son in jail how to cope?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear. Hopefully he won't be in there too long. The only person I know that has been to jail basically got visits from their family as much as possible. They learned to play rummy very quickly :)

Support your son and the rest of your family, and that is the best you can do (besides fight it!).

Answer 2

I'm sure thats a rough thing to cope with. His age, what he did and what connections if any that it may have to you all connect in how one would cope or feel in that situation. Try to tell yourself and your son that this happened due to his actons and that he has screwed up. I nregards to connections you may have, all you can do is look at the future and not the past. If you played a strong role in guiding the way and your son still screwed up then tell yourself that you did your end and he just wouldn't listen. If there are things that you wish had been doen differently then plan on how you wil lhandle the future rather than ponder about what already happened. I don't know what he's in jail for but I'm sorry to hear that you have to cope with that.

Answer 3

Let your son know that you love him. And although he will not agree tell him that going to jail can be the best thing or the worse thing that could happen to him.

If you son hates being locked up, and he can't believe he's actually in jail, then tell him that its a good day cause now he knows how bad it can be and to straighten up so that he'll never be de-humanized again.

If your son sees himself as a victim and hasn't learned his lesson, tell him its a bad thing because he has a glimpse at what the rest of his life could be like.

Emphasize to your son his time in jail is like a bump in the road. It can cause him to be more cautious or it can cause him to wreck his life. And remember, as bad as you feel you can't cope, remember its a lot worse for him. Don't act out your drama on your son. Instead, remember its all about him and how to support and help him.

TX Guy



Good Luck,
TX Guy

Answer 4

When my daughter went to jail all i could do was be there for her.
She coped pretty well.But when she did phone home i accepted the calls and was very understanding for her.I let her do most of the talking,i put money in her account so that she didn't need for anything,but i did worry,i just didn't let her know that,i cried at night but she didn't know.When she was released i let her know what she did to me as well as herself.It's been 12 years now and she has never went back to jail or even got into trouble.
I wish you luck.

Answer 5

i know how you feel. my boyfreind had to go to jail once for drugs. it was terrible. but you got to get through it. you got to have the will and the power and the strenth. if you just visit him on visitation days then he will be ok. but i will tell you from exsperence, that if he is i jail for a long time it will get to him. and he will get depressed. BUT let him know that when he gets out he is gonna have a better life and that he isn't gonna screw up again. becuase i dont think that he wants to go back in thier.

Answer 6

Continue to be a mother to your son, love him, love him, and continue to love him, unconditionally, don't concentrate on the negative about this situation, go for as much positive as you can for yourself, and for your son, he is your son and nothing or no place takes that away. Share with him in every way you can the true love of a mother and be the positive for him and be a strength for him that no one else can...let that love flow, let it be your strength.

Answer 7

Sometimes, the best love is tough love. Hopefully he will learn from this mistake and not make any more. Just remind him when you talk to him that you still love him, but that you aren't making any special efforts to get him out of jail.

Answer 8

just try to relax by knowing that alease you know of his whereabouts and not getting into more trouble, it might also be a good idea to visit him maybe once a week, seeing him will make you calm down and be in a much happier state.a visit also makes time go by quickly for him a letter to him wont hurt either. juist try to stay in contact with him mail,phone,visits it it wont feel as if he's really gone.

Answer 9

Know that suffering the consequences for his actions will be a good thing for him. Unless he's a hard learner and this is just the first trip of many... (I hope not!)

Answer 10

I would say make an appointment to talk to your pastor and get him to pray for you. God can give you the strength you need to get through this. Good luck and God be with you.