My bf want to live with me but I can't make my decision 'cause my dad needs me. I love both. I think sometimes that LOVE for me is not
meant to be. I need to be close to my dad and my sis to help them out. What do you think guys?
2006-08-08 13:27:50 · 22 answers · asked by DC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the best way to solve is to talk to them (bf and dad) and explain your situation, what you feel about it and with them find a way so both of them can be happy and that you will be happy too.
Maybe, it's only a suggestion, but if it's possible you can live with both of them for a while or find a way to include them both in your schedule (like you live with your bf but 2 times a week you go see your dad and help him with some things...)
2006-08-08 13:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by zed_buli_marky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer that family comes first when in need. If the b/f loves you then he will understand this and let you do what you feel you need to do. Since you are this close to your dad and sis then I suspect that he is a great dad that has been there for you when you needed him. My dad helped me when I needed him and as he grows older or is ill it is my turn to help him in times of need. Never turn your back on your family girl. You already know what is in your heart so go with that. You obviously are close to your sis and dad so my advice is to be there for them. You don't have to live w/ your b/f to be in a relationship. If it were me, I would take care of my family because one day your dad will be gone and who knows if the b/f will still be there anyway. The b/f should have your back. What if you were in need and your father chose to be w/ another woman instead of helping you and your sis?
2006-08-08 13:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not that tough of a question for me. My family would never let me down. But the unpredictability of a new relationship is like stepping out on volcanic rock - you don't know if it is solid enough to stand on!
On the other hand, there is a time to leave the nest. But it is always nice to know that you are going somewhere that is proven.
Friends are not really friends until they have stood with you through your trials without bailing on youl. I mean complete unwavering support. Until then, they are only "acquaintances".
Once the relationship has stood a little fire, then maybe a life strategy change is in order.
2006-08-08 13:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by extremelyradicalman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be alone for the rest of your life? You can take care of your dad even if your boyfriend lives with you. I don't know the situation is that you are in, but you need something for you. Don't sacrifice everything for you dad and sister or you'll end up being a crabby old woman.
2006-08-08 13:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience I could tell you that boyfriends (my case girlfriends) will come and go... at the end the only ones that I could truly count on being there is family. Take care of your family obligations, cause no matter what he will always be your father and the love for you is unconditional. Can you say the same about your boyfriend?
P.S. LOVE is for everybody... except for me (but that is a whole different story)
Good luck and best wishes
2006-08-08 13:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Eric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I don't believe in moving in with someone until you are married. Yes I know this sounds old fashion but hey what's the big deal with moving in with someone any way.
With choosing between the both of them I don't know if there is something wrong with your dad that he needs your help or what? If anything ask your dad what he thinks and go from there.
All of God's Blessings, and Guidance to you on this one
2006-08-08 13:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Fotios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have family around you. Keep the bf but tell him he can't live with you because you're needed at home & then whatever he does or says will determine whether he wants to be your bf or not. Bf is thinking with his dick. All he wants is to know how much easier for him it will be if he lives with you.
2006-08-08 13:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you want to noticeably evaluate what your bf is saying. in case your dad had any style of complications like this in the previous, you should imagine of this. in case you do not say something, what about the subsequent little woman that has her existence distorted because of him? it is your duty if he's a a probability probability. Be courageous, you're patently a reliable women folk :)
2016-11-23 16:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about your boyfriend live with you and your dad and your sis, that way he can help you out too, and ya'll can all be together. Sorry if anything is not good with your dad or sister. God Bless, and Good Luck! Hope i helped!!!
2006-08-08 13:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by Nanner♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family should always come first! If your bf really loves and cares for you he will understand and stand beside your decision.
2006-08-08 13:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by concerned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋