Do you ever get the feeling that you want to screem, punch someone in the face, cry? What do you do about it?

Question

Don't say take pamprin, or anything female related. I am talking a non-hormonal bad day. A day when you want to punch your boss in the face b/c you don't know how she got to where she is by being so stupid. A day where you have to repeat to your fiance 10-20 times everything you say. I mean a BAD day!
What do you do to unwind? Let go of the stress and the pain? What do you do to let it all go and put it behind you, because we all know letting it eat on you is unhealthy? How do you keep your self from gouging your eyes out when people make crappy/mean comments or bring them to task on it, (because they are your co-workers and you could lose your job for doing what you really want... like kicking them really hard in the shins.)

What do you do to alleviate stress, and get over a bad day so you can face the next with a smile?

Answer 1

First of all make sure you get plenty of sleep and some exercise. If you aren't rested you aren't as able to deal with issues as they arise. If you are tired all the time your brain is operating at a slower speed and your wits just aren't there so you can end up being reactive in potentially negative circumstances. If you are rested and alert you will find it easier to blow things off. Most things aren't really that big of a deal. They are just a big deal if you allow them to be. Focus on things that are important. Tell yourself you're glad that you're not stupid like your boss. Actually your boss may not be so dumb. It could be that you aren't thinking clearly because you're tired. Maybe tomorrow will be better. There is no reason to think that just because you had a bad day today that tomorrow will be also. Hope you have a better day tomorrow.

Answer 2

I think walking is excellent. Not only does it set a calming rhythm in your body but it gets the oxygen flowing in your body. When you brisk walk for more than 20 minutes at a continuous pace, you start focusing on your walking and breathing rhythm and you mind clears up automatically. Plus, if you walk outdoors, you get more pure oxygen into your blood stream and eventually to your brain. This helps the natural flow in your body. Also, the feel of the air brushing your face is very relaxing. Not only are you relieving stress, you are also keeping your body fit. It's two for one. Just knowing that you are making time for yourself and you body makes a person feel good about themselves....

All in all, brisk walking is very theraputic and an excellent way of relieving stress! Give it a try solo, first thing in the morning when it's still a little cool outside just after sun rise. It's a great way of starting your day! Make sure you do it for more than 20 minutes though. That's when you start ignoring all the stresses in your life and just enjoy your walk.

Answer 3

This may sound insane, but when I have one of those days I grab a pillow and the duct tape and I head for the back yard. I duct tape the pillow to a tree and wrap my hands with Ace bandages and wail on the pillow.
I have been successful so far with not breaking my hands, and I am able to get a good workout and cause just enough pain to myself to come back into reality. I find that doing exactly what I visualize myself doing to all those people that truly piss me off helps me deal with everything. I know that people celebrate ineptitude and it's just something you have to deal with. Knowing you are smarter than the people in charge is a real *****, but what are you gonna do? Blessed be. V-

Answer 4

Today it's called "bi-polar". When I was diagnosed it was called "manic depressive". A lot of drug therapies have been developed to combat it, and I'm sure there are cases where that is the only way to go... but I don't believe that's how it is with most people. Too many people are diagnosed with this disorder and that disorder and I came to realize it's just a part of life. Everyone feels that way, but with study and some therapy, I found something that actually works.

ONE: Change whatever you can. This is a tough one... "I hate my job, but if I quit I won't have a job!"... "My fiance isn't living up to my expectations, but I don't want to loose him!" etc. etc... Half of all marriages fail because people think it'll be like dating, if your fiance pisses you off now, watch out. For work, or for anything else, what stresses you more? The job or not having one? Whichever it is, act upon it.

TWO: Inconsiderate people. The majority of the time when one person pisses off another person stems from the fact that most people are inconsiderate; that is, they never even consider how their actions affect other people. If the situation warrants it, inform them... in a considerate manner. Being inconsiderate is a learned response and too many times I've seen one person yelling at another person and the only reply they get is defensiveness which means in a nutshell that they won't listen. If you can't tell the person, just remember that it's nothing personal, just being inconsiderate. Here's a story for that one...

I was a manager at a McDonald's. I've read all the lists on the internet about "101 thing to do to piss off the fast food employees" and I've seen them all and I don't care really. One day two college guys ordered their meals and were flirting with the hottie at the counter, I mean REALLY trying to get a phone number kind of action. They walk to their seats with their orders, little cups filled with the extra pickles they asked for - extra pickles... that's on the list. I check them out and see them squirting ketchup on the pickles and flinging them at the paintings we have, trying to make them stick. I ask the counter girl to trust me and not say a single word. I walk out there with her and introduce myself and this girl to the boys. I chat them up a bit about how it's good marketing having a cute girl taking your order and they agree. Then I tell them they don't stand a chance of getting her phone number, because she's the one who has to clean up all their crap sticking to the paintings. I walk this girl back and tell her to just stay behind the counter... I watch on the closed circuit TV as these guys sneak around the corner and beg for some towels and cleaning stuff... Yup, they never considered that there was anybody who actually had to clean the place...

THREE: Sometimes the first two just don't work out... so invest in stress relief. Usually something very physical. Workout, dancing, karate, whatever. Sometimes you DO just need to kick something once or twice, then it becomes a lot easier to just shake off the stuff that's really nothing.

Final advice, Jimmy Buffett wrote some great words of wisdom. He had two simple rules and they work in a very Key West kind of way... one, don't sweat the small stuff and two, everything is small stuff.

Good luck.

Answer 5

To be brutally honest, I got so mad yesterday that I threw my cell phone and shattered the screen. I then told my mom while we were driving that I could just drive into a building and kill us both. Then I started furiously scratching my face, scaring the crap out of the car next to us.

I can honestly say that taking some really really deep breaths and just clearing your mind, or thinking of something ridiculously funny will help. It's also best just to leave the situation immediately. I couldn't leave when I was in the car, so I just tried the deep breaths and happy thoughts. Eventually I calmed down, but it still sucked. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Well since I work at the airport you can scream the blue streak and the guy next to you wont even be able to hear you. Other than that take a walk, go workout, have sex, a drink, punch a pillow, cry, laugh, call a friend and vent, I used to take a drive in the park til gas got so expensive. stuff like that.....good enough?

Answer 7

For starters think about other things in your life that are positive. I always try to spend some time alone to sort out feelings before I do or say something that could have terrible consequences. Try a hot bath/shower to relax. If you feel the need to run around the house and scream to relieve stress...do it. Do something enjoy, a hobby....lastly...in life..don't sweat the small stuff..good luck girl

Answer 8

I know exactly how you feel. When I get this way, I have to tell someone. It took me a long long long time to get to that point tho. I had to find the person I trusted ultimately and I knew would never tell anyone else. It ended up being my fiance. And actually it makes sense, because if you can't tell him and trust him with it, who can you tell? But that's just me. You have to find your person. The one person you know will always listen. Then you have to tell them. It always helps to talk about it, as you point out. And it's a lot more legal than breaking someone's nose, which I've been tempted to do many times...

Answer 9

Just close your eyes and pray. It will REALLY help. Don't mind those people.They will receive what they deserve. Just let it pass by like nothing happens. If they continue to hurt you..forgive and don't go down to their level of thinking. If they ask for apology, good and be friends with them. Don't seem like the one getting really affected because at the end it will look like you are the one defeated. Just PRAY..soon they will realize you are a person they can not just run over. Hoep this helps. God bless!

Answer 10

hmmm...usually after i have had one of these days i gather a few magazines,light some candles, and take a long hot bath (hopefully you have a tub) usually this helps to de-stress me..hopefully it works for you too..or you ould try working out...that also alleviates stress and brings endorphins into the body..which are clinically shown to make you happier..or heres an idea...workout..then go take a long hot bath..there ya go...hope it works girl..remember feeling like that every once in a while is completely normal..just try not to hurt anybody..haha.