ok im 15 & my bf & i have been dating for 7 months. in june i sent him pics of me w/o a shirt on & his mom found them & grounded us. ever since then she wont let us kiss, hold hands, or anything around him. about a week ago he came home with a pimple sized hickey on his neck (it doesnt take much to give him one & i was trying 2 b careful). she freaked out & called my mom telling her that im a s.lut and that i need to be watched more heavily. seriously. this woman is out of her mind. she thinks that her son does nothing and i do it all to him like a vixen or something. he knows he participates but wont stand up to his mom. now we have to come up with a "plan" to stop the sexual activity. and we dont want to. what can we do? please help. and be serious.
2006-08-08 17:29:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we're both on the honor role & we didnt plan on having sex, just kissing, touching, etc. neither of us want the chances of a baby.
2006-08-08 17:51:56 · update #1
Man ... I'm 42 and I'LL say this. You have to be more careful what the parents find out or there will be consequences. Do you want to keep making this woman mad? See answer # 1, and stop leaving sexual clues around the parents.
Our daughter doesn't want evidence of OUR sex life, and if she has a sex life she makes very sure she's discreet about it. She's also almost 18.
2006-08-08 17:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honey, at 15 are either of you quite old enough to deal with the possible consequences of sexual activity to begin with? I mean, even with a condom or birth control, you can get pregnant...
His mom may seem like too much, and she is definitely acting very rudely toward you, but to her you two are just kids still. The fact that he is not yet old enough to stand up to his mother could be an indicator that he (no matter how great it feels) is also not ready for a sexual, or even non-sexual but intimate relationship.
Your plan for not being sexual with each other is not a bad thing. I'm not saying that you have to wait till you are married, but why does it have to be now?
Maybe what you should do is sit down with your parents and go over why you feel you want to be sexual with your boy friend. If you feel uncomfortable talking about this with them, than try a pastor or counselor...if it still feels too uncomfortable, than it is a very good bet that you are not quite ready either.
2006-08-09 00:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mary D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your mom in all of this? Does she not have anything to say to you? Sexual activity hmm? And 15 to boot, hmm! Honey, this mother had every right to call you a slut, a " Ho " has a nicer sound to it, but anyway. Do you see what happens when you engage in inappropriate behavior? You get shunned!!
Lay off the sexual activity, sweetie or by the time you turn 18 you will find yourself on a street corner somewhere! Most guys want decent girls and yes even today and if they say otherwise, they would be lying to themselves or there character does not say much about them. Think about it! And talk to an adult councilor if your mother can't advise you.
2006-08-09 00:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that those pictures could get him into ALOT of trouble.
Pictures of anyone under the age of 18 is concidered child pornography, and it doesn't matter if you took it yourself. If he has them, then he is in posession of child pornography, and even at 15, he could go to jail for posessing them.
There was a case recently where a 14 year old was convicted because he has screen captures of girls in his class who went topless on webcams. He's going to be locked up until he's 18.
2006-08-09 00:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by cmriley1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will not win.. so stop fighting and give up... You have to do the hard thing and break up.. Its not good for you, or anyone involved if you stay with him.. you are 15 and very young.. try and mature a little bit more
2006-08-09 00:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by cinsaint1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're both really young. Deep down, they don't want to be grandmothers yet because it's going to be your responsibility and they are responsible for you, meaning the baby would fall under some of their responsibility too. Take it easy and take care of yourself or you won't be liked by the "in-law" (as if you are).
Take care of yourself. You have other duties as teenagers, and sex and babies is not one of them!!!
2006-08-09 00:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christ-all-might!y! I wish I could go back to when I was 15. My bf was older just like you'res, but Once you do something,you can't go bavk!! No matter what you decide, REMEMBER THAT!! A few years that, I saw his picture on the news. He had killed one of his girlfriend.!!
2006-08-09 00:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should be more discreet and careful. Both of you are still yound and your parents are worried that you don't know what you are doing, and might affect your future. School comes first.
Both of you are not acting responsibly so how can you expect your parents to trust you?
2006-08-09 00:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by Dani 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How are your and his grades?
Glad to hear you guys are doing well in school. You can't hold back a river as they say in the songs. You guys are gonna do what you're gonna do - you know that. Please try to support each other so as to not get pregnant and keep doing great in school.
2006-08-09 00:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 15 years old,you do relize if you guys have sex there is a risk of you getting preg,and the mother probaly is worried about that.I don't think she is out of her mind,I think you both have to grow up and put yourself in her shoes.until he 18 there nothing He can do.
2006-08-09 00:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by Nails 4 breakfast,tacks 4 snacks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋