some girl I been seeing says she pregnant, but I can't have anymore kids because i had a vasectomy, when i was with my 1st wife, we had 4 kids and that was enough for me, how do I tell this female, this kid isn't mine, without being an a**hole.
2006-08-08 17:59:49 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you make an accusation, get yourself checked out. It won't take long. A urologist can take a semen sample in the morning and have a report in the next day or two. The vasectomy failure rate after 5 years is about 1 percent. So, make certain before you accuse.
If you are sterile, just hand her a copy of the urologist's report and say, "Sorry babe, you'll have to find another sucker."
Good luck to you.
2006-08-08 18:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First go to the doctor and check again to see if somehow you might still have sperm. It can happen and has happened that a man who has a vasectomy became a father. When it is absolutely sure that there is no sperm there. I would confront her and tell her that you had a vasectomy years ago. She might not even be pregnant and wants to try to trap you or she could be pregnant with some other guys baby and wants to put the blame on you. If you were tested I would not blame you if you were upset and angry with her. She is playing you as a fool.
2006-08-08 18:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT! YOU ACTUALLY THINK YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO FEEL BAD ABOUT? That whore knows exactly what she's doing! She fooled around with someone else and now she wants you to be the father while she goes out and continues to sleep around. WAKE THE FCUK UP DUDE! And please, this is to ALL you guys out there, stop calling women your girlfriend just because she agreed to have dinner with you or slept with you a couple of times! Tell this girl it's a miracle that she's pregnant since you can't have kids and that you'd like to go on Maury Povich for a paternity test to make sure your pipes do work. Then tell her you just lost you job but want seven more kids with her 'cause she would make a great mother and watch her leave skid marks, she'll be running so fast!
2006-08-08 18:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Don Ricardo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and say that you have your doubts as to the paternity of the child due to your surgery. If she insists, demand a paternity test. There is nothing wrong with wanting proof in a questionable situation. I'm a little surprised you didn't tell her about the vasectomy prior to this. But you might want to go to your doctor and get your count checked. The odds are low, but sometimes the surgery does fail.
2006-08-08 18:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Amy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having sex with her, and she is your girl you have been "seeing" I would think the two of you know how to talk. So why not talk without accusing her and let her know that this is highly unlikely. Remember on thing however, if this is your child, which it could be, the way you handel this situation will forever be remembered. You don't want her to tell your child you denied it, unless that is what you plan on doing.
I would check with a doctor, tell her of your concern, ask her if she has only been with you and go from there. She isn't necessarily a whore, and you don't have to be an asshole.
2006-08-08 18:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by southernyankee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to tell her. Tell her you think she got a false postive (it can happen) because you are 100% sure you can not have children as the result of a vasectomy years ago. Just do not go to her accusing her of lying or cheating. Play dumbfounded and surprised. That way, she won't feel threatened. Good luck!
2006-08-08 18:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by itsasecret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know and god knows if she is lieing sometimes women say they are with child to hold on to there man but if you know you had a vasectomy then that means you stright don't fell like an a$$ hole ok
2006-08-08 18:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is still possible for you to have "live swimmers" in there....did you ever go back and get the proper testing done after the "snip snip" to make sure there weren't any swimmers left? If you didn't the best idea for you right now is to go to a lab, squirt in a cup and have them check for swimmers. If there isn't any.....then just take a copy of the test results and leave them laying on her pillow the morning you leave her........
2006-08-08 18:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times vasectomys dont work but you should go to the dr have it checked out in mean time sit her down and tell her gently that you had it done the look in her eyes will tell all
2006-08-08 18:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by little_outlaw_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her str8 out...and if she dont belive you then go to the doctor with her so she can have proof that you cant have kids no mo...but member...a vasectomy isn't 100% sure..
2006-08-08 18:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by Kikkis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋