Why can Muslim men marry non-Muslim women, but Muslim women can't marry non-Muslim men?

Question

This double standard confuses me. Are Muslim women considered too feeble minded to make decisions for themselves? If I fell in love with a Muslima, and she fell in love with me, why would God forbid us to marry?

Answer 1

Because Muslims believe that men are to rule over their women, if a Muslim woman marries a Christian, they look at as if they lost a follower.

If a Muslim man marries a Christian, they believe they gained a whole batch of new children to Islam, of course he is still free to marry three more if he wishes.

Many double standards against women in Islam.

Some choose to ignore them.

Peace!

Answer 2

There are many things about the islam that doesnt make sense to people of other religions, just as many christian practices dont make sense to Muslims...To a muslim Islam is the only true way, and in a islamic family. Women are second to men in a sense that the man makes the rules of the home. The woman most times do not even attend the mosque. the men and women are separated in most situation outside the home. It is just a very differnt culture. If you ask the women, they dont normally mind this as this is what they are use to. It is part of their "way" . There are some advantages for the muslim woman as well.. the man takes care of the finaces and if the women works (which she doesnt have to) then she keep the money for herself, not to suport the family.. the issue with marraige is, basically the same, the man is the "boss" and if the Man of the family is not muslim , this is not allow because then the rules of the house will not be of the islamic way.

Answer 3

There must be some very good reason for that. Which I might not be able to tell just now. But a few other good reasons which I can think of just now are.

First all around the world bride goes to grooms home after marriage. And usually lives with the man's family. The non-muslim is much more facilitated toward Islam as compared to the other case.

The family lines are generally traced from father (about all over the world) so the new born children come to belong to a Muslim family.

These are the reasons I can think of for now but there must be ever more important reasons.

Answer 4

The real reason is because Jews and Christians don't believe in Mohammed and wouldn't hold cutting him down. Where as a muslim family would never cut down Abraham or Jesus.
It isn't realy a double standard, I think it would be very hard to marry a man who wasn't a muslim. We are supposed to respect the people of the book. I think Men are allowed to marry non-Muslim women because women are more likely to respect the husbands spiritual needs. Where as a woman might feel intimidated to follow hers.

Answer 5

Assalamu alaikum my dear sister pam. You are the honey of your husband.Is it the reality in your life or is it just as your fiction or illusion?If it is in reality that your husband is a non muslim whose age is older 18 years older than your own age and now he has long illness you must keep be patient. You know that a muslim woman including the one who reverts, could not marry non muslim man. You are right but you must try without force to teach him how well about Islam. You must make supplication or du'a to Allah for changing his heart into Islam after you made tahajud shalat. You must take care him as easy as possible just like caring your own father although he is not a muslim.By giving care we hope he will think that Islam is very perfect and the only true religion. You can stay with him until his death but you should treat him not as a husband because in line with the Qur'an and hadith the muslim woman is for muslim man. You marriage is invalid in line with the Qur'an and hadith.In your case,mankind and humanism involve the important role. You must treat him well in his remaining life based on that basis.

Answer 6

In Islam a man can only marry a women of the Islam or of the books. Since all the other books have been corrupted they can't marry a non-Muslim so that's just out of the question. the reason why women can't do that even if their were people following the original books is because are stubborn and wouldn't exactly listen to her and might make her do un-Islamic things or do them himself you it would be hard for her to stop him. He also might not treat her according to Islam because basically in Islam the wife is treated like princess if you follow the laws of Islam.

Answer 7

muslim men can not MARRY non-muslim women but they are allowed to have a relationship with them. Muslim women are not to have such liberty and are only to have one mate in their life which is their husband and no other relations are allowed. Now, if you are in love with a muslim women and your love is strong the one thing you can do is become a muslim yourself. there is a ceremony in which you have to go through and then you are done. but remember if at any point in you relation as a man and wife you announce that you are not a muslim any more then your wife is leave the house at once b/c you are not what they called "mahram" to each other no matter how many years of marrage have passed!

Answer 8

According to what I have read, in Islam, the man is considered the head of the family. Muslim men may marry Jewish or Christian women, referred to as "people of the book," but not vice versa. As another poster said, if a Christian or Jewish man wants to marry a Muslim woman, he must convert to Islam. Marriage is not forbidden, but you would need to convert, which might not be possible if you are committed to another faith. It is ironic, but all three religions have this underlying philosophy about men being the head of the family.

Answer 9

Because if you get married to a muslima and you are lets say a christain you're children won't carrie the muslim faith- the father is an influince therefore your children won't be muslims so your wives right to the chidren is wronged but if vice versa the children become muslims and every body wins.In arab and muslim countries the children take their fathers name not their mothers.
Get it?

Answer 10

I am pretty sure you're right. In that religion I believe they are considered feeble-minded and lower on the totem pole than a man. Therefor, they do not have the right to make the decisions. I'm not saying it's right or wrong. I'm saying it's religion and that's how those things work. If women are not lower on the totem pole, please someone let me know so I learn something.