My 7 year old daughter keeps hitting my 4 yr old son. For example he was walking by her and she slaps him in the face for no reason just out of the blue. another example, she stuck his fingers in the door and slamed them into her bedroom dor un purpose. She is continously hitting him or slapping him, kicking her, ect.
I have spanked her, grounded her, taken her toys away, corners, no tV, no friends over, we ahve talked about not touching her brother. All to no avail, nothigns working, and im at my witts end.
Anyone go through this and if so what did you do>?
2006-08-08 18:03:45 · 10 answers · asked by chicata25 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My daughter has her own room, and I spend alot of quality time alone with her. For example we go to dance classes 1x a week, and perform togeather several days of the month. I pay for her taekwondo classes and those are not cheap, and sit my butt there for 2 hours while shes working out so she can beat the competition during tournament time. (Shes the one who wants to do these things) we go to movies togeather just me and her.
The hitting and stuff has occured only recently, most of the time its for no aparent reason, but often its because he whent into her room without asking, or he took this toy, or you ger the picture.
One thing I forgot to mention, and very well might be the reason for the beatings is her little brother snuck into her room at night and cut some of her hair (not alot) but enough to really tick her off. He got int rouble for that, but that might be part of the reason for the beatings:( Maybe shes seeking revenge lol.
2006-08-08 18:53:05 · update #1
How about if everytime she beats on her brother, you give him a dollar? His profit would stop me dead in my tracks.
2006-08-08 18:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by Tish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't give any punishment to your daughter. I bet she is just feeling jealous of the presence of your little kid, i mean her brother. Maybe you and your husband pay too little attention on her and more on your younger child. You should try to talk to your daughter that your love for won't change. She should in fact take care of her little brother. Tell her how you feel about her. Maybe you think that she is too young to understand this but she can actually listen to you and understand too. Try to spend more time together with her. I'm sure she'll get the meaning. Good luck.
2006-08-08 18:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by bubu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your daugher is jealous of her brother, and also that a lot of attention she may be getting is from being mean to him. What I would suggest is if she's being mean, send her to her room so she doesn't get much attention (even negative) at all, and try and reward her with attention and praise when she is playing nicely with her brother (or even when she has spent the whole afternoon ignoring him---at least it's a step up from harassment :)
2006-08-08 18:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by trailerparkmedic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for what you are going through, it is always very hard to treat kids and there is no certain rule to solve their problems.
in my opinion, you can try to grow a sense of responsibility in your older daughter, try to make her do stuff for her brother, even simple things like catching his hand in the mall, or reading him a story.
also, i think that you have to give her as much love as you can because she is still a baby too, you have to tell her that you love her and grow a sense of security in her life, and make her feel that her brother is not a competitor but a fun part of the family.
if nothing is working, professional help is always a solution, good luck to you
2006-08-08 18:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by confusion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it replaced into me i could beat him until eventually at last he stoped yet u mentioned u do no longer wanna get in situation i'm able to comprehend so tell a central or college cousler expain the situation tell them he's hurtin u and u do no longer decide directly to hit him back and if that doesn't artwork tell ur mom i'm helpful she could yell and scream untill somone stops him
2016-09-29 01:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by oberlander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell the master of that school so he can lower your child's rank and if she does it again the master will make her rank even lower until she is a white belt or a no belt, because the first rule of every martial art is:
Martial Arts is used for self defence only.
2006-08-09 11:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by Math Magic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son and a daughter 2 yrs younger than him and NO we have not experienced that. I suggest you ask your pediatrician for a consult with a psychiatrist or family behavior specialist.
2006-08-08 18:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean t be mean or whatever but, you need to beat dat *** MUCH HARDER but, not to the point of child abuse. It looks like your " Spankings" don't effect her at all and if she still don't stop then tell him to fight back because, he will grow up to be a punk and be afraid of girls all of his life.
2006-08-08 18:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make her knell down on some raw rice for 15 minutes then make her kiss and hug her brother when shes finished knelling down.Let me know what happens.
2006-08-08 18:21:53 · answer #9 · answered by valerie_waters7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to watch the "Super Nanny" TV program on BBC-Prime, its great, I learnt so much from it, now my kids are well-disciplined.
2006-08-08 18:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by I-Rahi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋