We have been dating for two and a half years, and I love him. Sometimes when we fight, he says really hurtful things- by naming our friends that he thinks are better looking then me. I've never been so hurt in my life. But i always keep going back to him because I care so much. I really don't know what to do anymore, because I hate crying every night over him. After this, I just don't think I'm going to find a guy that will treat me right, because he has me thinking that there are so many things wrong with me. Please help- any advice would be great=(.
2006-08-08 17:03:34 · 7 answers · asked by Kale<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go to counseling. Block this guy's number and stop seeing him. You know what to do. You will find a better guy, but you need to feel better about yourself first.
2006-08-11 23:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by justaquestioner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I know how you feel sometimes me and my boyfriend go through the same things. We always almost breaking up but some how we always work through our problems. He can also say some hurtful things that really hurt me but I try not to let it get to me cuz deep down inside I know that he really cares even when he acts like he doesn't. After the arguing we will sometimes talk things out and thats when I ask him if really meant what he said but he always tells me no I was just mad. If you trust your bf you will believe that when he says it. I used to hate crying over him too. I had to call on some of my friends a help and advice. They always made me feel better in the situation, but you can't let him make you feel like your not attracted enough to get another guy, I'm sure you are capable of gettin someone else who likes you for you and doesn't make you feel like you are nothing. It may be a little childish but if it makes you feel better tell him that some of his friends look better than him, but if you wanna be mature about talk to him and ask him what he really wants out of the relationship. Tell him what could happen if he keeps makin you feel this way(he might loose you). I know it might hurt to let him go but if thats what you think is beat for you then you should think about it. Alos you might want to ask yourself do you really want to be with him and what you want outta the relationship.
2006-08-09 00:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got out of a relationship that was very similar to yours. I stayed around, for about a year, through all the verbal abuse an put-downs. But since I stuck around, it turned into physical abuse and I have scars that will remind me of him for the rest of my life
SO GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP...NOW...RIGHT NOW!
I know that it will be hard but be strong. Don't talk to him at all...that's the only way that you will get over him completely. You are beautifully and wonderfully made and another guy will come along and treat you a lot better...like the princess that you are!
2006-08-09 00:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by •°o.O(epiitome•of•beauty)O.o°• 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't cry for a guy that make you feel bad about your self. I think you could do better then that. You should be with someone who knows how to treat you right
2006-08-09 00:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by brokenintears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how hard it is when you are in a relationship and feeling very unloved and pretty much abused.......it happened to me with my boyfriend of 2 years as well. He pretty much verbally and emotionally abused me and for a good part of the last year we were together I spent it crying over him and how hurt I was. In the end I walked out and never looked back and Im going to tell you its the best thing I ever did for myself. Was it easy? No, I dont think its ever easy to walk away from someone you love or think you love, but you do get stronger as time goes on.
This boyfriend of yours has you beaten down so far that you have no self esteem and only a coward does that to another human being......why do they do it? because they want to be in control and know as long as they can beat you down you might not have the strength to leave and make something of yourself and your life......he is miserable and wants you to be miserable honey, but you deserve a heck of alot better than what you are getting and are worth so much more than you even realize.
You are to good for this loser and he knows it. God Loves YOU and wants you to know that you are not worthless....In God's eyes you are a rare jewel a precious treasure and you are beautiful to Him.......dont let anyone tell you otherwise.......You are beautiful and you are God's child........He created you, knows you, and knows the plans He has for you and those plans arent to have you hurting and crying, but instead they are to prosper you and for you to have a joyful life.
As hard as it is you need to walk away from this man and this time for good. There is no going back.......you need to break away from him and his abusive ways for good. You cant live life in a depression and crying all the time..... its not good for you at all. I know you cant turn your feelings off like a light switch but you can take the steps to get over this man and move on with your life and in time you will see that it does get easier and that you are far better off without him.
You said you feel as if there is noone out there that will treat you right......Im here to tell you that God has a man picked out for you no matter what that so called boyfriend of yours says........God has picked out a man for you and after you let yourself heal from all the hurt you have been handed from this man the right one will come into your life. A man that knows how to treat you right with respect and love and dignity....that will cherish you. A man that wont call you names or put you down.
You deserve to be happy and have a man like that and you shouldnt settle for less than the best. There is a song by Carrie underwood that says " I guess its gonna hurt, I guess im gonna have to cry and let go of some things ive loved to get to the other side, I guess its gonna bring me down like fallin when you're tryin to fly, its sad but sometimes movin on with the rest of your life starts with goodbye..........yes, it will hurt and yes you will cry but why not start the rest of your life now and walk away from this person and get to the other side where you can start fresh and new.......in the end you will have your self respect, and dignitity back........you will in time be able to hold our head high once again.
Be proud of who you are and remember God loves YOU!! Good luck and i will be praying for you.
2006-08-09 01:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by wendyceline2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk and believe me once you start going out ...you won't even remember him...He is a jerk from the word go and you would do yourself a huge favor by leaving him...Been there and it only gets worse.
2006-08-09 00:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard but you just have to stop. And I know you can't just stop loving someone but you can stop showing it. Just walk away.
2006-08-09 00:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋