Are all black men dogs or is it just me, Im thinking I should date outside my race.?

Question

99.9% of black guys I have come across are complete total jerks. Where is a guy with some substance, goals, personality, who just doesnt care about sex? Where are THOSE guys at?

I dont care how you answser the question Im not going to report you.

oh yeah I dont go for the thug/bad boy types

BTW I always carry my self as a lady. I have self respect.

Answer 1

I hope I won't offend you with my answer; first of all, I realize that the men you've met have not conducted themselves in a good manner with you but surely not all black men are like that? Where do you meet these men?

I disagree with the focus of your statement as well; I hope you will find a guy (whatever race he might be) who will be loving and responsible but to find someone who just doesn't care about sex isn't in your best interest either.
Sex is a good thing when it is between two responsible (preferrably married to each other) adults who put one another before themselves.

Now, I am a white/caucasian guy but I will not let you be misled into thinking that a white guy might be better because he most likely will not. Some white guys can be good or jerks too but I tell you, more important than looks, race, power or position is the guy's heart.

What if you found a guy that loved you and cared about you but he was poor?
Or he looked ugly? Or he liked horse racing and you don't? Please think carefully about this.

I also wonder, are your spiritual needs being met? Do you know GOD?

Even meeting "the right guy" will not be enough, even the best guy cannot meet your spiritual needs; he cannot forgive perfectly or love perfectly.

I hope and pray that you will be blessed in time with an understanding of how men and women can be but more importantly that you be blessed with someone who will love you and respect you.

Answer 2

Ya know what's funny...I found that with a lot of white guys I dated...seriously (then of course, the one I wasted 10 1/2 years was pretty much all - no substance, ambition or personality and was controlled by his family - that but didn't care the least bit about sex - AT ALL)! Long story short, you're going to find men like that in all races...perhaps you need to re-evaluate what you're looking for, what you find you're attracted to...that sort of thing. Definitely be more open to different things...and different races if you are comfortable with that. You never know what you may find.

And btw...my boyfriend is black, with substance, goals and a great personality - and thankfully our sex drives are equal!

Answer 3

Don't insult them all just because you've come across some unbranded wild hogs. There are plenty of men outside of your race that will do the same thing, maybe in a nicer way. Black men are just blunt and a little too carefree. I know how you feel to some extent. But do not give up on your race. You'll be the female Wesley Snipes that ditched her race due to lack of having the pleasure to get to know more caring people. They're out there, you just may need to look in several different zip codes.

Answer 4

Have you ever considered the fact it JUST MAY BE the way you carry yourself? Have you ever heard the statement " Water seeks its' own level? ". There are classy guys in EVERY race just like there are trashy & cheap guys ( and girls also ) in each and every race. Just because you've been bumping into " riff - raff " type of individuals, DOES NOT mean that ALL guys, in this case, blacks, are dogs. You can meet the type of guy that you want to date, maybe you should try changing the places you like to " hang out " . You won't find a classy guy in a hole in the wall beer joint. I suggest that you look at YOURSELF first of all. Are you carrying yourself like a REAL lady? After all, there IS a reason as to why you are attracting these kind of individuals. The answer can only come from within YOURSELF !!!!

Answer 5

As a white dude, I find that to be an unfair assertion. Black men have some serious pressure. That being said, it doesn't excuse an individual for being a jerk. However, I doubt that dating outside your race is the proper response, since I've found that most men of all races are dogs. Switching to girls would be a far better option in my opinion, but i bet that you'd find most girls you'd come across would be dogs too.

I suppose the only option is to get lucky.

Answer 6

Date a man because of who he is not because of race. I have dated out of my race a lot and believe me some are good and some are bad. Could be the places you go or the people you hang around. That's what happened to me, I kept meeting the same type of guys and finally had to change my attitude towards places and environment and especially my friends. Birds of a feather flock together. Men assumed because my friends were a certain was I was too.

Answer 7

The race of the person really won't make a difference for you. If you started dating white guys you will have the same problem. You need to look at what is attracting you to these types of guys. There are good guys out there but you have to look for them. You also have to be the type of woman that the good guy will want to date.

Answer 8

Some men are dogs but it's not just the black ones. It's a fair share in all races. I've met black and white guys that have made me wish that i never laid eyes on them but when i started dating only the ones who had exactly what i was looking for in a guy and not settling for less i started getting my fair share of the good ones. You need to be specific on what you want in a "MAN" and not settling for a boy.

Answer 9

I'm a white guy.The part about guys that don't care about sex,those guys are gay hun LOL.You are just looking in the wrong place for what you want in a man.I know a lot of black guys that have goals,work hard,and are decent people.I am betting you are in the city.Try finding a black guy from a rural community to have better luck. Also don't limit yourself to just one race.The USA is like a giant buffet,enjoy it a little will ya.

Answer 10

Naugh, not all black men are dogs. You might just be unfortunate enough to just seem to find those kinds. I myself think that i'm a nice enough guy i dont just think about sex i have a 4.3 grade point average i am a football player and basketball player but as a backup plan if i am unable to go pro i would like to study law or marketing.