well, here it goes...
i used to hang out with this guy. i mean, we used to send messages, talk on the phone, and not to mention we were schoolmates during high school. we used to "click" a lot.
things came worse when summer came, we will be on college after 2 months. we didnt have constant communication. we sent messages only about once in 2 weeks. and it was far normal than we used to.
not to mention, when it comes to this love thingy, i am a bit of "with pride". if he doesnt send me a message, then i wont bother to send him too. well, dont blame me. i had been that one since i was young.
now, we are in college (in different universities), and it seems that when we talk or send messages (which happens about only once a month), i feel real awkward. it's as if the "chemistry" is turning worse every day.
however, when we dont have this communication, i feel bad. i blame myself for what ive done wrong. i miss him. yet when he's around, i feel the opposite.
help!advice pls
2006-08-08 16:30:01 · 30 answers · asked by tweetytweety 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you guys are in college. He is probably very busy. Besides i think that he wants to talk to you its just that he has a lot of things to do in college. College is a busy time in the human cycle. He still cares about you that is why he still sends you letters. dont worry. it'll be fine. Maybe you can visit him.. like a surprise.
2006-08-08 16:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by ♥uR mY eVeRyThInG♥ 3 · 11⤊ 7⤋
Hi Twinkle!
First of all don't blame yourself . You are both going through a major change in your life . It is the first time you will be truly free and on your own. I imagine that this is a little heady for him as well when you were together before it was safe and easy because you both had your friends your parents and school as anchors now he has so many new experiences and new people to meet as well as school and possibly a job he might have dated some and feels a little awkward because even though you were not boyfriend and girlfriend you had a connection together the best thing to do is lighten up send him friendly IM's just to see how he's doing and when the time is right and you can talk face to face you can figure out together what your relationship is.
2006-08-08 16:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by magicboi37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT TO BE judgemental, but I'm afraid this "relationship was too "comfertable" to you... Maybe now you've met some people and or found some new interests that he can't relate to anymore. I think you're bond with him is like a shared interest pen pal type thing and now that you've bothe gotten to where you wanted to be back then, you're not "connecting" anymore. It's entirely possible that he feels the awkwardness and doesn't have the heart to mention it to you either. Good luck.
2006-08-08 16:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by crazygreeniis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. if u really love this guy, then stay together and try to see each other more, and talk on the phone, or watever more, or schedule a day where u guys can spend the whole day together. talking about ur relationship or watever u want to talk about.! and u should also try a little bit more, on the communication, and so should he....if theres no chemistry break it off, but the only thing that leads to no chemistry is no commmunication!
2006-08-08 16:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I don't think hes just a friend in your heart. Tell him how you feel. You know when people move away they drift away. Send e-mails text messages call him!!! Don't let him get away. When you're so far apart drifting away is easy to do. You both have new and different friends, busy schedules, and a lot more. Swallow your pride and call him. You'll feel better if you do.
2006-08-08 16:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by sj830 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to hear this but sometimes people who thought that their relationship was for ever, end up just being good friends.
You are young so if this happens, please do not allow this to ruin your life.
Start enjoying yourself, you are only young once and collage should be a time of happiness.
2006-08-08 16:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by PGBISME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all i can say is i been in a relationship kinda of like yours but if you feel like you are falling out of love with him and you blame yourself for it and it is not your fought you tried to make it work but with me i broke because i felt like i could not trust him so thats what happpened to me im not saying that will happen to you .
P.S word of advice follow your heart
2006-08-08 16:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a newer way of comunication only send him a card on christmas or something talk about what is really there and that if you are friends you may have times to visit and talk but today your life is way busy and need more for time/space for that
2006-08-08 16:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you call him and have a proper conversation. Its hard to keep a friendship just through messages. also accept that you are probabaly both a lot more busier now that you are in collage
2006-08-08 16:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"well, dont blame me. i had been that one since i was young."
we had something in common,why don't you suprise him a visit like some comments did told. a friendly visit and see if he's seen somebody else it for your own too,you have so much to expect to him,what if he seen someone and your just a little sister to him.sometime being investigative is not harmful,so go on!!!!
gud luck!!!!
2006-08-08 16:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no worry! you`ll find a guy and he will find a girl and everyone will be happy! you`ll see. it`s a phase..won`t be the last guy you send messages to and miss! if it is something real then something will happen if not it won`t and don`t worry about it!
forget the GUILT!!! life is short! live well!!
2006-08-08 16:39:50 · answer #11 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋