If your girl went out for drinks with another guy some night alone, would you worry?
I personally think that it's an obvious situation that neither a man or a woman should get themselves into. Truly alchohol is a poor excuse for cheating, but what about the spouse? How should they feel?
2006-08-08 12:09:44 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
No, it's never a good idea for an involved woman to get drunk with another man. Freud used to say that "The superego is the part of the personality that's soluble in alcohol." I'm in the behavioral sciences field and, while Freud is no longer my role model, I think he was right on that one. The superego is the totality of social rules, laws, etc that we make ours as a result of our upbringing and social learning. When the superego goes, any sense of morality, appropriateness, sense of acceptable behavior, etc. also goes. But all this can be easily summarized as :an involved woman drinking with another man equals almost guaranteed disaster. The spouse would be justified in expressing his opposition quite firmly (but legally) to such a happening.
2006-08-08 12:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by Archetypal 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Getting drunk is a pointless waste of time. An engaged woman who would get drunk with another man alone, ought to ask herself seriously if she has any love for her fiance. If not why waste time of both in marriage? Don't marry anyone UNLESS: You love and adore each other, and are happiest when you are together. Unless you want to (and CAN) help each other be better people.
2006-08-08 19:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea i might have some thoughts about my woman going drinking alone with another man. But the words " I think I trust" ARE NOT IN MY RELATIONSHIP DIALOGE! Either i trust or i don't, no inbetween. The only time is would be ok is if it were her brother. even the i saw that episode of Lost. So even the brother thing is kinda weird
2006-08-08 19:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Casca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of trust, and commitment, love and respect. Do you love her? Do you trust her. Can she say the same of you. Are you afraid that she will act like you the moment the alcohol gives her the thin veil of an excuse? How drunk does she have to be? Has she given you reason to believe this? A couple of drinks with a friend will not turn her into an adulterous. Women are not wired that way.
I love my wife, and trust her. She loves me, and she knows she can trust me.
2006-08-08 22:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by Aurthor D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit making or looking for excuses.
Not being there as a drinking companion is no excuse for not servicing your girl? Why is your girl going out without you? Why aren't you going out with her? Getting to know her favorite drinks and friends and bring her home so you can lay her. Not to mention protecting her as her best friend.
Take some responsibility of this blame your quit trying to shuffle it all off on her.
If there is friendship and/or underlying sexual attraction you better are worried.
Stop asking us!
Get off the computer and go talk/ask her about it yourself show interest in her.....why are you still here?
Go have a drink with her...bye now go.........right now...give me the ten points after you get laid...and take two aspirin in the morning. Then you can email in the morning the….10pts.
See….
You are still here reading this and she out having a good time do you blame her?
Cheers
2006-08-08 21:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by jaggedart 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess it depends on how much I trust my partner and how much you can trust the person they're with. I think if people are inherently trustworthy and respectful without having to put an effort into it, then being drunk won't mean anything other than acting stupid. Most people aren't trustworthy or respectful, so I'd worry.
2006-08-08 20:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by jeandupree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jacob, your absolutely correct. If you were to go out with another woman drinking one night...would your significant other be worried? Of course she would.
This is a simple way to judge what's right/wrong in by your significant other. If you're doing something that you know they wouldn't want you to do...it's not worth doing. If you're doing something that you'd not do in front of them...it's wrong.
The other thing is to always ask the other person to put themselves in your shoes if you were to engage in the behavior they are. If they wouldn't like it if you do it...they shouldn't do it neither.
2006-08-08 19:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kizeman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. The obvious answer is "no, that is NEVER a good idea." I trust drunk people, myself included, about as much as I could pass a sobriety test after drinking two bottles of wine.
2006-08-08 19:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a good idea.
It should be done often, and with different men each time.
The spouse should feel uncomfortable in his lonliness and guilty that he can't keep the woman satisfied or with enough work at home to keep her busy.
How about sports, then?
2006-08-08 19:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by bicpenitentary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done it myself, and nothing has ever come of it. I have several male friends and I'm a married woman. I get drunk with them, and might even be attracted to them, but I've never done anything with any of them. Cheating on a spouse is unforgiveable in my book.
2006-08-08 19:15:16 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋