My boyfriend absolutely will not let me go out by myself with my friends i have never given him a reason for him not to trust me... but he thinks its ok for him to go out by himself... is he being way too controling or is this normal?
2006-08-08 13:49:57 · 33 answers · asked by Meg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's totally controlling. "Do as I say, not as I do" isn't even a good parenting strategy, let alone one you want your boyfriend to rule you with. This one's got a lot of growing up to do before he's suitable mate material.
Run like hell, babe!
2006-08-08 14:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Shelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a dangerous man. When a man tries to close you off from people who know you and have relationship with you, this is a man who will hurt you, or possibly even kill you. What will you do if he then tells you he doesn't want you to see your family?
The only reason a man should want to keep you from friends and family is if they are truly harmful towards you. Since most family and friends are NOT harmful, then he's the one with the issues, and they are dangerous issues.
Further, if your friends and/or family are telling you to drop this guy, they are not telling you this because they want to see you lonely and without a man; they are telling you this because they love you and want the best for you. They can see where this thing is leading, and they're trying to warn you. How your family and friends feel about your significant other is actually a very accurate way to tell if he is good for you or not.
In short, RUN LIKE HELL!
2006-08-08 13:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is controlling you. You need to dump him fast. You will just be miserable and not happy. I have an ex like that. I could not have any of my friends over or go to their house but it is okay for him to go to his friends house or they come over. He will tell me what to wear. I always had to go with him where ever he goes or he has to come with me where ever I go. I took never gave him anything he could not trust me. I couldn't even go see my family and if I did I had to be home by a certain time. I wouldn't be surprise if he gives you an ultimate to choose between him and your friends/family. If that ever come up make sure you are not alone when you tell him you are breaking up with him. They are also known to have a temper and can get bad if they are one that cannot control his temper so be prepared for your safety. Been there and done that.
I'll tell ya, you will not be happy. You will be lonely and you want to go have fun like he is and not be controlled or watched.
Leave him, there are other handsome, sweetness, gentleman in the sea that would treat you better. The sooner you leave him the better you will feel.
2006-08-08 14:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Paula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I am having chest pain over this question!!! What do you mean by "My boyfriend will not let me go out my myself with my friends....." Am I getting this right???? I hate to telll you this but it is YOU who has the problem, sweetie!!! Since when do little girls let their "boyfriends" tell them what to do and not to do??? You had better get this idea wiped right out of your immature mind. First, you need to dump this guy because you do not sound mature enough to even have a boyfriend. Do what your parents tell you and be concerned about having them trust you! Don't you EVER lcome under control of some guy.....any guy! You will certainly loose respect for yourself and so will every other guy!!! Now, GROW UP!!!
2006-08-08 13:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not normal at all get away now this is the beginning of a truly bad situation next there will be no contact allowed with your family no outside time at all leave now ! i am an adult been married 18 years as a common courtesy i will let my husband know where i will be when i leave but i come and go as i please always have it is the way it should be.
2006-08-08 13:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by susi98223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not normal. obviously he doesn't trust you enough to let you go out with anyone. It may just be a guilty conscience or bad past relationship. Whatever it is you need to have a serious talk with him about why he can and you can't.
2006-08-08 13:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by DrmRboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are giving away your rights as a free human being by letting this insecure, jealous man pressure you into not going out. It is unhealthy for you not to have a balanced life by spending time with family, friends, and yourself. You should read Boundaries by Henry Cloud..
Your b/f needs to take responsibility for his own emotions and his reaction to your normal wants. He needs professional counseling. You need to break up with him now.
2006-08-08 13:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being way too controlling. This can only go from bad to worse. Be careful.
2006-08-08 13:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by Terry K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way too controling. Look out men like that tend to be abusive.
2006-08-08 13:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by momof2borninmarch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he goes out you go out with your friends. If he gets mad and brakes-up with you. Have a big party! You just got your freedom back. He is controlling. Get rid of him.
2006-08-08 14:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋