my fiance & i scheduled our wedding 6 months ago. we came back home to find it was only 1 mo. after my brother & his fiance's. they then changed their date closer to ours. it is now 1 week before ours. they insisted we change our date to next year so we wont steal their thunder... i want my brother there, but he told me he will be on his 15 day honeymoon instead...i feel terrible. i'm not sure on what to do. it's caused a lot of tension between us two couples. we've sent out save the date cards. the day we chose has a lot of meaning to us, so we want to keep it...can i please get some opinions?
2006-08-08 15:06:15 · 9 answers · asked by kristy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
besides asking the obvious questions (where are your parents in all of this and don't you communicate with your family?) I have to assume that 6 months ago you sent your brother a save the date card, too. Since he was inconsiderate and scheduled his wedding a week before yours (not to mention that you will probably invite many of the same family members and who can afford to attend two weddings a week apart....) I would consider changing the date. You have weigh how badly you want your brother at your wedding. Does his presence mean more to you than your special date? If you are really ticked off at him, change the date and don't invite him or get married on your special day anyway. A lot of these problems can be avoided by simple communication.
2006-08-08 15:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by miatalise12560 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep your date. I hate to say this but it sounds like your brother is getting married for the wrong reasons. When he wants you to move the date so that you don't steal there thunder it's not supposed to be about the wedding it is supposed to be about the love. He should be as happy for you and just excited that you are both getting married.
Have your wedding on your special date, love your husband and be happy for your brother and wish him well.
2006-08-08 15:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by T S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR BROTHER AND FUTURE WIFE ARE BEING VERY SELFISH. APPARENTLY, YOU HAD NO IDEA THAT HE HAD WEDDING PLANS. I THINK HE'S BEING UNFAIR TO ASK YOU TO WAIT ANOTHER YEAR TO KEEP HIS WEDDING DATE WHICH CHANGES EVERYTIME YOU TALK TO HIM. CARRY ON SWEETIE. IT'S A SHAME THAT HE FEELS THAT HIS HONEYMOON IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN HIS SISTER'S WEDDING. ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU WANT HIM THERE. KEEP YOUR DATE. USUALLY THE DATE THAT ONE CHOOSES FOR A SPECIAL OCCASION SUCH AS YOURS, HAS A SPECIAL MEANING. APPARENTLY, YOUR BROTHER JUST WANTS TO CALL THE SHOTS WHERE YOU ARE CONCERNED. STAND YOUR GROUND. HE'S THE ONE THAT WILL LOSE OUT IN THE END. GOD BLESS YOU.
2006-08-08 15:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by popcopgoldieoldie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why in the world did your brother change his date knowing he'd be out of town for your wedding? wow! weddings are stressful enough without this mess. I think I'd change my date so all of my immediate family could be there, but, then I don't really know the full circumstances.
2006-08-08 15:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by canary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They changed theirs, so why should you have to change yours to please them? I would stick to my date. If they didn't want you to "steal their thunder" they should have left the original date. They would have been back from the honeymoon, and able to celebrate with you. I think the month between would have been ideal. I think they are just being selfish.(no offense.)
2006-08-08 15:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by T J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they changed their date closer to yours, they should reschedule. I would tell him you love him, but will miss him at oyur wedding. For him to feel that you will steal their "thunder" sounds very petty. If that date has a special meaning to you, keep it. He will regret this decision, believe me.
2006-08-08 15:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they are the ones that screwed up. Don't let your brother ruin your day. If that's the day you want, keep it, and don't let him muscle you around just cause he thinks he can. If its not important enough for him to be there, then that's that.
2006-08-08 15:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jadeba12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change it. You made that date and then they selfishly made theirs only a week before, so it's them in the wrong not you. So don't worry about it. Anyway good luck and I hope everything goes well.
2006-08-08 15:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you and your hubby to be intended --- if your brother wants to be childish that's on him.... you already had your plans and sent out the invitations first so stick with it....
2006-08-08 15:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋