i just started a jod where i'm one of the few white people (i know you may think that's wierd but it's true) but i'm not racist. but i also know that i don't fit in and i want to make friends. how do i go about that without coming across too (i don't know how to phrase it).
i don't want people to make fun of me. i'm more shy than anything else but i can't afford to lose this job. i want to be excepted and not have everyone thinking i'm being nice just because they are a different race. i want to be taken seriously. i'm a very nice person and i want people to see me as i truly am.
what can i do to make friends without offending anyone.
2006-08-08 16:43:31 · 7 answers · asked by storm_magus3 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
oooops i missed spelled "job"
2006-08-08 16:44:01 · update #1
I kinda know how you feel...i moved 3 yrs ago to a highly different cultured city and had to learn to adapt to succeed. I think one way to help make friends is to show interest in there cultures. ie. foods, language, comment of their accents and ask questions about them. You might learn something and make friends while doing so...
2006-08-08 16:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am half african american and chinese and I really don't know what your problem is, if there is one at all.You already had this prenotion in your head how the so called "black man" is, so that was your first impression of them.Pure psycology.We are not mean people at all if you can look at us as being people maybe you just might see a person.And please, just because I said it is pure psycology, do not try and psycho-analyze another human being.I personaly find that very disrespectfull.Just talk to your co workers as if they are your new co workers.It is just like moving to a new job, school , or city.You have to get acustomed.It can't be that hard.When it comes to peace, does color really matter.If you want them to be your friends, then try and be thier friends.It is not that difficult.We may come off loud, but that is naturaly inherint(I don't even know if I spelled that correct) in us.But if you come off as a bigot, you can call it a day.And if you never really knew any "black" people before this job.It can be a real eye opening experience for you.And not all "black" people are the same just as it is not all caucasions are the same.You might make some really close friends out of this job.Hope this helped.BYE LOVE!
2006-08-09 00:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mitchell B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you would think you would offend them. I think you are just overthinking the situation, thus freaking yourself out. Calm down, take a deep breath, drink some Starbucks, and walk into work with a smile on your face. Be yourself, use manners like your mommy taught you (hopefully) and everything should be fine. You should want to try to be friends with everyone no matter what. Whether they were all white, black, Asian, whatever. I don't think these people would ever see you as racist unless you purposely did something to offend them like a racist joke or something. And since you sound like a nice, normal, thinking person I doubt you would do that. Good luck and just be cool.
2006-08-09 00:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to substitute some other appearance feature into your question and see how much sense it makes.
Let's say that you just started a job and you are the only short person there. Others are tall. You don't want them thinking that you are being friendly just because they are tall or you don't want to offend them with your shortness even though you don't fit in.
You wouldn't hesitate for a moment, nor would you expect them to think that you are thinking about height. Be friendly, you are the only one who knows you are thinking about ethnicity. People are people and unless they are raging racists they won't care what race you are. You shouldn't be so self conscious about your race or theirs. If you don't care about race, they will be fine with you. If you walk on eggshells they'll get the idea that you are uncomfortable with people of a different race.
2006-08-09 00:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by thatguyjoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends of all different ethnicities. I don't find it hard to look past the color of someone's skin, and I treated them as I would treat any of my white friends when I met them.
Just be yourself. Nobody is going to be suspicious of you talking to someone of a different race. As long as you show that you are comfortable around them, becoming friends will be easy.
2006-08-08 23:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself...honestly, i know it seems too simple, but that should basically do it. befriend the people in the same way u would to anyone else. if all of this doesn't work, well maybe u wouldn't to be friends with them in the first place if they don't accept u and all. hopefully this helps.
2006-08-08 23:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by lalala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be yourself, and stop trying to please everybody. They probably don't think you are racist or anything just because you are a different race than them. Don't let it bother you. Just be your sweet little self, and smile, smile, smile! Everything will be fine.
2006-08-08 23:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by save_me_now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋