my mum died 4 years ago need help?

Question

she died 4 years ago i was 21 when she died ive had a child since i would like some ideas how to remember yet celebrate her life

i would like 2 thank all for their kind words

Answer 1

Once a year buy her favorite flowers and put on her gravesite. Or you could light a candle in memory of her.

Answer 2

I have a similair situation except for the fact it was my father and he passed away when I was only 9. So he never got to meet my husband or my children.

Some ideas I have used are if you have pictures of your mother and you together, or even some of her with your father or other family members, make a memory scrapbook. And then underneath the pictures or on the same page as the pictures, write down what you all were doing, funny stories, etc. It really helped me remember my father but also celebrate his life. I also asked my other family members if they had any pictures or stories about my father and they came up with alot. I hope this helps you out in some small way.If you need anymore ideas, please feel free to email me at [e-mail]

Answer 3

My mother passed away when I was 15 and then at 17 I had a son, that only lived for 8 days. Two years later I had my oldest daughter and one way that we have included the kids in on their grandmaother and brother is on birthdays, theirs and my living children, we buy balloons and and then we go to the cemetary and release them so that grandma and brother can celebrate with us, then we go home and have cake. My kids are now 20, 18,16,12 adn this is a tradition. I never knew how important it was to them, until one of these days it was storming, and I just decided not to go to the cemetary, didn't even buy balloons. Then I spent the next week trying to figure out why they were upset with m. Then it came out, they said that grandma and Brandon, didn't get to celebrate thier party with us. So, I hope this will help you. I know it has helped us in a big way.

Answer 4

So sorry babes! I lost my mum this month last year. It heartbreaking i know. I have keep a special box with all her favourite things in and i have wrote all the lovely memories that we had in a special book. and when i feel really sad i get all those memories out of the box and feel sad but happy. I also put flowers on her gravestone every few weeks and light a candle for her. But am sure she is with you 24/7 anyway. All the best and will say a little prayer for you tonight. xx

Answer 5

on birthdays let go off a helium balloon in memory of your mother try and get it to be your mums favour it colour with a note attached but remember no matter what your mum will always be around in spirit try and remember good times you spent together i no losing your mother is like the world has ended i believe in guardian angels and i would say your mum is protecting over you and you child the colour going through my mind is red don't ask me why i have just got a urge for red was this your mums favourite colour by any chance

Answer 6

I was moved by your question. I am a mother of three girls the youngest of whom is 21.
I thought about your question and how I felt I would want my girls to remember and celebrate me.
Live well, celebrate the life your mother gave you, be happy and pass on your mother's love to the wee grandchild she did not live to see.
Your mother would not want you to be sad but to have a happy and fulfilling life which would be a tribute to the love and care she put into bringing you up. Above all remember her with joy and share your memories of her with your own child.

Answer 7

my mum died too.. bout same time.. i feel for you i really do.. its hard sometimes isnt it? i get great enjoyment out of sharing funny stories about my mum to friends n family. sometimes i look at her photo n wink n smile at her.. hey, why dont you buy a small tree for around £20 around 7/8 feet in height.. you could plant it in a quied wooded area somewhere nice n take your child there n watch it grow each year? though i think the best thing you could do for her as in celebrating her life would be to pass on her knowledge and words that help and have helped you.. down to your child n hopefully he/she will do the same for you in return.. hope this helps.

Answer 8

I took the flowers from her (my Mom's) funeral and hung them to dry. Once they were ready, I purchased some small bottles with corks from the craft store.

I put in the dried flowers leaves (and a little potpourri to fill it more)and filled the bottle with baby oil. I then took an old pot and melted an unscented candle and dipped the cork completely into the wax, sealing it.

I gave them to her sisters (7 of them) and her granddaughters and nieces). Now everyone has a physical item to remember my mother by.

Weather dusting or just walking through the room, they can see it and remember all the wonderful times they had with my mom!

Answer 9

1 thing you could do to remember is to make some copies of some pictures and cover them with clear contact paper and make a small photo album of her for your child to carry around of their very own as soon as they can hold a book that way they know grandma from the very start. Then you could go to your local nursing home and adopt a elderly lady as a grandma figure and around your mom's b-day you could buy gifts and take to her. And everyone wins.

Answer 10

To show your child pictures of their grandmother and tell them of all the good times you shared with your mom.Make a scrap album of the pictures you have so they can always go there to see their grandmother. Sorry to hear of the loss of your mom, but look you have a child now another generation of your mom growing into the future. that is how you celebrate her life by loving your child for your mom is also in them.

Answer 11

Hiya. So sorry that you're hurting... She will always be alive in your memories so put a photo album or a memory box together and on special dates like her birthday or some special anniversary talk to your child about her and show her the things you've collected and explain what they are so he/she can almost get to know her...