I was recently seeing this guy and I developed a lot of strong feelings for him. I loved him a lot and things fell apart. I just found out that he is seeing another girl. Talk about turning my stomach inside out. I know deep down inside that nothing was my fault. Everything was going wrong because of him. I was doing all the giving and he was doing all the taking. It hurts so bad when ever I think about the whole situation. I know that time is the only thing that can heel, but if there is anything else that might help heel my heart, I am open to suggestions. I just feel really miserable inside. Can someone please help me. I feel like dying. (not litterally). Thanks Coach.
2006-08-08 17:17:26 · 12 answers · asked by mistypisces 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
gotta love again
2006-08-08 17:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by uimblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has different ways of coping with relationships that end, but I still think the best way is talking to someone about it. When your heart is broken, you just can't keep it bottled up inside, you have to let it out. Some people like to busy themselves, but all they are doing is covering up the fact that they are hurt, and not dealing with it. Time will heal, sometimes faster than you think. Another thing is try to think of any bad things about the person, or something about them that maybe you didn't care for. You said that you were doing all the giving and he was doing all the taking, to me, that's not a relationship, that's using someone.
I know it's hard that you found out that he was seeing another woman, but that wasn't your fault, it was his. If he is the type to fool around on you, then you didn't want him anyway, right? Find a friend, talk to them, let yourself heal,then move on!
2006-08-09 00:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, Honey, there is no one stop problem solving shop for the broken heart. Your heart has to heal and that takes time.
You shouldn't worry about it. Spend time doing the things u love with the people u love.It may comfort u to know that he is a a jerk.(I could come up with words closer to what he is but it would be rude)
Some say the best way is to move on. Onething you must promise me is that u don't quit the field just because u struck out in the first inning.There is still 9 more innings for you to suceed in.
Good luck my darling,
my Prayers are with u.
2006-08-09 00:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by Justic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there was this woman who was married 33 years. she woke up one day and her husband told her it was over. Everything she had ever believed in vanished in a moment. she said the closest thing that came to describing it was a sudden death. The pain was so intense it took her breath away. When she got pass the hope of things returning to the way it was she began to find life was waiting for her. She decided that day that she had only one option. And she has lived by it ever since. " Life is sometimes hard and unbearable, but you can learn to roll with it or be rolled over by it. "
2006-08-09 00:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by the answers are there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im very sorry,, i know what your going through. going through it right now.. i was engaged we broke it off friday,,,, also married before he cheated on me several times... the onlly thing i can tell u is what has helped me so far this time and last time. Talking to friends,, not being alone staying busy.. Keep a journal of ur feelings thats has helped me alot just writing them down to get tehm off my chest....other then that just time,, i promise when u get over this u will be happy
2006-08-09 00:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by *tattooe chick*** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see myself in you because this happened to me in the past as well. At first I was hurt...it's normal to feel that way. In order to forget him I focused myself on things that I love doing the most. I invested on heavy shopping, spas, etc. I went out clubbing, shopping and we even went on vacation with my friends. We're actually on vacation when I met this guy whom I'm still with even up to now. I suggest you do the same..you should focus your attention on other things to help you not think of that j*rk! I suggest you go out on dates just to keep your options open. Dont think of that guy anymore, he's an id*0t, he doesnt deserve an amazing lady like you. ;)
2006-08-09 00:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by fashionista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've ben through all of that before and i knoe how u feel.. n yes time is the only things that can heel it.. but maybe you can try to go out with someone else just to see what happens and maybe you'll end up fallen for that guy. you never know.
2006-08-09 00:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to heal a broken heart is to love again.
2006-08-09 00:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Entertain yourself, get busy, do stuff you love to do. If you lay around and do nothing you'll just think about it more. Be positive and keep in mind that there's someone out there to love that who'll also love you back.
2006-08-09 00:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by blowmamind 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to get over a guy is a big bucket of chocolate fudge brownie ice cream and a spoon. Works for me anyway,
2006-08-09 00:23:33 · answer #10 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patiently wait. Time heals all wounds. Trust this truth.
2006-08-09 00:22:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋