I am really sad because I have never met a boy my age who was nice to me. I will admit that I am a big person, but are guys really so superficial that they don't give a damn about who I am on the inside and what my thoughts and feelings are? I really don't want to become the size of a bean pole just so a male will even talk to me. I am just starting to accept my body. I think I am fairly pretty on the outside for a plus sized person and I get good grades, I am nice to people, and I enjoy doing fun things. Nevertheless, I am starting to think that I will become a 40 year old virgin.
2006-08-08 15:27:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't even think about changing yourself for other people - if you're happy with how you look - then go with that! And don't get down if they turn out to be superficial no-hopers - better to bear in mind that THEY're the ones missing out on someone as great as you, and if they're that shallow, you're better off without them.
Let the skinny girls try and deal with the image obsessed morons! - Less hassle for you, leaving you with a better shortlist of guys to choose from!
2006-08-08 15:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by Purecheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm..... how do i explain this! girls are sorta like apples on trees the best one are on the top of the tree. The boys don't want to get them because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead the just get the rotten apples on the ground that aren't as good, but they're easy! So the apple on the top thinks there's something wrong with them, but in reality they're amazing! They would just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top! I didn't really think of that... I had a similar question like yours! And this guy gave me that answer, it made me feel happy so... I thought it will make you feel better too!!! =D
2006-08-08 22:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kimathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think an easy way to think of it on a basic level is that it is not necessarily just about being skinny. Guys are attracted to girls often because of the effort it takes to be fit. Some of the most attractive girls I've met were once larger, but decided that fitness was a priority in their life and that drive and sucess at their efforts made them desirable. I am not drawing conclusions about you, but rather generalizing. Hope this helps!
2006-08-08 22:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by supercakpow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a difficult situation. I read your other questions and it seems like you are very overweight. I also imagine I don't need to remind you of that. This is the issue you should be tackling - not for the sake of getting a boyfriend, although that's part of it, but for your own sake. If you remain this size you will encounter the same problem throughout your life, as well as problems with work, health, sport, you name it. If you do not have a medical condition causing you to be this size, you need to tackle your weight as a matter of urgency. You will simply not be accepted at the size you are.
2006-08-08 22:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People can be superficial and mean. Just make sure that you have confidence in who you are, and don't let anyone take that from you. There are some really nice people out there and someday, you'll find someone that will absolutely adore you.
2006-08-08 22:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by jilla68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of Boys just dont think before they speak. Dont let it get to you. Continue to be outgoing and dont wear your weight on your sleeve. Im glad , you sound like you like yourself and are at peace with your body. Keep up the confidence and the right guy will come along.
2006-08-08 22:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many guys have a superiority complex that makes it tough for them to really get close to a girl who may not fit into their "dream girl" category. Just don't get too bummed about it. There is someone for everyone. You just have to stop looking so hard.
2006-08-08 22:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by The girl in pink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, the majority of men are a bunch of assholes but, don't worry, their opinions about you don't matter. I get that kind of crap from guys that like superficial skinny girls myself. I'm very sure you'll meet a very nice guy. ;)
2006-08-08 22:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by Vicki Skarlet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose just a few pounds and the guys will be all over you.if you want to whale out that is your business.there are some guys that like big girls,but they are pervs and deadbeats that can't get a normal size woman.
2006-08-08 22:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm guessing you're young. If you look hard enough for long enough, and stay positive and open-minded, there's a warm body and a sane mind out there for everyone.
2006-08-08 22:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mike A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋