Sometimes I feel as if my virginity is a strike against me. I would appreciate all responses to my answer. Sometimes I feel as if I can't get a date because I am a virgin.
2006-08-08 17:39:57 · 19 answers · asked by collegebound1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not all guys are only interested in sex, while most have it on thier mind, there is lots that are willing to wait. Sometimes though, these may not be the most exciting guy, or have the great sex appeal, if you only want the real hot guys or the "bad boy", all they want is sex. Remember the mind is the sexiest organ, and the shy guys will not mind the wait.
2006-08-08 17:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hold off too if I were you. Besides the practical aspects of abstaining (pregnancy, STDs) there are real emotional aspects, too, which are too easily discounted. When you're married you are both on the same page as far as sex, whereas when you're not married there is a higher chance that one of you will be using the other one and someone will be hurt. Both my husband and I wish that we had waited until we met each other, because our physical and emotional relationship makes the other ones hollow, sordid and sad. You won't be missing out on anything by waiting; some say you need to have multiple partners to know you're with the right person, but that is not at all the case. Also, if you wait until marriage, your courtship will be unclouded by the strong feelings that sex brings up (having sex can make you feel like you're in love even if the person you're with is a jerk, so you can easily make bad choices).
All I can say about guys is that if he is the right guy for you, he will be mature enough to understand your views and respect them. And if you're meeting only guys who want sex, maybe you should broaden where you meet guys? (for instance, if you're going to bars that's not a good place to meet likeminded men; some other venue, such as a hobby you like, would be better). In other words, develop your own strong interests, likes, dislikes, friendships, and hopefully something positive will come out of that.
2006-08-09 00:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The whole "guys are only interested in sex" thing is a myth, in my opinion. Most guys do want a wonderful relationship, with the right girl... but they also want sex as a part of that. If for some reason a couple's sex life doesn't work, men would want to know that before making a long-term commitment. Many women want to know, too, since it's tough to gently tell your new husband that he is rotten in the bedroom.
If you are completely committed to remaining a virgin until marriage, I would recommend dating people within church groups who share these traditional relationship beliefs. However, I would give serious thought to remaining a virgin before marriage, since some sex would give you added piece of mind that you are marrying a terrific lover, when you find him. And learning additional bedroom skills before you settle down isn't a bad idea either.
2006-08-09 00:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by Marc M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a virgin? Wow! I didn't think those existed any more. No, seriously? Anyone who wouldn't date you because you're a virgin or because you want to wait until you're married, isn't worth having. You need someone who is on the same page as you, and you can bet that a guy that doesn't want to date you because you're a virgin isn't interested in a long term relationship. Hold out for the right one, you won't be sorry you did.
2006-08-09 00:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by aghostprofilebeingempty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a good thing. sex is a gift from God. its a sacred gift and it should be treated that way. I'm a nice guy, and I am most definetly not only interested in having sex. going with someone just cause they want sex is about one of the stupidest things a person can do. Thank you so much for being one of the girls who wait till marriage... keep waiting, God will bless you for that in some way... now or in the future. until you find that special someone, focus on making God the center of your life. if you dont know how to go about doing that, visiting http://www.notreligion.com/ will help you out. Hope that answers your question:)
2006-08-09 00:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by JoesTheBest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are like this. If a guy is your friend, which he should be if you are in a dating relationship with you. He should be respectful of your beliefs. Waiting until you are married to have sex is a very smart thing to do. I did!! It was so worth it. It can be frustrating to guys. Young men have strong sexual urges. Be careful not to give them false hope. No late night make out sessions. No teasing!! I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and "mormons" are taught to wait until marriage. We treat sex as a very special gift that is shared only between two people who are in love, and commited to each other through the bonds of marriage. May be you should find your self a good mormon boy,...just a thought. Good luck. I commend you for making a good choice, a safe choice, the right choice.
2006-08-09 00:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by sleepless in the ATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. I cherish my virginity as well and am waiting until marriage 2 have sex. Sex is very important and special and should be saved for ur hubby. Besides, maybe u'll find a boyfriend who feels the same way? Stick w/ it girl-ur not the only one! :)
2006-08-09 00:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because guys are horndogs and your virginity is a challenge.
All I can tell you is that you can weed thru the bad guys real easy when you won't give it up. The ones who are just after the goodies will ditch you and the ones who really like you will stay.
Don't give it up. Hang on to your virginity until you find that right guy.
2006-08-09 00:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember this a gentleman won't ask or force sex on a lady. Those guys are not gentlemen and don't have any self control . DO NOT COMPROMISE WITH ANYONE CONCERNING YOUR VIRGINITY !!!! Take courage and do what is right ........... stay strong in your stand !!! Be pure and wait for your wedding day.
2006-08-09 00:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by June H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, if they can't wait to have sex then they are not worth it.
Seriously, Save yourself. You will be happy that you did. Go to school make something of yourself and to heck with those who don't like it. The right man will come along who will think that you are a princess and wait to marry you before you let him. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-08-09 00:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by JOJO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋