Weird Question.?

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My 19 Yr. old Sis just got married, and I think she is very happy, and it was a good wedding..I think..See wht happened is, my 2 other sisters, my brother, my parents, and I, weren't invited, and we didn't even do any thing to cause this. This happened A few weeks ago, I talked to my sister The DAY before her wedding and she said nothing about it to me, And I did Nothing to cause this! I also just found out that only 1 out of 4 of HIS siblings we're invited 2 the wedding. And when my older sister called her house 2 talk 2 her, her mother-inlaw said it was just a private wedding. How could it have been a private wedding with ALL of his extended family was there but not hers? I am so mad at her, And I have no Idea what to say to her when I finally see her, I just want to yell and scream at her.What Should I say to her when I Finally see her? It is so hard to be nice about it when She has been lying 2 my familys faces. We also haven't heard abotu this directly from her. Wht shld I do? Thx

I have been so mad since I found out and I keep wanting to cry abut it everyttime I think about it.... I really wanted to go to her wedding. Her Hubands family it reallly weird and they have these strange ideas. And I don't think that her husband will let her talk to use. It's really hard to explain in wrighting. I just need to know what to say to her when I see her.

Her Husband Is controlling. VERY!!! But I just don't think that she gets it.

It is out of character for her, she was raised to know what to think. And I really don't think she knows what to do.

Answer 1

I Hate wat ur sis did to you. she has already put her husbands need be4 her responsiabilities to you guys .if she is ready to make up by having a ceremony for you guys dats gr8.i mean wat does ur sis think she is... how private can her ceremony be dat she dint invite the people she spent most of her life with

Answer 2

Just talk to her and try not to get mad. Just listen to her side of the story, and try to understand. BTW, if you say that her husband is very controlling, keep the communication lines wide open, and let her know that no matter what, you will be there for her. Many times, a controlling man will turn into an abusive one. Good luck with this, and I hope that it all turns out OK.

Answer 3

If this behavior is totally out of character for her, I'd be very concerned about my sister. I agree with everyone else who has said you need to keep the lines of communication with your sister VERY open right now. How are your parents taking this? I'd imagine they're REALLY hurt, and probably very angry as well. I mean, if you're going to run off and get married, that's fine, but his mother said it was a "private wedding" and yet the bride's own parents aren't invited???? HUH????? Something's definitely up, just put your hurt aside and be there for your sister.

Answer 4

Is there another side to this? Maybe they just wanted very few people there...like simple. Maybe his family was paying for the whole thing...you know? I wouldn't cause a big sene about this...you could lose her totally. Another thing to....he might not want her to talk to you all...maybe she is so rapped up in the newly wed thing that she doesn't want to ruin it. You need to talk to her in person ewhen he isn't around. And don't start yelling...fighting and all that just simply ask her what happend and if everything is okay and tell her that the family wants to see her...you know? UI know how mad you must be. But don't make it worse. There could be something totally wrong or maybe there was just a misunderstanding. It is hard to tell.

Answer 5

First question is calmly ask Why!!!! He sounds like a controlling person and until she sees that for her self you cannot do anything. Just help her to know you still love her and will be there for her if she needs you. This similar situation happened to my family and the advice I gave you is exactly what I did. Arguing will only play into his hands to alienate your sister from her family. Good Luck....

Answer 6

I think you need to put your anger behind you. She is going to be in a very bad position if her husband is as controlling as you say he is. She might end up needing you more than you will ever know. When someone gets married like that and the man is controlling, she will more than likely be abused by that man. She will need a safe refuge. Good Luck.

Answer 7

maye there was a reason why she didnt feel you could go - were you accepting of her guy? approve of the marriage? Would you have given her a hard time? She married the man she wanted to be with, and almost had the wedding she wanted, to be honest, If I wanted to be with someone and my family didnt approve - they wouldnt be invited, Id just get on with it and invite the accepting friends and family members, dont take it personally, she just wanted a stress free day.

Answer 8

"And I don't think that her husband will let her talk to use."

This is extremely disturbing. Keep the lines of communication with your sister WIDE open; there is something very fishy here. Usually I don't suggest this kind of thing, but I would google the family and see if anything cult-like comes up.

Answer 9

somethings very wrong with this picture - if this is totally out of character for your sister to do -- she needs your support now more than ever. I would send a wedding gift with a note supporting her -- your main concern should be if she is happy -- then set a date to get together -- and suggest having another party with your side of the family. She might need you now more than ever.....

Answer 10

It sounds like her husband and his family are trying to isolate and control her. Please don't get mad at her. Let her know you and your family will be there for her anytime. Something isn't right about this and she needs your help. I hope you or your parents will be able to help her.

If her family gets angry at her then she will have no place to turn if her relationship with her husband gets dangerous. Please try to understand this even though you are angry at your sister.

Good luck to you all.

Answer 11

That was wrong. It would be one thing if they wanted it to be completely private and just the two of them. But that is weird that his family was there and not yours. Hopefully, he isn't too controlling with your sister.