Kids: Grounding or Spanking? which would you prefer?

Question

If you had the choice which would you choose?

1. Spend a week of boredom being grounded but no pain or....
2. Get the spanking over with, although it may be embarrassing and you have a sore bottom for a little while.

Answer 1

spanking. of course it only hurts for about an hour. i really always said come on with it. i never really cared. my mom spanked me with a wooden spoon too.

Answer 2

Give me a GROUNDING! only this method would make a kid reflects a bit cause it will make the child bored & scared so he won't dare to repeat the mistake again or at least think twice before taking any silly actions. For a kid, freedom, playing & fooling around makes their days, so without freedom, they'll suffocate & bored to death. But if you ever hit or spank on the kid, he'll hate you even more, bear more grudges & try to break the rules to revenge on you! Think about it, spanking doesn't heal the mistake, instead it's going to get worse! Not only the child feels pain, you feel pain too. Probably in this case, from your choices, I prefer grounding & it sounds more reasonable.

(FYI: sometimes Spanking does the trick too..but that all really depends on the situations & types of kids/people you're dealing with, coz spanking will make the kid remember of what he did before & probably realise the consequences & he'll not repeat the mistake again) Now, all you need to do is think about the consequences you may be facing after taking either action, then do what you need to do!

Answer 3

I choose neither.

I think that if you "spank", in the name of hitting, and making pain, you have just taught your child that inflicting pain is o.k., if someone is losing control of themselves.

When you ground a child, then you have basically entered into a situation that requires you to be a Detective, Spy, and Jailer.

It sounds like you have a communication gap. Relationships require trust, honor, love, continuity. and "rewards", for positive behavior.

It's much more than a sore bottom for a while. It is a pain that will remain in the bodies cells for a long time.

Think creatively. What will work well for both, or all, and at the same time, build a strong bond between you.

I would love to slap my neighbor around, when his two yapping dogs start to bark at 6:30 in the A.M. Would it help?
No. I choose to be more positive, and move my attention to a different area. I will let my Harley Rider friend kick Butt. Just kidding.
Hope you will find some support for your family.

Answer 4

When I was a kid, "grounding" meant nothing to me, because I enjoyed spending time alone in my room. Spanking only made me angry. It's strange; of all the times I remember being spanked, I remember only the assault, but never what it was supposedly for.

Really, there are only two possibilites: either the child believes that what he (or she) did was wrong, or he believes it was not wrong. In the former case, punishment is kind of surperfluous; it's more important to try to make up for the mistake (right the wrong that he did, if possible). In the latter case, punishment will just make the child feel that he is being treated unjustly -- that he can't count on his parents to stick up for him. That might be a necessary lesson, but it's a tough one for a kid.

Answer 5

Grounding, it is more effective. The punishment is also longer, you can sit and think of all the things you are missing out on. While a spanking lasts a couple of minutes. And seems to be a cheap price to pay. Oh, and I dont believe in inflicting pain as a method of discipline, it is very easy to lead to physical abuse.

Answer 6

I'd rather have the spanking...acutally growing up I had many.lol
It kept me in line though...I think that's what's wrong with kids today..no fear of anyone in authority. I grew up fine, no personality or self esteem problems. I don't know where the so called professionals get that from...

Answer 7

spanking does nothing my 8 year old has already figured it out she would rather get spanked because the punishment is faster grounding sucks because then you are cut out of everything that everyone is doing.

Answer 8

up until the age of 5 spanking is ok to earn respect from your child. but after that it only shows the kids that hitting is okay, which its not. that is when you should ground them.

Answer 9

Not a kid anymore, but I preferred grounding.

My brothers both preferred spanking. They could get it over with, and get on with life.

Answer 10

id take the spanking over getting grounded anyday