And I am too afraid to call him on it because when I have in the past, all that has happened is for him to get angry at me and deny all of it. I don't understand why people insist on lying to those they supposedly love and care about. And what's worse, for me to know or hear about certain things that he feels, in particular concerning me and for him to not share these things with me. It is killing me. I love him so so much, but I'm really not sure if I can take any more deceit:(
2006-08-08 15:47:31 · 11 answers · asked by Heather 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't see how you can love someone that lies and deceives you. And if he really loved you then he wouldn't feel the need to do it, nor create circumstances that he would have to.
The reason he gets angry and denies it when you call him on it is because he has been caught in the act and anger his his way of dealing with it and with trying to make you feel like it is YOUR fault and not his. Which is in fact a way of controlling you. It starts with the lies, then him getting angry and denying it to make it out to be your fault,..........what is next? he starts cheating and then when you call him on that he gets angry and denies it and makes that out to be your fault also? Or he starts hitting you and says that is your fault also?
You need to get out of this relationship and the sooner the better.
You don't deserve this kind of treatment and you damn sure don't need his controlling nature to turn into something worse.
2006-08-08 16:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 100% sure, and you call him on it and he denies it then break up. You know you're right. Just because he says it isn't true doesn't mean it's okay for you to let it go. If he owns up to it then talk about it. But there is no use in staying in a relationship with someone who is going to lie to you. They most likely won't change and you'll just get hurt more. If he gets mad at you for trying to talk to him about it, don't feel like you did the wrong thing. I always made that mistake. They try to turn it around. If he gets mad, you know you're right and you did the right thing in trying to talk about it. I say find someone better who is faithful. Good luck.
2006-08-08 22:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by fallinghard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to what your saying ,,,, u love him but can't stand him, why are you even wasteing time with someone like that? don't you think any more of your self than to be with a person that you can't even turn your back on?? tell me why you letting yourself be pulled down by him? he is not the only fish in the sea, are you too scaredto go fishing again? a relationship is based on trust, faith and honesty.. look at the last word in that sentence, see it in the sentence? it's not in your relationship, and without it , you have no relationship.............. in other words KICK HIS A SS TO THE CURB AND DON"T LOOK BACK
2006-08-08 23:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a short time a go i unloaded my girl friend of 11 years due to a lie be it a small lie but if you can lie about small things you can lie about big things the why i see it is if yu feel like you need to lie then you r cheating
2006-08-08 22:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lie 2 him and make him feel like u also do it and if u an try 2 find out bout wat he is lying 2 u and say it 2 him and let him know u know the truth even if u dont
2006-08-08 22:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by rapping_game 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out. Go find someone who'll be honest with you, not because you want them to, but because it never occurs to them to be any other way. We are out here. You just need to look.
2006-08-08 22:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be upfront with them. Tell them the problem. Give them a chance to change. And if they don't, then let them go and move on.
2006-08-08 22:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mattyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the ultimatum....tell him you can't handle his constant lying and your sick of it. tell him that if he doesn't love you enough to stop lying than he doesn't love you at all. if he can't give up that one bad habit than there's no telling what else he's not willing to give up for you in the future.
2006-08-08 22:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's lying to you then he could be doing a lot more and you should move on even though it will hurt
2006-08-08 22:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by phantom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya but you can change him by calling him on his lies when he does it , one day he will realize lying ain't cool
2006-08-08 22:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋