iam 25,i know my gf dosent care abt me anymore,all the passion is gone.but i still love her so much that iam afraid i will go mad after loosing her,infact thinking of breaking up itself is too emotional stress for me.i dunno what to do.shall i wait for her to change n understand me.have u been in this situtaion? how did u girls/boys handle breakup???
2006-08-08 15:37:05 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't change somebody but you can change who you choose to be with. Life is too short to get caught up with somebody who doesn't make you 100% happy.
and too short to trip on stuff like this.
Move on and focus on what you want in life
2006-08-08 15:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by ktwister 4 · 9⤊ 1⤋
What you need to so first is talk to her. you are an adult and need to handle the situation like an asult. Avoiding the feelings only make them worse. The more they pile up the worse this will get. All you can do is talk to her. see what she thinks, then go from there, when you talk it out then you will know what to do. Break ups don't have to be bad. They will always hurt but they are supposed to. If they didn't then you felt nothing. If the passion is gone then you have to figure out new ways to get the flame back.You have to remember why you fell in love with this person. There is something that caught your eye. Show her what is was that made you crazy about her, you might think that she is the one pulling away but it might be because you guys are in a comfort rut. It happens all the time. you just have to amp it up a bit. Just talk to her, if you can't talk to her then you have bigger problems then you thought. Good Luck to you and I hope that things between you two get better.
2006-08-08 22:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jolee N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you know that your gf doesn't care for you anymore but are you sure about it? You could only be presuming that. Sometimes, we become prejudiced with what people do without having a valid basis for our presumption. You'd better tell her what you notice about her change of passion for your relationship. She may have another reason other than what you think of it. She may just be very busy with something else that she forgets all her about her part in keeping your relationship alive at the moment.
Don't think yet of breaking up with her for you may be wrong at the end. The best thing that you can do now is to have a heart-to-heart talk with her about your concern in the changes that you see in her. When you get the assurance that she still loves you despite those changes, you may have peace in your mind and just support her in accomplishing or getting through with what she is doing right now.
However, if you find out that she really is tired of your relationship, ask her for her reasons and defend yourself. Let her know what is in your heart for her. May be she will be appeased with what you will have to say and that may reverse her waning feelings for you and make it alive once more.
If you ever should separate, let it come from her. At least, you will know that the break-up means she no longer has feelings for you. But if it is you who will initiate the break-up, what if she still cares for you and she will be the one to think that it is you who have lost your feelings for her? Pride then will work for her and she may accept your breaking up with her which should have not happened in the first place because you know in your heart and mind that you love her truly and you were just afraid that she would be the first one to break up with you.
Don't overstress yourself too much. Don't let paranoia affect your health. A simple heart-to-heart talk with her may just be the solution for you to have peace with yourself. Good luck.
2006-08-08 22:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be under a lot of stress anyway to stay. If you know in your heart it is not going anywhere, you should do what is best for you in the long run. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is the best thing to do. Maybe she needs to see how strong you can be. Maybe you need to see how strong you can be. Make a list of why you should be together and why you shouldn't and see which list is the longest. Also be honest and write what you want in a mate and see if she is actually it. Somtimes we think we can make people into what we want them to be because we don't want to be alone.
2006-08-08 22:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by Curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you never gone through a breakup before?
I think you know what you have to do you just don't want to accept it yet. We're all like that- we seek reassurance. You know you need to break up with her. Why would you put yourself through the pain of knowing she doesn't return the love you have for her?
Basically what you are doing is lying to yourself.
Don't do that. You need someone who will love you like you love them. The longer you wait, the harder it will be. Imagine how hard it will be if you keep her around for much longer. You'll miss out on someone who may actually love you back.
Good luck.
2006-08-08 22:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Meghan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew I needed to break up with someone but I still loved him and couldn't image being without him. It was my hardest breakup as of yet but its been a year and I'm fine. I know a lot of people agree to be friends after but I found that it was best not to talk to him at all until I knew I was over him. After that, I didn't even want to. If you know its coming, save yourself the worry and just get it over with.
2006-08-08 22:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by renee1724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 25, you are young and hot, just breath in and out and remember you don't need to settle. The fact that you mentioned your age maybe is a sign that you are afraid that you will be alone, don't worry, you'll meet someone beautiful who will want to take your breath away. Don't go mad, if she doesn't care then you shouldn't care. Start caring about yourself:)
2006-08-08 22:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont think about it. And a person never changes unless they have a life changing event (dont go down that rout) your 25 and there are lot of great girls out there. Dont be sooo stuck on her. Otherwise your relationship will just stall out and be a mess get things over with and move on
2006-08-08 22:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by Tlew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember you deserve to be loved, just as much as you love that person. If you think that they don't love you as much as you love them, you will always be trying to earn that love. No one should ever have to do that. I went threw the same thing, I am not going to lie to you that it's not going to be painful. It took me a year and a half to get over a relationship. But now I have met someone and am in a relationship where I don't have to question their love for me. It was worth everything I went threw to get to this point. Good luck to you. You deserve all the happiness in the world.
2006-08-08 22:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by Teslajuliet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know she doesn't care about you and there's nothing there anymore... breaking up is probably the only answer. If you wait around for someone to change, you'll be waiting forever. She'd have to really want to change, but sense she doesn't care... it's doubtfull that she'll do it. Break up. You'll find someone that cares about you as much as you care for them and you'll be much happier than waiting around for someone and hoping things get better. Good luck.
2006-08-08 22:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by fallinghard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make some one love you you have to just be yourself and if they cant handle that than you need to find someone that loves you a break is very hard it will take time ti heal find a hobby so that u want think of her all the time work out r hang with family n friends
2006-08-08 22:41:13 · answer #11 · answered by ladyrena12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋