I split from my ex a year ago now! I really believed he was the one and cant get over it properly. I know it gets easier and it has, and I know time is the greatest healer! But I still love him now although he does not deserve my love, he's done every unforgivable thing possible, hes a ****! The main thing im scared of is that i wont find that feeling again with anyone else! I know i'll get there, I was just hoping some of you lovely peeps could give me some feel good and heart warming advice! x
2006-08-08 12:54:39 · 14 answers · asked by Totty D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to pray that you DON'T find that feeling with someone else! Does loving someone who you yourself admit does not deserve your love make any sense at all? And on top of that, you say you thought he was "the one"? Honey, "the one", the REAL one makes you feel good, treats you good, and most certainly doesn't do every unforgivable thing possible!
It's good that you're asking yourself these questions though, because if you don't work out why you thought a man like that was the one, you'll make the same mistake with the next man, and the next one after that.
One thing that has helped me that might help you also is to examine your relationship with your father. My feeling is that if our father is a good man, you know - honest, hard-working, faithful, good provider, etc., that shows us women what a good man IS, so Mr. Good Man is much easier to spot when we start thinking about a potential romantic partner! My father has been AWOL my entire life, so I never had a CLUE what a good man acted like, talked like, behaved like. As a result, I made mistake after mistake after mistake.
If your own father is a good man, compare traits in a potential partner to your father, or another good male role model in your family. But, you know, men show us who they are very soon. We just have that ol heart in there alot of the time, and don't want to admit that what we're seeing isn't what we WANTED to see!
Do some soul searching before you enter into another relationship. Once you start feeling better about YOU, Mr. I Thought He was the One won't look so hot.
2006-08-08 13:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by loveblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find the feeling again and you know what.....it will be stronger than the time before. I am sorry it didn't work out with your ex but I believe that everything happens for a reason and the reason is that you haven't found the right person yet, there is something better out there for you. Just go out and have some fun, try new things meet new people. It will happen for you when it is ready to happen. Best of luck!! :-)
2006-08-08 13:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question has less to do with how you feel about your ex and more to do with how you feel about yourself and possibly a desire to get into another committed relationship. Go do things for you. Have fun with your friends. Enjoy your own life and when you least expect it, doing something that you love doing, you'll meet Mr. Right. Have faith, and remember what if you went back with him and missed out on Mr. Wonderful just so you could be with Mr. So So, because you were scared to be alone for a little while.
2006-08-08 13:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by abc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really know how you feel, its been about 5 years now since I broke up with my ex, the love of my life, and when I find out how to get over it, I'll send you an email.
2006-08-08 13:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by Rawka'D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey im sorta in the same postion as you, except it was a girl. well honestly if he mistreated you in any way you know you deserve better than him and your gonna find some1 that is going to love and respect you the way you want them too. dont waste too much time on the past because then you have no time to look forward to the future. you'll find someone trust me, there many fish in the sea lol
2006-08-08 12:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by Justin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that you were wrong. He wasn't "the one" if he was, you'd be together. If he's done every unforgivable thing...he's probably not even the person you thought he was. When you change your way of thinking, your feelings will start to change.
2006-08-08 13:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's terrible that we are led to think there is 'a person for us'. It is a huge lie.
People can adapt to anyone else within reason. After a while monogamy either proves to work, or doesn't, or labours on.
2006-08-08 12:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by Chris cc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember this; we are always prepaired in advance for the things to come. A heartache leads to healing which leads to a new love.
2006-08-08 13:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by ardlesstraveled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he isn't the one. You will eventually find who you are meant for and spend the rest of your life with that person.
2006-08-08 13:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by Kandace S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You stay on hold, especially if they die. You put your energy into your work., what you're learning.
If he wasn't really "the one" you'll find someone else.
2006-08-08 13:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋