Please help me, I don't know what to do!!! I am 21 years old and my little sister is 14. She has always looked up to me as a role model and she totally trusts me with her secrets, but now she has told me that she started having sex and she doesn't want me to tell our mom. I really dont know what to do. I don't want to get her in trouble by telling Mom, but I need to something. What should I do???
2006-08-08 16:26:48 · 22 answers · asked by sweet_and_lovable1985 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Explain to her that if she gets caught, her boyfriend will go to jail for statutory rape, and there is NOTHING she will be able to say or do to save him. He will be labeled a pedophile for the rest of his life. He will be hounded and harassed, he will be unable to live anywhere nice, and be unable to land a decent job.
If she cares for him, does she really want to put him at risk like that? If she doesn't care, why is she having sex with him?
2006-08-08 16:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jay S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she shouldn't be having sex in the first place, but because she is, you should tell her about birth control, condoms and the cons about having sex like getting pregnant or getting stds. The right thing would be to tell you mom but then she probably won't trust you ever again and if you were in her shoes you probably wouldn't want anyone telling your mom you were having sex too. Just be a good role model and try to tell her to stop, or at least be safe when having sex.
2006-08-08 23:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by sweet gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with your sister and tell her all the consequnces about having sex and if she had a child at this age not only is she screwed for life but theres not turning back what if she had sex with some random guy and had an std and if she doesnt listen to you then, then theres no other choice then to tell your mom but talk to your mom about it first like to bring up the subject say mom my best friends sister is having sex and she doesnt know what to do about it her little sister trusts her with all her secrets then take your advice from your mom and be like shes not really my best friends sister its my sister and see what happens then (thats only if the chat with your sister doesnt go well)
2006-08-09 01:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by ♥◦◊◦Brown eyed babe◦◊◦♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are in a bad position but its like you want your siter to trust you but then what happened if she gets pregnant your mom going to find out soon? So i think you should buy condoms for your sister and tell her she really need to tell mom and too youg for her age to have sex she could get a diease . If your tell your mom your sister might be mad and not trust you But, let say she pregnant she ?It would be good your mom can help.Follow your heart hope I helped out!!!
2006-08-08 23:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by tweetyladyc1029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are 21 and I'm going to take your word on this. You need to help your sister out very badly. You didn't say if you had kids your self or not. But I would set her down and let her know the TRUTH about girls having sex at that age. If she was to get pregnant at that age, her life is screwed! Let her know all the horrors about the STD that comes with having sex. If you have to tell mom so be it. She don't need to be having sex that young at all. Please try to talk her out of it. Also let her know that she is going to get a name for her self that she is not going to like, you know, s***, w****,t**** etc.
2006-08-08 23:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey she has done it anyway so the best thing for u to do is to inform her as much as possible about STD's and contraception.and various methods of using contraception.In fact take her shopping with u and spend some time searching for good quality stuff. instead of relying on guys to use contraception its better she has contraceptions on her own.And the last of all to avoid STD's.
its always better such things your mom knows so that she is not out of loop when u are sister has problems and she is not in a position to help as she knows about this matter.
2006-08-09 02:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by chocolate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell because then shes going to lose confidence on you forever. The truth always comes out no matter what trust me. For the meanwhile just tell her to have safe sex
2006-08-08 23:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by Juan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her by the hand over to your nearest Planned Parenthood office so she can get correct information on birth control. Also, if you live in a state where you can go to the doctor without the parents having to be in on it, she should also see him/her so she can have safe sex, and be knowledgeable.
Tell her not to spread out just to say she is having sex, but to save it for people who really care for her.
2006-08-08 23:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by busybody12 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she isnt getting hurt yet. if u really dont feel right telling your mom then u should make sure u explain to her about protection and risks and etc so she understands fully what she is putting herself at risk for and etc. if that doesnt work and u feel she is going to get in trouble or hurt then take action. if u need anything else let me know
2006-08-08 23:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your sister and tell her the consequences of having sex - pregnancy, and what it can do to her future (basically ruin it).
Sexually transmitted diseases. - spell out everything that you know about the different diseases including HIV and AIDS.
Scare the H-ll out of her.
Tell her if she doesn't keep her legs closed you will have no alternative but to tell your mother so she can be closely watched
2006-08-08 23:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by older woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋