My bf and I have been going out for a month now and already I'm seeing some red flags. Although I love him to death, he's a little possessive. Well, two of my guy friends wanted me to come over and I thought this would be a perfect opportunity for my boyfriend to become acquainted with them; so, he came along. While there, they seemed to hit it off pretty well and we were all having a good time. We left and that was that. A few days later I went to go hang out with them again and have some good laughs. I went home and my bf called to chat. I told him that I had gone to see the same friends that he had met 3 days before. And much to my amazement, he never liked them. He told me, "I don't like those guys and I don't want you to see or speak with them ever again." These guys are really good friends of mine and I think this is ridiculous. I discussed how I felt with my bf but he's still firm in his position. I'm not sure what to do but I don't want to lose my friends over this. Help pls!
2006-08-08 12:10:17 · 17 answers · asked by sweetzmk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've told him in GREAT detail what we do and I've also told him that we're JUST friends. But it's like it goes in one ear and out the other!
2006-08-08 12:22:23 · update #1
been there done that and regreted it my advice is PLEASE DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR FRIENDS this feeling u have for this possive aand controlling bf will deminish and real friends are forever and you need friends not someone controlling your life i speak so passionatly cause it is so hard to get life back after a controlling bf mine "xbf" still tries to have some control over me and its been 3 years i never knew how important friends were until he had made all mine go away i thought he cared ,i thiught icared BOY WAS I WRONG so please please keep your friends you'll meet someone who likes u 4 u and lets u have friends u like even if they're not his favorite people who ever ur bf is shouldnt try to change u
2006-08-08 12:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is jealous. This is a typical guy Friend problem. I know, I'm a guy Friend. What happens is you are close fiends with the guy...they know stuff about you, tell stories, laugh...basically your Friends. To the boyfriend, how ever, the guys are a threat. They know you thousands of times better then he does and you get along well with the guy fiends...no effort or anything. He on the other hand has to worry about what he says and does all the time to keep you happy. And you don't normally click with a Bf like you do a Friend.
Often, the guy Friend will be there to hang out. He comes over and the girl and him just watch a movie or such And even if you do something together you split it, like Friends. The BF does not get it that easy, if he comes over it's a Official Date...he has to take you out, make you happy and pay.
2006-08-08 12:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe he is jealous such a lot as he simply fairly cares approximately you and wishes to grasp what is going on to your (love) existence. He would have romantic emotions for you--or he would simply be kinda like a significant brother, watching out for you. Unless it bothers you otherwise you'd like to talk about the likelihood of a courting, I'd allow it move. He seems like a candy, being concerned man.
2016-08-28 10:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by dassler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id say its jealousy, it sound like your boyfriend is a little insecure with himself. I think when you took him over there to the friends house he seen something you had with those guys and not with him. Not nothing sexual, but maybe he didn't feel you were paying enough attention to him with him being around people he didn't know. You should try an take him over there a few more times ( if hell accept) to get to know them better. Then maybe he will be more open to you going over there by yourself. I hope this helps you.
2006-08-08 12:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by LAS1011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is jealous...I understand his point, as I have been there.
What would of helped me more with jealousy, would be the girl being open about what you did and stuff like that. When the girl was vague, saying just "we had fun" and not giving any specifics....My mine thought the worse..."You know what I mean? oftentimes times your mind makes you think a lot worse that what is really going on!
2006-08-08 12:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by goodfella_az 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why in the world are you letting a guy you only have known 1 month tell who you can and cannot talk to ... nobody died and left him boss. get rid of him , your gonna have big problems out of him if you dont. but when you do tell him to hit the road remind him that you are a woman and can pick your own friends no one owns you...GO GIRL
2006-08-08 12:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is jealous. If he didn't like them that's fine, but if he doesn't want you to see them, he might be afraid that they will win you over. Tell your boyfriend that he will always be your one and only love. They are just your friends. Reasure him that you will always be his girlfriend and that he should not be jealous of your friends. Having boys as friends is just like having girls as friends only they are a different gender. They will always be your friends and maybe you should tell them what your boyfriend said and that they should talk to him.
2006-08-08 12:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already talked to him. He didn't understand you. He probably won't understand you in the furure siruations like this. Like one of the guys above said, get rid of him now, it will only get worse. Much worse, might I add. Your female friends will "follow" into not-allowed category. It's been only a month into the relationship!
2006-08-08 12:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right that is possessive right there. You have not done anything wrong. Those red flags are right in front of your face. Do not ignore this. It will only get worese.
2006-08-08 12:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww, i'm sorry to hear that, he either cares about you so much, he does'nt want you to cheat or does'nt want to lose you to another guy, OR he just wants you to himself, i mean that in a selfish way, find out what it iz, if it is the selfish way, then he should just be lket go, but if it is'nt just discuss with him, in a romantic convo, that u would'nt leave him, ect
2006-08-08 12:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by pimp_knuckles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋