He proposed to me 2 months before i found out i was pregnant on december 22nd. i said yes of course plus i am going to the airforce a few months after i have our daughter. i want to get married before i go but we don't have a ring or enough money. i really wanted a big wedding with all my family and friends there but i want to ask him if we can get married at the courthouse. how should i tell him and do you think its a good idea.
2006-08-08 18:27:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Different story here, but I have been married to my husband for almost 8 years, and we were married at the courthouse. I would say to save your money for the reception. Have a celebration, but just get married at the courthouse. Maybe renew your vows, and have a wedding then. That's what we plan to do.
2006-08-08 18:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should look at the reasons you are going to get married. If you want a big wedding just wait a bit and save up some money. No one says you have to get married before the baby is born. You can't get what you didn't have and you will regret it later on if you rush into a courthouse wedding.
2006-08-08 18:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by *Monica* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing about a wedding is that you feel it is right. If it is really what you want, then go to the courthouse. If you would rather have your family there, then find a way to get them there. You can often rent churchhouses for a wedding and reception fairly inexpensively, talk to your minister and see if they will give you a deal in your situation. You don't have to have expensive bridesmaids dresses (my sister ordered hers from JC Penney and they were under $70 each). You can have friends help you with a cake and food and just do a little snack, not a meal, but you can still have your familiy there with you. Just remember that this is your day, and whatever you want goes. Talk to him about how you feel, what you want, and then listen to see if he's ok with it. I'm sure he wants to be a part of your life, so he'll understand what you're looking for. good luck.
2006-08-08 18:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Amber E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just tell him. Say " I love you, and I want to be married to you. You know that I want a big wedding, but I am willing to give that up and get married at the courthouse, just to be married to the man I love"
In all actuallity, it sounds like he wouldn't really care if it wasn't a big wedding and it was at the courthouse. You said that YOU'RE the one who wants a big wedding, but it's been my experince that any man would rather a very small affair in a courthouse than a monkeysuit in front of 200 people.
2006-08-09 00:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it, to be married, and plan a large wedding afterwards.
As far as enlisting in the Air Force, you must have 3 menstrual cycles after the baby is born to enlist. Also, consider that being a mother, the Air Force may not be your best bet. You will enlist open contract (no job guarantee) and the Air Force is letting close to 20,000 careerists to go every year. If you want a career, don't go Air Force, plus they are deploying the most often, due to their relative size. The Army will give you the best opportunities, and guarantee your job BEFORE you enlist. Explore all options FULLY BEFORE you enlist in any branch. Ask each recruiter to "FSR2S" your record to show what you can get. You'll see the difference if you ask that question.
We just had an Army wedding,m complete with the Arch of Sabers. My wife is the envy of her family and friends.
2006-08-08 19:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by Mark W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married at the court house and just wear a band. The baby is the most important thing here and you're going to need the money for him/her. You can always have a big wedding and a fancy ring later- that's what anniversary and re-newing the vows are for!! Also you can always just have a huge party instead of a fancy wedding.
2006-08-09 02:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its truley a good idea to get married. You two can get married at the courthouse, and however long it takes for you to get out the service or save money then you two re-new your vows on the day u got married. (has to be annual). Thats when you have the big wedding with family and friends. My brother did it.....worked out great!!
2006-08-08 20:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by jammyjam80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always go ahead and have the civil ceremony now and have a reception after you get back from Air Force basic training. You can then plan you big wedding as a vow renewal for one of your anniversaries.
My husband and I had a civil ceremony a month before our youngest was born and are currently planning to have our reception and possibly a vow renewal for our fifth anniversary; we have been together for 14 years and married for one.
Good luck!
2006-08-09 06:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is every woman's dream to have a very grand wedding. but because of certrain factors, a lot of people can't afford to have a BIG wedding. you know what, i think what matters most is that you will be marrying the one you truly love. a wedding is just an event, it is much important to prepare for your "marriage". wedding is just one day, marriage is a lifetime. anywya, you can always have the wedding of your dreams once you have saved enough money for it. good luck and congratulations on your new baby! :)
2006-08-08 23:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by jensky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get married. Afterwards, if you get enough money, you can have your wedding. Personally, I think just having a big picnic to celebrate your wedding is a nice idea. Extravagant weddings seem like a big waste of money to me.
2006-08-08 18:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by rabecky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋