I don't know what to do?

Question

I have a list load of problems. Let's start out with my job. I work for a big retail company(You can guess which one) that is the only job pretty much in the town I live in. I have a anxiety problem with crowds, and yet I work in the only retail store in town, so you can guess what my weekends are like. PANIC ATTACK!!! My wife asks me why don't I talk, and when I do talk she interupts and says I'm talking too much. I live in the same house with my mother in law, who thinks kids should just be quiet, when my kids are energized. When I try to put my input down on something, everybody goes the other direction. I wander why that is, when everybody says I'm the hardest worker, and very smart. I feel like going into a cave and hiding. Trying to start a career and getting nowhere, starting a life which seems to be everybody elses and I'm in the passenger seat doing all the pedaling

Answer 1

Hi, I think your problems are nothing you can overcome, if you really want to. If working at the retail store is the only thing you can do in your area, then go outside the area. Find a job where you can get better pay, even if you have to drive an hour or two. Do you and your wife have a good relationship? You kind of neglected to say whether you were happy or not. But if you are not happy, then she may not be either. You should get together and talk about your relationship, your children, and living with your mother-in-law. If you are living with your mother-in-law for financial support, then I really suggest you get that better job (which you will be much happier with, since you said you do not like being around crowds) and you can make more money; and with some time, enough to move out from your mother-in-laws. I think the first step you will need to take to have a happier life is just to sit down and talk to your family, your wife, and they may be on the same page as you; even though they often are against your opinions. If they are not, then maybe you should try some counseling, or whatever it takes to make you happy. You should not be a passenger in your own life.

And I apologize if my thoughts are kind of random! Hope this helps! And I hope you get the motivation to make a change in your life, because it is not as hard as you may think it is.

Answer 2

It sounds as though you might be depressed. Although you may be the smartest and hardest worker where you are, is it a dead end job? Working retail can be very frustrating, and if you feel as though you're not going anywhere at work, but feel as though you're doing a good job, perhaps it's time to sit down and have a talk with your boss. Having anxiety and working with people all day must be very tough on you. Compile that with an unhappy home life, and you have every right to feel frustrated with life. If a career change is out of the question, try your best with what you have. Talk to your wife about what's on your mind...if she's unresponsive, just drop it, you don't want to start a fight. Try seeing a counselor, it might be good for you to just talk and get things off your chest. Most of all, take control of your life! You deserve to be happy, good luck!

Answer 3

You have taken the 1st step, you are looking for help. People create the stygma that a mental health problem means you are crazy. Nothing further from the truth. EVERYONE has a mental health crisis, at some point in there life, whether they want to admit or not.

The person willing to say "I could use some help over here" should be applauded for having at the minimum the common sense and self awareness to realize something is amiss.

I have known several people who have/had the symptons you describe, they all were able to deal with and or correct the problem thru a psychiatrist, not a psychologist. Only a psychiatrist can legally administer the drugs that may be necessary to correct the problem.

Look at it like this, your car starts to mis-fire plugs, you take it to a professional who knows how it is supposed to fire, and he corrects it, often times by just a little tweek of the firing pin.

Could be as simple as that.

Good luck. Hope this helps.

Robert

Answer 4

To me it sounds like its not you with a problem. yes, you have social anxiety, but the rest of your problems, are other people. Your wife asks you to talk to her, and then wont listen when you do, that its self is rediclious. Not trying to affend you or your wife, but if she really cares about you, she will listen and atleast try and help you. And as for you try to spread your opinion and no one listens, your under apprieated. and the only way to really change that, would be to prove them wrong. But as for everything else, if your un-happy with your life, and your in the back seat, thats not right and i honestly think you should move on and find something that you love, your appriated for, and wont give you panic attack.

Answer 5

Social anxiety is a real problem and you shouldn't be ashamed of it or seeking help for it. A counselor would be a good idea and maybe also a marriage counselor to help your wife understand your problems without her thinking you are complaining. It is good that you are around people even though you have anxiety problems because that means that you are not controlled by it.

Good luck.

Answer 6

You are OVERWHELMED! It is terrific that you are opening up today. It is the start of getting the answers that are beginning to surface from the depths of your hopes and dreams. You really need to relocate to where there are schools, to BECOME your DREAM! And not cut off and cut out. Decide where you want to study, then Announce that you are moving. And, who is going WITH you!?

Answer 7

boy u just made me dizzy. try counseling

Answer 8

your confusing.go seea shrink