I can't be satisfied what to do?

Question

I've been with my boyfeind for over a year. He's never satisfied me but I love him. I never really cared but lately I've been so sexually frustrated. I just want to be satisfied. I love him what do I do?

Answer 1

I'm kinda with dream_angel here - you need to give him some direction - but make a game of it so that it's less like barking orders and demands! Buy a three minute timer of some sort, and take it in turns - first three minutes, you only do what he asks you to do, then the next three minutes, he only does what you ask him - repeat for as long as you can. Before long you'll both be a lot happier, and he'll know exactly how to push your buttons, without feeling like he was in need of instruction, or inadequate beforehand ! ( You really want to avoid that one :P )

Oh yeah, and it's damn good fun even if you don't have any problems (for the rest of us!). Good luck!

Answer 2

The most likely reason why your man has never satisfied you is that he thinks that he does. The most likely reason for that is that you don't let him know what you want. Your expectation that he should know without being told just because he loves you is ruining your sex life. The solution: tell him what you need, preferably in a way that gives positive feedback.

For example, if he does something in bed that you like, give some audible feedback -- a simple "yes!" or a sigh of pleasure will do. If he starts to move on to something else while you're digging what he's currently doing, don't be afraid to say, "more." And if there's something in particular that you want, tell him so.

The way that you word your request is critical -- again, positive feedback is key. "I like it when you..." is much better than, "I'm not satisfied because..."

If you don't get satisfied because of a problem with premature ejaculation, then another approach is called for. I suggest that you look into a set of exercises called sensate focus. This is basically a method of foreplay, but some of the exercises also teach ejaculation control. Many sensate focus exercises are designed to be done with a partner, so it actually becomes a part of your sex life rather than "homework." Even if there's no problem with premature ejaculation, sensate focus can enhance sexual pleasure for both of you. Your local bookstore will have books on the subject.

Answer 3

I think it is a sign that other parts of your relationship aren't making you happy. I have the same problem, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and he won't try to please me. I think you need to encourage communication and try new things to find out what you like. If he finishes first make sure that he touches you when you are done or goes down on you for a bit. Sometimes he will get so turned on by your reaction that he will want you a second time. Remember sex has to be fun, its an expression of your love together. I hope this helps.

Answer 4

You have to let yourself go! For one I think foreplay is overrated... at least for me.. my sex drive is "to get there!". I will give time for foreplay only after I orgasm first... then slow pleasure.

Don't you think sometimes foreplay is like too fake and drawn out? And women have sexual needs like a men... when you need to reach there... you let go and get there quick!

That is how I get satisfied!

Answer 5

Up grade to 18 volt!

Answer 6

get into 4-play. tell him this is very important, maybe get some toys that u can use 2-gether. ease up and let the sensations take over u!

Answer 7

You need to tell him what to do. Make suggestions to him on what to do that will satisfy you.

Answer 8

Just get a vibrator

Answer 9

talk to him clearly aboout all ur feelings..

Answer 10

tell him u want sex