I met this guy and he said he did ten years. Before that I was feeling him. He went in young and came out young but I dont' know if I can haddle that baggage. So what do you think?
2006-08-08 15:42:00 · 18 answers · asked by Peek@u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I don't know his crime, but he can live a normal life. Don't hold a mans past against him. He was honest and told you, that says somthing.
2006-08-08 15:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by densil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the mere fact that you're posting on yahoo answers shows that you want to be with him.
If you can accept what he did time for and still love him, I don't see why not.
But I think that your question is more about you than him. It's about YOU handling the baggage...not him. It's about whether or not you can accept what he did and lead a normal life with him.
2006-08-08 22:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by Meghan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the baggage and what other hangups he might have. An alcoholic or drug abuser who has done time has way more baggage than you might want to handle. Otherwise I don't see why they couldn't live a 'normal' life.
2006-08-08 22:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did 10 years, he must have done something pretty bad. I don't know if he can ever have a normal life. Think about how hard it is going to be to get a job, he is a felon. People will always talk about whatever he did. It would be a lot to deal with.
2006-08-08 22:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have the support of family, particularly a family that may have a sucessful bizness he can get into to because one the biggest downfalls for parolees is getting a decent, straight job. And you know, America is all about your title/status ratings. If you aren't to material oreinted, he may stand a chance. Employment background checks can really suck, and everyone is using them. You need to keep things in mind if you ever entertained the thought of offspring with the parolee.
Give him some of that good sugar you got, and encourage him, he'll need if he is left to his own devices in this cold, paranoid world.
2006-08-08 22:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by ricosuarve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course people can change - especially if he was young when he went in and did something really stupid. We all make mistakes and deserve a second chance. Support him but keep your eyes open to "relapses" and temptations back toward the old life.
2006-08-08 22:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what has he done since getting out to make you worry??? Every one makes mistakes, his was just bigger then others, but still he deserves a chance. My father in law spent time in prison as a young man, and he changed his life so drasticly for the better after he got out, anyone who knew him now would swear he was lieing if he told them he had been incarserated. Give him a chance.
2006-08-08 22:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well hopefully after all that time he was reformed if hes working are in school are trying to do right i say give him a chance unless he messes up.also make sure u know what he was there for before u trust him and dont just take his word go report with him are go around his family and friends and see what they think of him investaget before you put to much into it good luck
2006-08-08 22:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by ladyrena12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there will be problems, of course. I'd be cautious, but if the guy is actually trying to turn his life around it would be a devastating blow to be rejected merely because of his past.
But it's tricky. I'd have to meet him to make a proper decision.
2006-08-08 22:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mike A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person and the crime he committed, and it depends on your age and life experience.
I wouldn't keep him. That may not be PC, but that's the gods-honest truth.
2006-08-08 22:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by alter_tygo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋