not, but for a very different reason. Read the other responses. Do you see the slightest hint of any concern for the *third* person (usually a woman) involved?
Nope, not a hint. The two of you must have a deep and abiding love, must trust each other completely . . . that's what I see. But the other person? I guess you leave her bleeding emotionally at the side of the road when you're done with her.
In my opinion, no good can come of using another person with no regard for their well-being. Ever. When the two of you have figured out THAT problem, I think you MAY be ready to consider a threesome.
2006-08-09 05:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3somes can be done but u have to have a secure relationship and a great deal of trust. Men are different then women and can have sex just to have sex women think of sex on more of an emotional level. 3some isn't love its sex and if u have a good relationship and trust it can be fun but its not something u just jump into and there should be grounds rules agreed upon before having one and u both should follow and those vary and example would be no kissing as thats too personal, good luck
2006-08-08 19:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by crude_n_rude2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look he obviously doesnt care what u think and only cares about his needs
if u dont want to have a threesome tell him
i mean come on does he really want another women to get him satisfied if he loved u,u would be enough for him
he would want u to himself
and come on do u really want him having sex with u AND ANOTHER GIRL!!!
think about it is this boy really worth ur time?
~hope that helped â¥
2006-08-08 18:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by hotloverxo328 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my g/f have been together for nearly six years.we do it frequently but we completely trust one another.trust is very important in this situation.
2006-08-08 18:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by retrac_enyaw03 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will mess up your relationship permantly dont do it trust me from experience.
2006-08-08 19:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by valerie_waters7 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋