Do you think it is too soon for me and my husband to have another child?

Question

My husband and I are 18. He is in a mechanic in the Army and I am a CNA. We are financially comfortable. We have had full costudy of my 16 year old sis for a year now. We also have a daughter together, which we planned. She is 6 months old. We have had a very stable relationship for four years. Do you think that it is too soon to plan for another child? Neither of us ever had any family and we want to create our own.

Yes, my husband and I have discussed this.

Answer 1

As long as you're mentally and financially stable, I don't think it's too soon. My older son was only 6 months old when I became pregnant with his little brother. (They're 16 months apart in age.) The pregnancy was uneventful, albeit I was more tired during my second pregnancy...mainly because I had an infant to care for. :)

It was very rough at first after my second son was born. I have a newborn PLUS a 16 month old who didn't understand who this new little screaming person was that was commanding most of mommy's attention. (He was starting his terrible twos, too...) Twice as many diapers to change, twice as much laundry, etc. Plus, I work full time. Now that they're a little older (29 months and 13 months) and my younger son has recently started walking, they're quickly becoming best friends. Neither of my kids were planned, but I'm glad it worked out this way. :) As long as you're able to support them fully and in all aspects, I say go for it!

Answer 2

I think if you ever want to travel, see the worls, go to concerts, or just go to the grocery store without stress than wait a little while. Trust me if your daughter is only 6 months old, then you have yet to experience a shopping nightmare with a 4 year old and a 3 year old. You can have all the financial stability in the world, but it won't change the way 2 year olds throw fits in the middle of the cereal isle. Enjoy just having one child, and spend every moment laughing and loving her, then when she's a little older, maybe 3 or 4 then start planning on another. Mine are 18 months apart, and man it is hard!!!! they fight over every little thing. boy and girl. so good luck.

Answer 3

The only person who can really answer this is you...well and your husband. Have you discussed it? I'd say you are fairly young and have a lot of time. You also have a very young child at home that you should take the time to enjoy before you have another one.

You do seem very level headed and it is great that you guys are so stable and well off financially at such a young age. That is great for you!

My first reaction is to wait awhile longer. Enjoy your 6 month old. Bond, etc. There is plenty of time to have another. BUT it really depends on you guys and what you want. Talk to your husband.

I think for you guys things will work out no matter what you decide. Good luck.

Answer 4

I would wait a year or two before having another baby. Take it from me, I have been there, done that and wished I would've waited a little bit longer. I don't regret my kids though for nothing in the world. I have three boys whom I spaced a few years apart. When my last son was barely 3 months old, I got pregnant again and was blessed with a girl. I did not give myself enough time to heal. Plus, to make matters worse, I had c-sections with all the boys and knew I was having another one with my last child, a daughter. I had complications most of my last pregnancy and was admitted to the hospital for testing and observation almost every week in my last month and a half of pregnancy due to pre-eclampsia and chronic high blood pressure. My baby was born 7 weeks early at 33 weeks gestation and spent 3 weeks in ICU. It was hard to leave my baby behind when I left the hospital after delivering her. I cannot have anymore children due to my thin uterus. Another reason my baby was born that early is because my placenta had aged prematurely and started calcifying. My daughter was 3 lbs 10 ozs and 16 inches long. I think you will lessen your chances of complications in your next pregnancy if you wait a little longer. My last two are 11 months apart ages 23 months and 12 months. If you know like I know, you'd take my advice.

Answer 5

My personal experience was about 3 days before my oldests 1st birthday I found out I was pregnant, so when he was about 20 months old the second child was born. If I were you I would wait a little while longer (say untill your first child is 2) so that you can enjoy and fully experience her for now. Another baby right now would add alot of stress and take away from all those first milestones for you other child. You are so young, you have plenty of time ahead of you to have more children.

Answer 6

of course if you are both ready and happy to have another one.
my fiance and i have been together for almost 3 years we were meant to get married last year but i fell pregnant now my son is 8 months old and i am 6 months pregnant again, this pregnancy wasnt planned and i wasn't ready for another one. but now i am happy and i cannot wait, i thinkits a good thing to have childeren close in age because i have a sis 2 years younger and then a bro 14 years after that so i know the difference between ages. my sister and i fought but we are best friends we grew up together, my brother who 14 years younger than me had it a bit harder we didnt understand eachother because he was so "young" and i wanted to go out to the movies, if you know what im trying to say. although it might be tough if you guys are happy,able, and willing i can't see why not. go for it good luck....

Answer 7

Well your baby is only 6 months old I would give some more time so you can take time with you baby now before you have another one and it might be good that you wait until your baby is around 1 or 2 good luck

Answer 8

If you feel you are ready, you don't need our ok. Everyone thought I was crazy to have my two 2yrs. apart. I wouldn't have it any other way. Remember in a few years your sister will be off to college, so it will be just the four of you. good luck and best wishes to you and your family

Answer 9

I think I would wait at least until my child was 1 years old. But that's just my opinion.

Answer 10

I would wait you are 18 you have plenty of time. I would wait until your baby is at least 2, there for your not stress of changing two sets of diapers.