This afternoon i broke the news to my parents that im pregnant(im 16), when will they stop being pissed?

Question

They just keep telling me I ruined my life, that i can say goodbye to school and college. That its the worse thing i could of done. That Im on my own, they aren't gonna help at all. I now its just the initial shock of it, but when will it stop? (and my boyfriend is staying with me and doing whatever he can to help)

I didn't mean staying with me like living, i just ment that he's not gonna break up with me over this. But either way, my parents don't want me seeing him.

They did really tell me it was ruined, not changed-RUINED.
And this crap about abortion, i would never do it, so don't even mention it. It my boyfriend's and my mistake, i wouldn't kill and innocent unborn baby for our mistake.

Answer 1

Keep in mind that they're just upset, because they love you. They wanted better for you. But on a lighter note, you don't have to say goodbye to school and college. I have 3 children and go to school full time. Do whatever you can, to not have to rely on your boyfriend. Because he is young. You have to think about yourself and that baby. Good Luck!

Take Care

Answer 2

Being pregnant, you probably have already experienced the feeling that you are going to protect that precious baby no matter what. (Your parents felt the same way.) But, while raising this baby you will make all kinds of mistakes (they don't come with manuals) such as giving a bottle too warm or too cold, accidentally clipping the tip of the finger while trimming their nails (that was the worse), throwing the ball too hard, ect.... Well, your parents had just breathed a sign of relief not too long ago thinking that the hardest part was over and they had taught you to make smart decisions.... Well. you made a mistake and they are taking it personally. Your parents love you with all their heart. I am glad you realize that it's just the shock. You are going to have it rough, they are right about that, but your life isn't ruined. You can still finish school and go to college. Lucky for millions of young mothers, there has been millions of young mothers before you who also made the wrong choice. There are programs put in place to help you overcome that bad decision. I don't want it to sound like I am against this... Babies are a gift from God at any mothers age. Keep that in mind, God is trusting you with one of his most precious gifts.... Scary, huh? Mom and Dad will come around, you can totally depend on them, Boyfriend... well, just keep your mind open to single parenting ;-) Good luck and God Bless you!!!

Answer 3

It may be the shock and maybe not. If they are serious... don't worry about it. Having a baby without your parents' support is difficult but far from impossible. I also had a child at a young age and have sinced finished high school and am now in college. Next stop: University baby! Even if the baby daddy turns out to be like most men these days n jumps ship don't worry about that either baby doll. You do what you gotta do for you and your own. Your parents will probably come around when they figure out your serious about this child. Good luck sweetie.

Answer 4

You sincerely can't expect your parents to be thrilled that their underage child is pregnant. That said, your life isn't ruined-drastically changed, yes, ruined, no. To start with, there's absolutely no reason why you can't finish school. You're not the first girl this has happened to, and your high school will work with you to help you manage the details. Hopefully, your parents will calm down after the initial shock has worn off, and will maybe help you with their grandchild. However, don't expect to have a social life like your 16 year old friends. You're a mom, and that child comes first, meaning say goodbye to going to the mall after school, going to the movies, grabbing a bite to eat at a restaurant-that part of your life is now done. You need to act like an adult now, and once your parents see that you're making plans to continue your education, that might help your situation.

Good luck!

Answer 5

when my sister fell pregnant at 16 i was more angry than my parents, now she is 20 and she is still with the father and they couldnt be happier she really has proved that she can be a good mum even if she was young.
your parents are right when they say you are young, and u will be suprised at just how hard it can be, to be a parent. your parents will come around eventually maybe not until the baby is here and they can see him/her, i think your parents just had their own thoughts on what they wanted your life to turn out to be like and when it didnt happen that way they were upset with them selves.
it will all be ok in the end you'll see. if your mum and dad arent there for you right now, make sure your boyfriend is. or his parents, you will need adice along the way. you will be ok so will they in time.

Answer 6

that's why they invented earplugs and your parents are not smart and not totally right.
Of course you are young and you life is going to change, when you had normal parents there would be more possibilities but OK, they are not rational and conservative it seems.
You can still go to school and college, you're not the only one there probably that has a child.
Your boyfriend is helping you, that's great, he shows responsibility.
After some time and when you have the baby, your parents, specially your mother will change a bit.


About the additional details I just saw, well, if they don't want you to see your boyfriend is a big mistake from them, I know, seen these things before.
Maybe your parents need to talk with some rational people that know more things about these situation, assuming you want to keep your baby of course.

Answer 7

IT will stop. they will be dissapointed for a while. Not because they are pissed, but because they are worried about you. They wanted the best for you: college, a great life. They are going to love this baby; it is their grandchild. There is nothing more special than that. BUT they were hoping you could take better care of it when you had it, and they were hoping that you wouldn't give up the dreams of becoming successful. Having a good job and home for your child is what he deserves in his life.

AND raising a child as a teenager, you are soon going to find out is VERY difficult. Even worse than you imagined.

Your parents will help you out though. They love you.

Answer 8

Cogz, you mentioned "mum"? I take it you're from England someplace? Yeah, you have have been given a seize 22 subject. i think of your mom and pa will nonetheless love you, yet there will be a sprint lag time there, on that love stuff? You asked for some low-fee "techniques" on breaking the information, top? Write your mom a notice explaining each and every thing. positioned it in an envelope. whilst your mom is basically observing television or in spite of, tell your mom you have something had to declare contained in the envelope. leave it on the table by utilising the door, and tell each and every physique you would be back in a nil.5 hour or so. stay long previous for roughly an hour. once you come again, countless the steam would have blown off?? Like somebody mentioned, you are going to ought to, at last??

Answer 9

i not in for the points (but here goes)
on behalf of parents
you have not just ruined your life but also in some way, your parents
how and why? well, they brought you up, fed you and gave you a shelter (are you feeling guilty yet) over your head, short of sending you to school - to be educated ...and did you not
learn that by having sex (your chances of getting pregnant is .....or not only did ruin your parents life BUT is your bf with you, your bf's parents - but if he is not getting the '!@#$%^ from his parents' ............all the best.
anyway (just hope he is 21 years old) ...
consulation ...the worst is yet to come.

...this is not the worst thing you could have done ... the worst hasn't come yet ...maybe you should THINK - HOW YOU GONNA tell the little one.
hmmmm ... put yourself in your parents shoes, like to know how you can help
BEG for Forgiveness (and) if you don't get it
BEG again
i hope you will get it)
just like all the many young teens having sex , the thought of getting pregnant never got to their minds -only after 'the action' has subsided. Oh is your bf is reading this too. may i be honest ... the 'pissing' is not going to stop ... relatives haven't got to hear it yet, your friends, it is like a korean serial movie' ... you see it wont stop because you both started it.

(Parents never told their children to 'try sex' and see if you can get pregnant)
well, can only wish you and yr bf
courage and strength for speaking up.
Now your on your own.
GOOD Luck

Answer 10

back up the cart... you're 16 and your boyfriend is living with you?

pregnancy at your age IS about the worst thing you could have done! trust me, it's not just an initial shock your parents are going through. i got pregnant at 17 and it made my life a living hell. i kept the baby and that made me a social outcast and made all of my goals and dreams disappear. think about all of your options. i was a senior in high school and STILL had a hard time keeping up with school work when i had to work so much to raise my new kid. respect your parents and their feelings... this is going to be REALLY hard on them! my parents didn't speak to me for my entire pregnancy and kicked me and the baby out when he was 3 months old (a couple of days after i graduated).

Answer 11

I am sure they are disappointed as they had certain hopes and dreams for you which have now been greatly changed. However you can make of your life whatever you want. My parents had me @ 16 my mother has a college degree and my father has 2 masters (both dropped out of high school) I am now 34 and we have a great relationship so things can work out if your determination is there....good luck and hang in there.