2006-08-08 18:06:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
thank you everyone for your time and thoughts. All your answers are greatly appreciated!!
2006-08-13 17:15:41 · update #1
I like a combination of the two. The good thing about traditional vows is that they are always phrased as promises. A lot of people who write their own vows forget to phrase them as VOWS and instead just talk about how much they love each other.
Vows are supposed to be verbal contracts. In order to be that, they need to involve something to the effect of "I promise/vow to...."
2006-08-09 03:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters either way. But, writing your own vows can put a lot of pressure on both of you at a time when you're stressed out enough as it is. Planning a wedding can be stressful enough without trying to come up with your own vows. We just did the traditional vows.
2006-08-09 08:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to the couple.
I always loved the idea of traditional vows...knowing the fact that many--millions of people were married by those same words, its really cool. Your parents, grandparents all took those vows--i think its a great idea because a wedding is about the couple's love and a blending of two families and those vows were said by people in the same room as you. Vows--they are timeless-- and sets a rule to live by (kinda...i know it sounds harsh). My Aunt is married and she says everytime she goes to a wedding where they say traditional vows its brings back memories of her own wedding
Writing your own vows are great too. They are much more personal and you can really express how much you love the person. It really depends on you and your partner and whats right of the two of you.
2006-08-09 07:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditional, in my opinion. You could always tell each other other stuff in private, but at your wedding you're up in front of many other people that have also said the same (traditional) vows during their weddings, and they'll know how committed you are by saying the words they said long ago and now understand. Besides, the traditional vows don't miss ANYTHING; they're quite all-inclusive of everything in life :D
(Hope that makes sense...)
2006-08-09 01:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
traditional- lots of reasons. 1. the vows say everything that is important- sure there's no extra mushy stuff like "when our eyes first met...." - but it covers everything that matters - rich/poor , sickness/health etc etc...2. if i wrote it myself i'd end up racking my brain trying to make sure i covered everything when it's all in the traditional vows anyway. 3. as if there's not enough stress in planning a wedding?!!! i don't want to take on another task.
2006-08-10 01:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by fuzzyblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all up to you, traditions has changed so much over the last years. I wanted to get married under my favourite tree, and I did, its not traditional, but it was what I wanted and I am so happy about my decision, the memory of my special day is out of this world, so you decide, traditional, or your own.
2006-08-09 03:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I plan to write my own, I think it is so much more meaningful to say things in your own words.I think it will make it be more intimate and personal.I'm not having a traditional wedding anyway it will be more "us".
2006-08-09 02:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write you're own because it would be more meaningfull to the one that you're marring. that you thought of you're own words to tell him/her how much you love them. good luck
2006-08-13 11:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋