He said that he believes that I say that because I dont have any other options. I'm attractive and sweet, and I know I could have other options, so I just dont get it
2006-08-08 15:08:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Either you aren't really showing him that you love him
or . . .
He's trying to get you to sleep with him.
Or . . .
He's a blithering idiot. Get a heavy stick and hit him with it, and then say it again.
2006-08-08 15:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 possible answers....
1. If you haven't slept with him (or maybe some other level that you haven't reached). This is just him trying to get you to "prove" that you love by trying to force you to have sex?
2. You dont show your love very openly. This might not be your fault because many people have differing beliefs about how to show affection to another person. Some believe public displays are acceptable, and others wont particpate at all. Maybe your boyfriend is upset because you dont act like you love him when you are around others? Perhaps he has unreasonable expectations?
SUGGESTION: Talk with you boyfriend (i assume you guys communicate fairly well if he told you this). Ask him how he thinks you "should" show you love him. This will answer which of the two scenarios it is. If he tells you he wants more BJs or wants to have sex.... then he's an a$$ and I wouldn't put up with someone playing you like that. If it's the second scenario... I'd hear what he has to say..and then decide whether or not its reasonable. Just remember... YOU DEFINE what's reasonable.
I wish you the best.
P.S. There is a possible 3rd scenario. You said "i love you" too soon. I've seen this happen before...and typically the other person doesn't call "Bullsh*t" on the other person... they just know it in their hearts. If you've only been dating this person for a "short time" (you define it), then he might be thinking you rushed the decision and made the declaration a little early. Most guys have problems with girls claiming they love them too early... we dont like the trapped feeling that it gives us. If you said it too early, he might be feeling trapped, and thus... he wants to convince you that it isn't really "love".
SUGGESTION: If this is the case... simply tell him that your love will be proven with every passing day.... for him to decide if it's real or not.
Good Luck.
2006-08-08 16:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this is a guy fishing for something..
Normally ends with "but if you did truly love me you would prove it by X-Y-Z", with "X-Y-Z" being some (usually physical) act you may have refused or been unsure of in the past. Get some respect from him, and have him trust your words, or get out before you do something you regret.
Love needs trust. If he doesn't trust you to tell the truth, especially about something that fundamental and basic, then it's pretty safe that he doesn't truly love you back.
Would you argue with the one you love when they said that they loved you? Didn't think so.
You deserve better. You have other options. Explore them.
2006-08-08 15:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by Purecheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he is just insecure. Think about how you feel when he tells you he loves you, does it feel real? If it does make sure that he really wants to be with you. I knew someone why used to make the girl feel insecure so she would question the relationship and break up so he didn't have to do it.
2006-08-08 15:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he has self esteem issues. he sounds very insecure. and i think his problem is, is that he feels like you deserve better than him. like there is no good reason that you are with him. a lot of guys are like that. they feel like "you're too good to be true" and that's OK, but the best way to prove that you do love him is just to be there for him. whenever something is on his mind let him vent. let him express to you whatever going on inside of him. you need to prove to him that you'll always be there. that you love him for being him and that's all you'll ever need. once you do that, than he'll begin to believe you with his heart. Good Luck!
2006-08-08 15:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not ready for the l-word yet. I don't know how long you've been together, but hold off awhile before you say it again. Guys are like bunnies, the smallest things can scare them away.
2006-08-08 15:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by ZachsLadyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to make you feel like you can't do any better than him. Don't know why but I have known people that do that. He could be throwing himself a pity party to get more attention or even just to be mean.
2006-08-08 15:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by renee1724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its the way you say it or where the littlest details can make a guy think your lying especially if he is experienced.
2006-08-08 15:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart love is not about what you look like. love is what yu express to a person. you must ask yourself what is it that you do that says you love him. if you cant't answer that then maybe it just sounds good whem you say i love you.
2006-08-08 15:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by ~BABYGURL~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't think you are telling him the the truth the that means he doesn't trust you,but just get him to listen to you,maybe he don't love you
2006-08-08 15:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Marcus L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋