I just graduated from high school. This past fall, my best friend was voted Band Sweetheart on Homecoming Court and even though I really wanted it I was supportive because I knew she deserved it. I did her makeup for all of her pictures and presentation and I decorated her car and everything. I figured I would get over any jealousy I felt really fast but it is still a touchy subject. I didn't know that I wanted it so bad, and I find that I am still jealous and I don't like to talk about it. What is wrong with me? What's it going to take for me to just let it go? I know it's a stupid thing to still even think about and I just want to not care anymore. Any ideas why this is still bothering me? Mean or negative answers aren't necessary. Just help me out please.
2006-08-08 18:11:26 · 15 answers · asked by katy.allred 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You probably cant let it go because even though she won, you have contributed so much to it yourself, such as doing her makeup and her car... and you didnt get any kind of recognition for it. Its totally normal for you to be jealous about this. Just know that this in time will pass even though it doesnt feel like right now. Keep in mind that you were her friend, that you were always there, and you helped her out and if it wasnt for you maybe she wouldnt have won. So be happy for your friend, and for yourself. Your a team. High school is over and now its time to move on to bigger things........ like Life....
Congrats!
2006-08-08 18:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Chicadee 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This was a high school thing. You will definitely forget about it once you start college. I had a sleep over w/ my two best friends from high school last weekend. It has been a year since high school. One of my best friends was pretty hurt b/c she didnt even get in the top ten for the high school pageant. My other best friend got student of the year for our entire county. And I got student athlete of the year for my school. We were talking about all the awards that we got and we all agreed that it doesnt mean anything to us anymore. That was what I hated about high school too. Everyone cared way too much about prom queen, homecoming queen, and all those awards. In the end it is the friends that you made through the years that matter the most. Dont let anything, not even a boy, get between you and a friend. It's never worth it. Just realize what is important.
2006-08-09 01:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by MelBelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on graduating high school! Focus on your achievements.
Nothing is wrong with you. You are a very honest person who is good at seeing into your own mind and heart. I applaud you! Keep it up. Many people have never mastered this trait.
You were very disappointed and that is why it is bothering you. If this is your best friend confide in her. Tell her just what you said here about being supportive because you felt she really deserved it, and ask that she maybe drop the subject around you for a while.
2006-08-09 01:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you're still stuck with a high school mentality. Realize that when you start working or going to college that no one will care if you were voted on the Homecoming Court.
That chapter in your life is over with. Stop living in the past and conentrate on the future. You and your friend will benefit from that.
2006-08-09 01:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Prytanic_Kitra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one likes to be dissapointed. That you were a gracious loser, speaks to your character. If you stick with that you'll be OK. Your life is going to change so much in the next few years, it's a minor issue. You'll have successes that you will want to share with your friend, you'll have setbacks too, so will she. That's what friendship is all about, sharing each other's lives, being glad for each other, comforting each other, etc. If she's really a true friend, it won't matter in the long run. The worst thing I've ever done was to lose a friend in anger.
2006-08-09 01:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been almost a year. It is time to let it go. Think about something else. Think, just how much does this really matter in the whole scheme of things? Go to college or find a job and new friends. Time will make you see that this wasn't really important at all.
2006-08-09 04:28:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is you known it was trivial. I'm sure I would've been hurt too. My advice is to just deal with your feelings of jealosy, because they probably won't go away. You know your friend is a great person, and she doesn't know the way you feel about her winning Band Sweethart. Enjoy her company, and realize that jealousy is natural, and she probably is jealous of you in some other area.
2006-08-09 01:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you know you shouldn't be jealous but you feel that way anyway. I had a similar experience when one of my best girlfriends started dating a guy and spending a lot of time with him. I discovered that I had feelings of jealousy that she was spending time with him and not with me, even though I was really happy for her that she was in a relationship.
I'd say that being in touch with your feelings and knowing where they are coming from are a good start. At least you can realize that they're irrational and hopefully not try to take them out on your friend. As for how to let them go, you can pray to God and ask Him to take them away. You can also just wait and try to be a good friend.
I'm behind you 100%. Thanks for being so mature.
2006-08-09 01:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, YOUR time will come!
When I was in high school, I was involved but never won anything because I was, well, me I guess.
Then I got to college and started winning awards and those high school grievances weren't important anymore. Don't sweat it, your feelings are completely normal.
And it sounds like you are a great friend to have!
2006-08-09 01:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by ladybugbaby161 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your statement, you stated ¨I knew she really deserved it¨ There is your answer. You did feel that she deserved it, she got it, no biggie.. these titles you get in high school don't mean anything in the real world.. put it in perspective. Who cares if she got Band sweetheart... it means nothing really..it's a fun thing when you're in high school, but you're not in high school anymore..Yipppeee...Go travelling..
2006-08-09 01:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋