Question of a single dad to women - Children come first right?

Question

I am involved in a long distance relationship after years of divorce..and told my g/f that it would be different this time
compared to when we dated in the past .. that i had a daughter
and that she'd be my one and only care in the world ..that she
would have to understand this .. she said yes .. yet to make
a long story short .. twice she has gotten upset about my
decisions which would benefit my daughter in the end..

The last time we had an argument was that i wanted to
try to get into a tourism college (im 29 btw) and that i've
decided to cut off internet to concentrate completely on
it and complete the training since it would be full time
monday to friday morning to afternoon and as we all
know .. student life is expensive right? and she got
upset with me .. that's the third time already ...i do care
about my g/f and her feelings but she refuses to understand
that better education means i can provide for my daughter
better...

What's your opinion?
Thanks! ^_^

Answer 1

Hello. I am 30, and a single dad to 2 boys. I am going back to college and doing what's best for the kids. Anybody who has come into my life I have made it clear as plexiglass that the boys come first. It can be a hard decision to make. But think about it. How many sacrifices have we made for our children already? Why should we stop for someone that may or may not be in our lives in a month, 6 months, whatever. We would have more regret if years later our children felt second best to some girl we haven't even seen in 10 years, ya know? Soldier on young man. YOU ARE doing the right thing. Trust me. IF she's not the right one, so be it. There will be others. If she doesn't understand, she's not the right one, anyways. Good luck.

Answer 2

Wow, do you have a lot of (Hot) irons in the fire- so to speak. Young man, your plate is full. A long- distance relationship is really really hard. Hell, any relationship is at least stressful sometimes. You have a daughter which is a huge responsibility and now full time education. Well NEWS FLASH You are on overload. There are only so many hours in a day to go to school, work, study-- and where is the time your daughter needs. I had 2 girls They need a lot of attention and care. Your girlfriend is upset because I think she see the Internet as a way of staying in close contact with you. You have to understand that is her connection and cutting that off is like shutting the door in her face. IF you think you can keep up with all these areas of your life and you want to continue with her, then you need to reassure her. Honestly, I don't see where you could possibly find the time to give it a decent shot. Sorry. A relationship deserves more. Maybe at another time in your life, you will be able to pursue this area of your life, I wish you well in all you do.

Answer 3

It's hard to feel like you are competing with anyone for your man's attention and love. I think you're right to do what you're doing, but it won't be easy to find a woman who will really truly accept it in her heart. Do what you can to make her understand that you care for her as well as your child, but also remember that if you stick to your guns that you will maybe break up. Sometimes that's the price you will pay for having your priorities straight. It will take some strength to be able to keep your resolve, but real life and real love sometimes involves sacrifices. I hope that you can find someone who understands that you are a better man for this and will love you more for what you will do for your child rather than loving you less.

Answer 4

If she is that inmature you dont need her. Some women are very jealous of men children from previous relationships. You ahve to focus on bettering your life and your daughters life. If she is so inmature that she get mad over little things, what will happen when life really misses up? You need to have someone that is caring, loving, honest, trustworthy, kid-friendly and most of all that supports the decisions that you make. I would not bother her a few days and let her think. Focus on your goals! It will better your life and your child's life. The Best of luck.

Answer 5

you sound like a pretty devoted father, which is great your girlfriend on the other hand sounds a bit selfish and she's obviously not a parent or she would understand. I know that a girls relationship with her father prepares her for every relationship she'lll ever have and if you give her your time and attention, she'll except nothing but that from any man she's with , she'll have love and self-respect and she won't forget the sacrifices you made for her. Dump your girlfriend, you only have one daughter.

Answer 6

first of all your girlfriends need to understand that your child comes first. and if she can't understand that then she needs to move on. you have a child to raise and make a better life for her. but you do have to pay attention to your girlfriend also. i am in a long distance relationship also. i meet my bf, seven years ago and he had to move up north and he has a 12 year old son and he puts him before me. at first i got upset but i understand know. my bfs speeds Lot of time with me and him and we have a good time. he told me straight up his son will always comes first. i love my bfs very much. we see each other when we can. we talk all the time on the net. so your gf has to understand what you are trying to do. if she don't understand then you need to move on. i hope this helps.

Answer 7

Ur daughter will alwayz come 1st no matter what . Shez ur blood and ur gf haz 2 understand that if she wants 2b with u . Good luck and do whats best 4u and ur daughter

Answer 8

YOUR KID COMES FIRST
if my dad chose to have a girlfriend over being a dad for me i would be so ****** pissed! kids come first. how do you know your relationship with this women will even last?? think 5 years into the future. you will always have your daughter, but will that women always be there for you? hmmm? think about that? and ask your daughter how she feels about this women. kids. come. first.

Answer 9

I think the kids definitely come first.

I just ended a relationship because he didn't like that my daughter comes first.

Good luck to you!

Answer 10

if she can't understand that you are trying to do something to better yourself and your child then maybe you can see that she is just selfish, if she can't understand that you are trying to have your daughter's and your best interest at heart then maybe she's not the one.