a question for guys?

Question

ok guys this is a question if you may be a father or not if you had a daughter or do have, how would you feel if she didnt want you to walk her down the aisle not because she dislilkes you, but just the fact she does like the feeling she's getting given away...

Answer 1

I would be hurt if my daughter did not want me to give them away. Its The proudest moment in a fathers life to give his daughter away and being denied this priviledge is hurtful. But you must respect your daughters opinions at the same time.

Answer 2

My parents and I have a strained relationship at best, but I'm much closer to my mother than my father. If my brother were still alive I think I'd ask him to walk me down the aisle instead...

Because I don't want to hurt his feelings (this is the only concession I'm making for anyone else because OUR wedding is OURS and I'm not doing everything for everyone else) but we have a different sort of ceremony where his mother and father will say a few words (that they've written and we've approved) and then hands together on a long lighter, light a candle. Then my parents will do the same. A few minutes later, just before we are pronounced man & wife we will do the rose ceremony (look it up if you don't know what it is, because it's beautiful) and then we will each take our respective candles and light the center one at the same time.

It's a beautiful chance to keep both our parents involved in the ceremony, without giving my (awful) father special treatment. He's being totally understanding, and now that he has a special place in the ceremony where he can pretend to be a good and loving dad, it doesn't matter.

Answer 3

I'm not a guy, but I'm giving my 2 cents anyway. I HATED the idea of being given away, but I knew it would hurt my dad if I cut that part. So, my dad "escorted" me down the aisle. The minister asked "Who brings this woman to marry this man?" instead of "Who gives this woman away?"

I've also seen a wedding where the father walked the bride halfway down the aisle. Then, she kissed him on the cheek and walked the rest of the way alone. This was really pretty: it symbolized that he walked with her for a lot of her life, but that she's walking the last bit on her own.

If you're the dad and this is what you daughter is suggesting, you might want to consider mentioning some other suggestions like these. She might also need for you to tell her how much it means to you. Brides can sometimes get so wrapped up in what they want that they forget that other people have feelings too.

Good luck!

Answer 4

If my daughter and I had a good relationship, I would indeed be hurt. however if I'm not footing the bill and the daughter is, well then it's her call. but if the "giving away" bothers you, why are you having a traditional wedding anyway. The whole ceremony is about feminine subjugation. Elope instead.

Answer 5

I think if you are going through with a stupid wedding you should at least respect your father. By the way, is he PAYING for any of this nonsense? If so then he IS giving you away, along with his life savings.

Answer 6

i feel terribly hurt but instead of her thinking you are giving her away why don't you try to talk to her and just put it to her a different way.I had a friend of mine who had the same situation and he just talked to his daughter and explained it to her this way.Don't think of it as being given away think of it as you are presenting her to her chosen partner with all your blessings and by being there to present her you are proud to be the one she has trusted to present her to this man for him to realise that she is a very special person to both you and him and she is the one gift in your life that you are proud to present to her partner and to all her friends and family.

Answer 7

i have 2 daughters if that what they want that o.k. with me its her weeding day..just don't ask for any money from me.