is it normal to feel pressure from my family because of wieght?

Question

i'm 5'3 110 pounds and i'm 14 yrs old. my mom tells me i'm fat one mintue then i'm stick thin the next. i hate wieghing myself in front of her because she says i'm huge. now i compare myself to celebrities and want there body and i see a fat slob in the mirror. do i have a problem? am i fat? or am i being a dumb@$$?

Answer 1

A good rule of thumb is a weight of 100 lbs for a 5 foot girl or young woman. Then, for every additional inch of height, you add 5 additional pounds. By that calculation you could weigh 115 and be in a perfectly normal weight range.

You are definately not fat. I wonder if your mother realizes that there are teenage girls who became anorexic due to comments about their weight from family members? Stop comparing yourself to celebrities - and I hope you're not talking about someone like Nicole Ritchie! She is just absolutely too thin!

You sound like a wonderful young person. I suggest using polite but firm statements to get your mother off of your case. If something happened to you, your weight would be the last thing on your mothers' mind. Maybe she needs to be reminded of that.

Answer 2

I think 110 is great for your height. It is possible that at your age your body is changing a bit and that is normal. Your mom may be objecting to some of the clothes that teens wear today. Wearing tight hip-hugger jeans or shorts and a high rise top can make the skinniest girl look fat. Those jeans squish every ounce of skin up over the top causing a "muffin top". It looks gross to me, but I know that everyone dresses that way. It could be that your mom is responding to this look, and just wants you to look your best when you head out the door. Do not let what she says hurt your feelings. Mom's don't mean to be critical - they just love you and want to help you. It is possible that some clothes are more flattering to your shape so take that into consideration - and don't worry about the scales. I've hurt my daughter's feelings when I don't like what she wears and she thinks I'm calling her fat.

Answer 3

You're not fat, and tell your mother to shut the hell up.Remind her that she's supposed to love you no matter what. You are 14 and still growing, if you do have a couple extra pounds it's because your young body needs them!!! DO NOT compare yourself to anyone (I know it's hard, but don't), and only worry about pleasing yourself when it comes to your looks. Anyone could look like a star if they had a personal make up and hair team that works on them for hours and hours, and photographers that airbrush the flaws. Celebrities aren't real people. They're Barbies.

Answer 4

Pardon my language but your mom is f*cked in the head for getting you this way I can assure you that your mother has the problem not you but if you keep on comparing yourself to celebrities its only gonna cause you alot of pain in the future I should know I've lost a few friends thanks to that type of thinking, I'll never make that mistake again and you shouldn't beat yourself up over your weight as for weighing yourself in front of your mother who says that you have to. Thats probably some way to bring ya down.

In closing you shouldn't worry what your thinks instead do what you feel is right and you just might be okay.

GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 5

Learn science and be scientific. Your BMI is 20 for adult. First read teen advice. 19 to 24 is normal. 30 is obese. On links page is gov. BMI calculator. Put in info including age. Then you can explain to people that 47% (making up fake #) of 15 yr olds are thinner than you and 53% are fatter than you. Then tell her that there are good carbs and they have a glycemic index of around 30 and a glycemic load of around 10.

Then explain that as something moves close to the speed of light (186,000 miles per second) (Einstein's theory of relativity-- edgamucate yourself) time slows down and distances contract. So you could be in space for 5 years and only age1 year. The Energy E that comes from an atom is equal to the mass, m. (similar to weight) of the atom times to the speed of light, c, squared (times itself). Then you can evem make stuff upto confuse her and she will find someone to annoy or irritate since you will irritate her ignorance.

Answer 6

Good heavens no! You are not overweight. Shame on your mother for telling you such things. You do have a problem: your mother should be supportive of you, not degrading you. You don't want someone else's body no matter how big a celebrity they may be. You are unique and fine just the way you are. If you feel bad about yourself, would you please talk to someone you can trust? A counselor at school or a favorite teacher?

Answer 7

In truth, you are right in the middle of or even slightly below weight for your height. If your mother is concerned with your weight, she should take you to the doctor and get his or her opinion. In reality, the doctor will probably tell your mother she has a problem, not you. If this constant assault on your body image continues, you probably will have a problem. As far as the celebrities bodies appear, you should realize that they are ALL touched up to appear as perfect as they do. I strongly urge you to see your doctor and discuss what an appropriate weight is for you and listen to the doctor and no one else. Do that for yourself. Best Wishes.

Answer 8

No, there is nothing wrong with you. Your mother needs to be more supportive of you. Let me guess, she tells you she only says it because she cares and loves you and only wants the best for you?! Well that is just total BS. All she is doing is lowering your self esteem...by the way, you need to tell her this. But honestly, you're not fat, you're probably a beautiful girl and your mother needs to keep her negative comments to herself. Because that saying what comes around goes around, can't be more true.

Answer 9

I am 5'3 and 125 and I consider myself perfect. I can't imagine why your mother would say that to you but don't listen. 110 is not fat at all. Even if you were 200 your mom shouldn't say that. Geez

Answer 10

hi i have sorta the same problem...every1 in my family calls me fat though they're not exactly skinny themselves i'm 5'5/6 10 stone and also 14 well you think yo've got probs!!

look dont worry your family are being insicure hatefull pigs and they'll either get over it or they wont but dont listen if u dont feel comfortable weighing urself in front of her then dont!! simple you are normal weight for your age i think but if you want to feel better about yourself take up a sport with friends so that you dont have to be stuck with ppl. being nasty to you and the sports will make you healthy and realease endorphins that make you feel good about yourself but plz dont go pro ana or mia on me its totally not worth the hassle

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