hard being muslim?

Question

im a teenage muslim and its very hard i mean u cant have a boyfriend u have to fast and the life is very hard.anybody have anything that vcould help?

no no being muslim is very nice and i believe in everythign just goign to a public skool with non muslims is a little hard

Answer 1

It is always easy to be bad. And harder to be good. You should be true to yourself and Allah.

Do not base your life of the life of others.

Answer 2

It is a good thing to seek advice when you feel a little depressed. But I would suggest you don't use public forums like these where your words can be interpreted wrongly.

The best thing for you is to study Islam and understand why there are certain restrictions and what exactly is their purpose. There are restrictions everywhere in the world and in every religion. Take america for example, as compared to Islamic values there rules for adolescent behavior when it comes to relations between boys and girls are very leanient. But still there are certain rules and moral values that have to be observed e.g. you just can undress in a public place and so on and so forth. Where there are no rules and restirctions which everyone follows it is and anarchy. The question is what are the best and optimum amount of restrictions so it is neither too hard and still it allows the society to function properly. We believe that God knows best and has clearly defined it.

A person should get married as soon as one can get a suitable and good match. But unfortunately the way society has developed it has become very hard. And the problem still gets worse when you are living among people that don't follow your code of condut. But as they follow their code of conduct you must follow you own because you believe it to be correct. If you have any doubts clear them through reading and research.

Islam is the best way of life. But as and honest man is not always the happiest when and narrow span of time is considered only, so is being a good muslim not very easy. But it pays off in this life and most assuredly in the after-life.

Learn about Islam, study Quran and it will all become clearer and easier for you. Also I suggest reading the following. Though it is not directly related to your question but it will strengthen your belief in Islam. A strong belief that you are doing the right thing makes everything easier.

http://www.muhammad.net/quran/amazingQuran.htm

Answer 3

I sorta had the same problem. After a while you are gonna love being Muslim. If have these problems with boys like asking you or something just tell them it's against your religion to date and people will respect you for that. And with fasting just do it and if some ask why your not eating just tell them your fasting and non-muslims understand. Maybe you should get some Muslim friends to help you along the way I know it helps me, just remember there are many people in the same situation as you.

Answer 4

asalaam alaikum sister. i understand that muslimahs in this land are being tested in the hardest way. but please sister keep your iman. do not look at your deen as being a limitation for you as you are stating what you can't do and what you have to do as if you don't like it. sister i reverted to islam when i was 19 and having lived as a kafir i can tell you that being a muslim and living your deen is much better. you really don't want a boyfriend. at least not if you wish to maintain your chastity, which i should hope you do. even if your intentions are well with this boyfriend chances are that his are not. boys are good at disguising their intentions with you. if you are alone with him, at some point he will advance you. he will even wear you down so that you give in to him. even the nicest boys do this. teenage boys are all the same. please don't get yourself in one of these situations. remember where there is a man and a woman together there is a 3rd (shaitan). as for fasting, this you should not look at as an obligation or punishment. when you fast the shaitan has no power over you. you bring yourself closer to god. fasting is a gift that allah gave to us. sometimes it can be hard, but the reward is great. if it gets too hard then take a nap. while this is discouraged, it is better than breaking your fast.
keep your prayers and these thoughts that you are having will dissinigrate. these are the whispers of shaitan. try to aviod the boys in school. if you do not associate with them, it will be easier for you. read qur'an a lot. go to the masjid a lot. keep your prayers! all these things will help you inshallah. please keep your iman and do not fall into the ways of the kafirun. islam is best and allah is keeping accounts on all that you do, so fear allah and be on gaurd against committing major sins.

about what poki poki said- no you can't have a boyfriend. and if you break you fast, you don't just make up that day- you have to make up 30 days for each day that you deliberately break your fast!!!

Answer 5

Well as a fellow Muslim teen, I really understand what you are going through believe me! For the boyfriend thing I kind of just think about how many times my friends hearts get broken and how I get to avoid that, though it isn't the easiest at times. And as for the fasting I guess I get to think about all the less fortunate people in the world and what they go through all year round, but are fortunate enough to have a meal waiting once the fast is over! And I realize that there are many people who put us down but I'd like to see them go through one day as a Muslim!!! Well I hope that I was of some help and if you ever need to talk about this stuff I'm always available through email just contact me through going to my profile or if you email me I can give my sn!

Answer 6

Asalaam alaykum sister...I know how you feel I am Muslim and I did go to public school with non-Muslims....Here is advise I wish someone gave me.

1) Don't fall into traps of shaytan by having a relationship with opposite gender. At first it may seem harmless, fun, exciting but in the long run you will be miserable. Just stay focused and school and get things done. In order to do that you must do the following

2) Befriend some good Muslim sisters (join a club). Talk with them, eat with them, chill with them, go to their house. It is better to around people who try to cleanse themselves and do good.

3) Get attached to the Quran by reciting even 2 pages a day with translation. I swear this works miracles. You would be amazed at the verses and it will truly open your heart. It is like self cleanser. There is a reason why in the Quran rain is considered mercy from Allah and also Quran is considered mercy from Allah. The reason is because just like rain gives life to dead land. The Quran gives life to dead hearts. You will boost your emaan (faith) trust me

4) Ponder over how short this life is. How we can die so suddenly? We don't know when we will die but seriously that is the only guarnteed thing when we live. I am not saying be in a morbid and depressed state just when you are about to do bad think about your short life. Speak to any old person and he/she will tell you how short life truly is. We honestly have no idea.

5) Finally, make dua, make dua, make dua. In the end it is our continous actions and supplications to our Creator that can guide us. "Allah does not change his creation UNTIL they change themselves."

I hope that helps and I wish I was given that advise at a very early age like yourself because I fell into the traps. Everything happens for a reason and God guides whom he wills.

Answer 7

I'm not a muslim - but I can see where your concern comes in. The fact of the matter is that you have to make a decision on where you want to stand in your relationship with Allah. I have lots of muslim friends and some of them come to this point where they are confused as to how strictly they want to follow their beliefs (especially some of my female muslim friends). In the end, you have to look for a kind of balance where you are both comfortable and disciplined.

If there's one thing I know, its to remember is that in Islam, do not believe what you believe for your family, relatives or friends. To my understanding, you have to decide your own terms about how you want to keep your relationship with Allah. That's between you and God. =)

Answer 8

Find the most moderate Muslim group you can and seek counseling. Anything else done in secret will make you feel terribly guilty and will put you in danger as well. When you grow older you can safely leave and choose your own faith, or no faith. Look into secular humanism - there are numerous ex-Muslims involved.

Answer 9

hey!
be strong and dont get distracted by stupid stuff!! you can have a boy friend muslim girls can have a boy friend just dont have premarital sex. it's for your own benefits not for any body else. trust me you dont wanna do something you would regret in the future.

as for fasting it's really easy but you will have to take it step by step in the beginning. there's nothing hard about fasting and the day you dont fast you can always make it up by fasting any other day.

dating, i think it has more to do with your family rules they worry about you and wanna protect you. be trust worthy and they might let you date boys. there's nothing wrong with that if you promise yourself that you want do something wrong.

Answer 10

C'est la vie.

That could mean: That's life
or it could mean: Life's a *****
or it could mean: Sh!t happens

Luckly, I'll never have a problem w/ being any religion, esp. because I don't believe in people telling me what to do. Sometimes I question religion, why, why, can't you have a girlfriend, why do you HAVE to fast? If it's that hard, there's two options, either suck it up, or change your beliefs. That's all there is to it. C'est la vie

Answer 11

If you don't want to be a muslim or you want to search for other religious alternatives then I think you're on the right path.

You are being honest and that's important. I personally don't think Islam is friendly to women. I think Islam is built on patriarchal systems that keep women submissive.

I feel for you , I really do but if you start your search for alternatives I think it will make you feel better. Even if you need to hide what you really feel until you are older and can outright say NO to Islam altogether.