Relationships too immature at 13?

Question

I like someone but I'm not sure if I want to have a relationship because the ones at my age are immature and meaningless. Any advice?

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Yup... so like I have told countless other unenlightened souls... Getting in a relationship at your age is fine (if a little bit pointless), but don't get too serious about it, and don't have any expectations. Not to sound gross or anything, but if he has sex with you before you are older, I'll kick his ***...

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Answer 1

When I was 13, I thought every boy I dated was going to be "the one" and we were going to have that "Boy Meets World" relationship like we all dream of...but relationships didn't always work out. Some lasted a month or two, some lasted a couple days. At 13 I remember it being so important to be in a relationship, but looking back I wish I had spent more time having fun with my friends than staying up late at night crying over some boy. If you want to be in a relationship at 13 then just remember to have fun (fighting isn't worth the tears!), don't alienate your friends, and stay true to yourself and don't let things go too far.

Answer 2

How old is this person? !3 is extremely young to have a serious relationship. Relationships at 13 should be immature, you are still very young. You need to be having lots of fun with friends. Developing friendships, both male and female help you grow and mature as a person so that when the time comes you are ready to date and have a deeper relationship. I think 16 is a good age to start dating, and double dating or dating in groups is best. It is certainly safer. If this person you like is 18 or older, it is illegal for them to have a relationship with you. Good luck.

Answer 3

I feel exactly the same way. I'm waiting for him to make a move cause he seems to give me signs that he likes me. There is this girl that flirts with him and I get jealous at some times. But at the age of 13 is a bit young and most relationships at that age wouldn't last that long. If you wanna go for it and just experience how it feels to be in a relationship, go ahead.

Answer 4

It's hard to respond to this, without offending you or being honest. So I'll try very hard to be respectful, which isn't in my nature, and isn't what most people will do. Recently (a few months back) I was dating a guy that would remind me of a relationship a tween would have. I know you're 13-ish, and tween is younger than you, but you should understand how odd our relationship was. We would pretty much just talk on the phone, about nothing, just what we did at school. We wouldn't go on dates, or hang out, we'd just talk on the phone. We tried to go out on dates, but they were always bad, now he's just a story I tell to people. The point is, don't try to grow up too soon, don't try to force the relationship, just accept that this is a part of your life you have to go through. Let me tell you about a recent relationship of mine; it was bad. My "boyfriend" was just as mature as my four-year-old niece, you get bad relationships all the time, when you get a good one, it seems to fit so well. At 13, every thing you do, to you is the most mature thing in the world, I look back at my 13 year-old self and think "What was I thinking?" If you like him, then just be his girlfriend, actually, ask him out or let him know you'd like to date him. My advice is just go with it.

Answer 5

You sound pretty mature for being13 actually.
Is the person is more than 2 years older than you (at your age anyway) don't bother. I've learned from experience that older men may seem like they would be more mature, but most if not all are worse than your age. Because they mainly want sex.

It depends on the person. & yes, at 13 most relationships, including friendships even are very immature & meaningless. but who knows, you might find someone who's just as mature as you.

Answer 6

Yea, don't get confused between 'having fun' and 'having a relationship.' I met my first husband at 15 -- that was way young. I met my second when I was 19 and though I am 25 and we are married now, I was still far too immature then (he's 10 years older than me and HE was too immature when we met.) There's plenty of time to get old & neurotic like everyone else -- just have fun now.

Answer 7

13, a nice age. Relationships at that age can be nice if you can keep it light and friendly. The problems seem to start when young people try to have adult relationships with all the problems that go along with adult relationships. But having relationships is a learn thing and you have to start sometime. But for my own kids, 16 is old enough.

Answer 8

Nurture a friendship, and let a relationship develop over time. Being 13 is complicated enough without adding this, and older guys will expect sex from you probably before you're ready for that. It's ver yhard at this age to even know who YOU are, and without that it's even harder to forge a bond with someone else.

Answer 9

I think you should wait a while (a few years). As young relationships dont work.
I suggest you enjoy you teenage years go out with your friends to the movies parks ect & have fun.
Its honestly not worth while starting a relationship at your age unless you can handle the pressure if it doesnt work out of a broken heart.
Live life while your still young & enjoy it.

Answer 10

Most of the time, relationships at that age don't last. If you go out, sure it'll be fun for a while but if anything happens and you two get separated, things will be different between you two. If you think it'll last or something, I guess you should go for it. Best of luck to you.