okay well my bf lies to me all the time, he talks to other girls that are his friends but i'm not allowed to talk to my guy friends.. he is very possessive he doesn't let me go out with my friends, he has no trust in me or respect... but i still love gim and he says he loves me with all his heart.. what should i do
2006-08-08 12:42:06 · 13 answers · asked by sexylilbiatch1988 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can you trust him to have other girl friends? He may be possessive of you because he is up to no good himself. Why does he lie to you? That should tell you something. You can't trust him because of all of his lies and he feels guilty so he's throwing it back on you. I'd be as honest as I can with him about this problem and if he don't catch on to what you expect of him, I'd tell him to hit the road. Love is not about lying and possessivness. You will find the right one.
2006-08-08 12:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you say you are in love and yet you find all these faults
The question is.. Are you a happier lady when your with your guy
some times Lies are just some guys way of not confronting what 's infront of him , its easier to lie than to argue or compromise about things so they take the easy option and say what you or they want to hear . You cant change a lier thats just what they are . Only you can know if you love him and only He knows if hes into you as well but , is there a better guy out there on the horizon you might have totake a walk and go see one day soon I fear .
2006-08-08 19:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should give him a couple more days/weeks. if this thing continues, i think its time to either let him go or tell him that what he's doing is bothering you, cuz i'm sure it is. if my boyfriend did that to me, i'd be kind of annoyed. but you said you loved him, so let him know what he's doin. tell him you'd like him to stop being a hipocrite and start letting you off the "leash" that he has such a tight grip on.
if you really loved him, i guess you should stay with him if that's really what you want. but you said he doesnt respect or trust you. well thats not really much of a boyfriend. dont you think?
i think you should do whatever makes you happier. leave him so that you can find a less overprotective boyfriend, or stay with him and never see any of your other friends...its up to you cuz i dont wanna make it worse by making you leave him and then you'll be all sad and stuff! but you might be happy with what happens! you never know!
2006-08-08 20:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so speaking from a womans perspective, who was once involved in a similar situation...guys who are usually possesive like that...are that way because they feel guilty because of lying or cheating. not that your guy is cheating...but if he is lying to you, there no doubt he would if he could. when you love someone you don't need to lie to them...because you should trust that person and know there's no reason to lie they'll love you reguardless...be careful, and remember men come and go...friends are forever!
2006-08-08 19:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by sweetbraniboo804 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a psycho....when someone tries to take away your independence they don't love you. It sounds more like infatuation. He lies to you and monitors who you are allowed to talk to! That is unbelievable...why would you stay in a relationship like that? You deserve better than that....find someone that will respect you enough to let you live your own life.
2006-08-08 19:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by Shelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a girlfriend, you are a possession, he does what he wants, but won't let you do what you want. He is separating you from your friends, while he is free to have all his, girls included.
Dump him, you will be losing nothing, and gaining your Independence.
2006-08-08 19:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you he wouldnt disrespect you or be so posessesive u cant have true love if you dont trust each other and if he lies to you then thats a big no no i think you should break up with him before it gets more serious
2006-08-08 19:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by cswtp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when guys don`t want you to hang out and they do, it````s because they don`t want you to find out what they are doing.a guilty mind is an accusing mind. girl move on it will only get worse.next time he tells you he loves you, tell him with love comes trust and honesty and your not feeling that from him!!!!!
2006-08-08 20:10:11 · answer #8 · answered by seanny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds very controlling he does'nt have any trust in you when you are around male friends if you stay with him he will just get more controlling so if i was you id leave him
2006-08-08 19:49:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mark W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Point blank .....If he lives with the idea ..."Do as I say but not as I do" ...then you need to move on he doesn't love you but wants to posses you......
2006-08-08 19:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by bear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋