I don't want to know how you THINK you will react (i.e. some people think that they will be reasonable and accept, but when it actually happens, they flip out and start b*tching)...
I want you to actually close your eyes and imagine the situation unfolding before you, and the first reaction that pops into your head is most likely the way you will react...
2006-08-08 15:03:02 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I remember distinctly the day I heard from a family member that they were gay. Then I was terribly judgemental. Thankfully my life has changed and we have found our way beyond that moment. There were apparently several people in my family who were bi or gay, and I loved them all as people. I have brought my children up to see the person, not the lifestyle, and if that makes them happy, fulfilled humans who continue to strive for betterment - I have no problem whatsoever with that declaration. It may well be one of my children IS gay (there are indications) but we don't label that child. We simply focus on making the child the best humanbeing possible.
2006-08-08 15:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Loresinger99 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be soooo disappointed because my first reaction is that I'd want grandchildren and I would wonder if I did anything wrong. Another thing is that I would worry about aids. I would not turn my back on my child but I would not allow my child to bring their significant other to sleep over or anything else. To be honest it sounds hypocritical but I would not like to hear or be exposed to their relationships. I'm being really honest. Sorry
2006-08-08 15:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by joeysgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, throughout high school and college, ive had tons of gay friends and ive always been an active member of the LGTB and ally groups so i would have no problems at all if my kid told he he or she was gay. as a parent, you should love and support your child no matter what they do or think. the most important and strongest love you can have is that of your family and if your family cant support you, i think its just tragic.
i dont have a kid now, but when i do, if they happen to be gay, i wont treat them any differently. they will always have my love and affection.
2006-08-08 15:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lola P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my first thought would be to accept it. They are my kids, my flesh and blood, I'll love them no matter what.
But, honestly, I would feel like I did something wrong in my parenting to cause this. -which I do know it would not be true.- But I know that is how I would feel. I would feel a little weird around my son, at first. But I am a nice person inside, and I would accept it!
2006-08-08 15:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by dtammyus♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would weep because I would have deep sadness for all the bias and rejection they would undoubtedly face from the world and the difficulties they will have to struggle through just to be accepted for who they are. Then, I would tell them I love them unconditionally and I would just hold them in the longest hug I could get them to sit still for, because it is a mother's instinct to want to protect her child (any age) from the world.
2006-08-08 15:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Rvn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My oldest daughter actually asked us once, when she was about 15, if we'd still love her if she was gay.
"Of course we would!" was our immediate answer. "I'd feel a little sad for you," I went on, "but only because I've seen how badly some people treat gays and lesbians, and I have an idea of how hard your life would be. But I'd support you and care for you just as I always have."
Turns out she was actually asking about a friend of hers who was afraid to come out at home. But I think we passed that test.
2006-08-08 15:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by Scott F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably be sad thinking about how some people would treat them. But other than that, that's still my child, I still love them, they're still the light of my life and my greatest joy, and I'd hope they find someone good, honest, kind, and unselfish to spend the rest of their lives with. My baby's my baby, no matter what - or even how old he is ;-)
2006-08-08 15:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by telaine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would support any decision my child would make. It is also like if your daughter told you she was pregnant. Instead of freaking out, you should tell her that you love her, and you will get through this together. Then love the new life your precious daughter has brought into the world. Life is too short not to love our children.
2006-08-08 15:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by Dawn C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Lets go for stunned shock. Mild irritation. Gimme a minute to get a drink and a cigarette . . . then repeat what you just told Me son.
Listen to repeated statement.
have another drink.
Say Damn, There's a brain shift.
Have another drink, gather myself. Shrug and tell him that he darn well better adopt a kid to carry on the family name. Pat him on the back, tell him its just fine, try not to be the irritating 'Oh look at me I'm gay.' kind of gay
2006-08-08 15:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that I would accept the fact. All I want for my children is for them to find true happiness whether that be with a man or a woman. I wouldn't love them any less.
2006-08-08 15:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋