it says in the bible to honor your father and mother. what if they abuse you? do you have to obey the bible?

Answer 1

that is only part of the scripture, it says,honor your father and mother that your days will be longer on Earth, Honor means to show respect to, in Bible days if you did not Honor your parents they were to take you out and stone you, the laws have changed since then, and now there are laws against parents not only stoning you, there is also laws against abusing you. but if you are not being respectful to your parents that could be part of the cause of the abuse. also it hurts your inner man, and many time abused children grow up to be abuser them selves. keep a good heart and do what it takes to protect your self, if that means getting help then do it.

Answer 2

While abuse is a horrible thing, the Bible does tell us to forgive. Now, a lesson on forgiveness. FORGIVENESS doesn't mean that what they did was okay. Nor does it mean that you have to forget what they did to you. Forgiveness is more for you than it is for them. It's you not allowing them to have a hold on your life. Forgiveness is letting God take care of the situation. And in that forgiveness, you are both alleviating yourself of those that hurt you AND honoring them at the same time. I mean, you didn't disrespect them, so you did them no dishonor. Just forgive them and let it go. Trust God with this situation as well as any--no, EVERY--other situation.

And hey, get some help. First do some praying and petition God. Next, call the police or whoever you need to call in order to get this thing resolved. Remember, God can't use us when we're sitting down. Times like this call for our action!

Hope this helped and encouraged you some. God Bless!

Answer 3

In the older versions of the bible the commandment actually says honor the mother and the father. It simply means to acknowledge them.

Answer 4

I cannot respect anyone who abuses me. I was a victim of child abuse in an age where no one would do anything about it.
I grew up having no respect for my parents, and no guilt or shame for my feelings about it.
Some answers talk about the difference in biblical times. Well, guess what, if some of the rules have changed, then maybe all of them have.
Every person, parent or not, gets respect and honor when the earn it. It is not a right, it is a privilege.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, many of the people that are supposed to care for us the most do not. It’s a sad fact of life. Consequently, many times these people hide behind religion in order to make you feel shamed, or to ensure that they do not go to jail.

If you are being abused either physically, sexually, or verbally. Make sure you call the police the moment it happens. You want to make sure that you have the evidence on your person. If it’s verbally, then you will need to keep track of exactly what they say and when. If it is physically, take pictures of the bruises, or go to the cops the moment it happens.

With physical proof you can escape the chains you were born into, and find a loving family.

Answer 6

You are suppose to also love yourself. And in loving yourself as God's child, then you must take measures to see to your safety. Certainly we are talking of physical abuse, cause mental and verbal, all though are just as bad in my opinion , I believe God would require us to handle with an understanding heart of the wrong that they do, and that in itself is honoring the parent. However finding a way to stop any abuse would be first and foremost on your mind....and I don't mean using violence to handle any problem. For today there are many people to whom one can get help from.

Honor the ideal of parent hood, the true parent God and all else will fall into place.

Answer 7

I don't know how old you are. But when God asked kids to obey their parents - he intented for the parents to be good role models to their kids. He also intended for the parents to be loving, generous in kindness, ability to discipline and correct their kids as the Bible outlines. God is the best parent and we are to follow his example. But when it comes to abuse of verbal (mean things said), mental (breaking your spirit) physical (a lots of bruises - black eyes, welts and blood involved) sexual (molestion and incestual - rape) I would say get help. God ask no one to submit to abuse. Wives should not be abused by their husbands or vise versa. Nor should parents abuse their children. If you are in a situation where the punishment and discpline is not outlined in the Bible, than God expects you to go get help. Don't mistake a spanking on the behind for abuse. Because the Bible does support spanking. But hitting is not acceptable nor is being demeaning or just out right being mean to your kids. You do need to obey the Bible because the Bible is against abuse - Bible not only protects adults it also protects children - this your parents need to understand just as much as you need to understand. If your parents aren't listening to you, get help from your pastor, your school teacher or someone who will listen to you.

Answer 8

They brought you into this world, gave you life..
you need to respect them, and honor them.. Most importantly, give them something they couldn't give you.. love.. kindness.

Had you ready Beauty for Ashes? - joycemeyer.org

It's not obeying the bible, it's obeying the Lord..

lasermouse9 said: Honor doesn't mean be submissive.
It means respect the fact that they brought you into this world.
Amen lasermouse9

Answer 9

Honor them by releasing them with LOVE. Because ultimatly that is the main theme of the bible... Love with out condidtions and forgiveness. You can honor them by accepting they are sinners and perhaps only did the best with what they knew. But you can also honor thy self by getting away from the abuse, and forgiving them. For to harbor a resentment on them is to continue the abuse to yourself. Only You feel the pain from a resentment.

Answer 10

Always obey the Word of God. However, calling the police etc. if you are truly being physically/sexually abused is not considered not honoring your parents. Show them respect, but I would do it from a distance. make the call