I am 14.....and I have a SERIOUS addiction to DIRTY SEX SITES???

Question

I am 14 years old and i can't stop going to sex sites,i always try and promise myself that i won't go in any but i STILL go!!!!!!!what should i do and is this normal???

please help me!!!i am begging u ,i want to stop,,but something always pulls me back.

Answer 1

this is a true addiction. it isn't normal, but it is common. a lot of marriages crumble, and careers are crashed because of this. stop now while you still can, it is a big mental addiction, that is only going to get worse. ask for help from someone cool thats older that you can confide in.

Answer 2

Friend, you've done what most pornography-addicts don't: you've admitted there's a problem. After all, pornography, like any kind of drug or alcohol, is an addiction as well, and denial of the problem is the hardest phase to overcome. No addiction is normal, and all of them are incredibly difficult to overcome.

Now, in terms of trying to stop, that's a process best solved in practice and with only a smidge of advice from the community. Regardless if your parents know about this addiction or not you need to ask them for help. You need to sit down with them, discuss the problem, accept the consequences, and ask them to help you overcome your problem. For instance, get them to move the computer to a place where you won't be tempted to look at these sites, remove access for you, or maybe even go as far as finding a counselor--remember, this is an addiction like any other, and professional guidance can help to some degree.

Also, you've got to replace the triggering mechanism in your head with something else--that is to say, when you get the urge to go do something, you need to find another activity to do. As others have suggested, pick up a hobby--join the community sports team, collect Magic card, learn up a craft of some kind (you'd be surprised about what you could make!).

Remeber that no working solution is going to solve your problem overnight--it might take a long time, and it will most likely be hard to maintain. But if you can keep yourself to a serious commitment to stay off those sites, then you'll beat your urge to keep going back.

Answer 3

Is there an adult you can talk to? Or try a youth hot-line. They could help you get help with this, since it bothers you and possibly interferes with your life.

Please ignore the people who aren't taking you seriously.

Focusing on other things is good, if you can do it without help, but it sounds like it's beyond that.

As for normal, well, at 14 obsession with sexual material isn't unusual. It really depends on the extent, and, as I say, if you feel it's taking over or messing up your life.

In the meantime, try away from the really sick stuff that equates sex with violence and degradation.

Although I don't entirely agree with the poster that equates sex with love, there's such a thing as healthy sex, and a lot of the porn spam I used to get was NOT that.

Answer 4

Dear Writer;
You have partially answered your difficulties by admitting that you have a problem . You are not alone!
It is our weakend human condition that causes us to fall into this trap. Seeing that you are only 14 is troubling. You should get professional help both mentally and spiritually. Not doing anything is the worst mistake you can make!
No, your addiction is not normal. I am not a theologian, but I would say that you are demonically obsessed. You must do more than just say I won't do it again. The devil and his demons are well aware of your struggle. This is the dent in your defense. They will continue dragging you into this mire.
I would like to help you. Would you give me just your first name so I can begin to pray for you. For the moment, get down on your knees. This is breaking of the flesh, and humbling yourself before God. Cry out for help, and use the name of Jesus with all the reverence you can. He knows your struggle. It is obvious that you want help. The police code for help is 10-13. This comes from the book of Romans in the New Testament, it reads as follows.
"For whosoever(thats you)shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved." Also in the book of John. chapter 14, verse 13, Jesus said "And whatsoever ye shall ask in my name, that will I do.."
The answer to yours and the worlds problems is answered in the book of Ephesians,chapter 6, verse 12:"For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalties,against powers,against the rules of the darkness of this world,against spriitual wickedness in high places."
That speaks of Satan, he is the ruler of this world at the present time. But he is a beaten enemy.
Please write me. Be freed by the blood of Jesus! If you would like a Bible, I will send you one.

Your friend,

Donald

Answer 5

Find the one that turns you on the most. Look at the pictures or the video clips that excite you. Then look at them again. And again. And again. Keep it up for hours, the same ones over and over and over. After awhile you'll start to see how fake it all is. Keep it up until your bored senseless. Keep looking/watching until the crap doesn't do anything but bore or disgust you. That is how you break the cycle.

Then once your head is clear and your hands are out of our pants; do some research. Start learning about the wonderful world of porno. You'll learn about the kids, girls and boys who get drawn into it. How they get used and used up. How when the film pimps can't make any more money with them they dump on the street, often with expensive drug habits and incurable diseases. Once you know what your looking at; there's nothing sexy about it.

One last suggestion: Rent 8 Millimeter with Nicholas Cage. It'll get you started thinking in the right direction.

Answer 6

If you are serious about what you said, put your computer in the living room or some other community area where you won't be alone. clear all the web sites from the history and create user accounts so everyone can use it.
now get a hobby, a job, a friend, get out of the house.

Answer 7

You are at an age where your curiosity about sex is normal. However, the internet does not provide in most cases, a healthy view point of sex. Please understand that it displays it as an act, not an emotion of love expressed between two people. As an alternative talk to your parents, older siblings, school counselors and ask them questions. I know it is embarrasing, but how you learn about sex will be a lot healthier solution for you.

Answer 8

Don't worry too much about it, and it is actually normal. Eventually you will begin to find them boring and flat. Just make sure you still have a normal social life.
You're at the age where all your hormones are raging. Better the sex sites than indiscriminate sex. Just don't go believing they're realistic :-)

Answer 9

lol Dude chill. It's normal. You are 14. Just keep yourself off the computer.

Oh and the thing that always pulls you back is called curiousity and hornyness. It's part of growing up. You have to learn self control.

Good luck!!

Answer 10

Just shut off the computer and go join a softball league or something. If you're 14 and you can't stop, it's only going to get worse as you get older, not better.