2006-08-08 16:55:41 · 10 answers · asked by collegebound1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now thats really a question u have to ask yourself is ther something that your doing or saying to these guys. For an example that was me once until i realized why guys were hurting me is because I actually allowed them. By trying to get them to like me by buying them gifts and they took my kindness for weakness. When all along they really did like me untill they saw that weakness, that weakness was lack of confidence. So remember if you are not confident a guy will notice that and use it against you.
2006-08-08 17:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're getting something out of it. I know that's harsh but would you keep putting your hand on a hot stove if you got burned the first time you did it?Of course not. Consider that saying you keep getting hurt let's you off the hook in some way. Maybe you don't have to be responsible for always picking jerks. In the landmark forum, a course I took 3 and a half years ago, they call this a...Just go to www.landmarkeducation.com and browse the site. If any of it clicks for you, take the program, you won't regret it.
2006-08-08 17:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by Don Ricardo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate when people ask such a general question, & expect honest answers without any detail.
Anyway, stop letting yourself be a victim. Don't let them get to you that much anymore. Learn from it & move on. If you let them hurt you, then it's going to be a cycle.
Break it & stand up for yourself & not take any of the crap.
2006-08-08 17:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are dumping your feelings on them and expecting them to return those feelings.
Maybe you are getting too emotionally invested in guys you don't know all that well.
Maybe you are expexting them to be responsible for your happiness. They are NOT. YOU ARE responsible for your happiness. No one elae wants that responsibility.
Maybe you are expecting them to be what you want, falling for the illusion, and then finding out who they really are, and being disappointed....
The common denominator is YOU.
What behaviors, expectations or thoughts did you have in common with each time you were hurt?
Maybe you are too needy and desperate.
DESPERATION IS UNATTRACTIVE, and
NEEDINESS SUCKS THE LIFE OUT OF PEOPLE.
Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Nobody owes you anything, even if you give them everything. So don't give them everything. Make them earn it.
2006-08-08 17:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a good person? That could be why. People tell me all the time that I get hurt because I have such a caring and sensitive heart.
2006-08-08 17:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you keep letting them hurt you
2006-08-08 17:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its the guys and not you. If you are college bound then focus on that and do not even worry about guys and dating---have fun!!
2006-08-08 17:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the hell kind of question is this???? have you looked in the mirror??? perhaps your just ugly or have an incapability of kepping a relationship?
2006-08-08 17:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by Dimond eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because u let urself
2006-08-08 17:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by sexy luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could you elaborate??? what do you mean?
2006-08-08 16:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋