I went to see a girl after work and we sat in her car for a minute and I asked if she wants to go to my house which is 45 minutes away. She says "I dont care" which puts the ball in my court. Now I have to make a decision for this girl by weighing out the scenario. Being consiterate I understand she just got off work, is probably tired and may be testing to see if I am that inconsiterate by taking her all the way out to my place. Why cant she just say yes I would like to go to your place and hang out or I am really tired maybe we should make a plan to get together. Then when I leave she texts me saying we should have went to my place so I call her on it and she says its to late now Im in bed. It seems they make a definite answer after the fact which drives me nuts. Do I really need to just take them where ever I go and just wait for them to get mad at me before I consider what they want to do? Or where can I find a woman who thinks for herself? Thanks.
2006-08-08 12:01:27 · 9 answers · asked by 1authority 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most women can decide for themselves, we just like to have others' opinions. Its not that we can't decide, its just that we don't want to be too controlling or always doing what we want. When I say "I don't know" or "I don't care", I usually do know, at least vaguely, what I want to do its just that I don't want to say "we are going to go do this" and then the other person doesn't want to but feels stuck. Since I'm a pretty flexible person and usually don't care that much, I ask the people I'm with for their opinion before we make a final decision as to what we are doing. That way as many people as possible are happy, and at least we tried to be considerate of someone else's feelings.
2006-08-08 12:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by lemonlimeemt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, don't put the label of 'indecisive' or 'flaky' on ALL women. Some of us actually do know what we want and we do make it clear.
Perhaps this one is playing games with you - testing your limits. Be upfront with her and let her know it's annoying and that you can't simply wait around for her to make up her mind.
That said, try being not so available to her.
She could be going through some major stuff though and that could be making her more indecisive and flaky.
Let her know you don't like getting played. And then back away and see if she comes after you or not. If she doesn't she's most likely not interested.
Sorry you had to go through this. It's an ordinary situation for anyone put in your place and don't stop being considerate - just draw the line with this one.
Cheers, Meg
2006-08-08 12:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by ausbabe29_megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are exactly the same its just that type of personality. cant make there minds up and change half way through. more on relationships on this site that will help you better
2006-08-08 12:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she said I don't care you should have went. She was trying to say yes while not being too forward and sleezy looking.
2006-08-08 12:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most of us can decide for ourselves
sounds like maybe she wants you to be more firm
try that and if nothing changes, maybe she isnt that interested
2006-08-08 12:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by Willow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biased, much!!! Not all women r like that, jughead!!!!!
2006-08-08 12:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by mvc_monkeylova8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wanted you to say "lets go!"
2006-08-08 12:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u lost me, women don't kno wt they wnt half teh time so ask us guys or copy us.... and btw when seh say i dunno that is a yes!
2006-08-08 12:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is one person, PLEASE dont be so narrow minded as to judge us all by one persons actions
2006-08-08 12:44:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋