Especially at the start of a new relationship
2006-08-08 11:36:45 · 20 answers · asked by sexyfunfairy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u have to learn to love urself
2006-08-08 11:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by m j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in a relationship consider the fact that if the person you're with thought you were terrible looking they wouldn't be with you. Much as we like to pretend, we are a 'judge a book by its cover' society - we do go for looks. So if you didn't look good to this person they wouldn't be there with you.
If you're worried about nudity etc there's ways to get around it .
1) keep your clothes on and avoid sex or nudity.
2) if having sex or getting naked, have the lights off or really, really dim and get dressed in PJ's etc before morning.
It's funny because I used to have a best friend - she was tall, thin, blonde, good looking and she got asked out so much she could eat for free for a year just off breakfast, lunch and dinner dates alone! I kid you not. Anyway, she met my then partner (now husband) and he thought she was kinda cute but then she opened her mouth and the ugliness that came out (racism, ignorance etc) changed his opinion and he told me after his first meeting with her that I must have been crazy to tell him about how good looking she was because he thought she was the ugliest person he'd met.
So that's the thing, we might judge a book by it's cover etc but honestly, after a while, the cover means very little once we start reading.
If you still feel ordinary about things, try being honest and writing down two lists - the first being all the qualities you have that are good. The second list should be all the things you'd change about yourself - your body etc if you could. You'll probably find out that the first list outweighs the second by far. Get friends to help with the first list if you think it'll be beneficial - but make your own first before getting them to do one with you. It's important to know what you honestly think of yourself.
And if all else fails, just remember this one gorgeous, looks fade but personalities and the power of the mind last far longer.
Best of Luck and don't be so hard on yourself!
Meg.
2006-08-08 11:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by ausbabe29_megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One never truly gets over being body conscious. I have been married for 13yrs and I still feel that way. Just remember as long as you are happy with yourself shouldn't that be enough?
2006-08-08 11:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let it worry you, if a guy likes you he will accept what you look or feel like. And if he does not, then he not worth it. Just be yourself and be confident about the way you think you look and learn to love yourself. Take from me, I had cancer and i hated my body after that. But now i dont give a toss, if a man dont like it, so what!! Plenty more fish in sea babes. Be strong and confident.
Good luck xx
2006-08-08 12:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by bettyboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think it just takes time... i hate when people say you have to love your self... no one loves them self all the time. I know that I don't have the world's most perfect body... but think about an imperfection on your man's body....i am sure you think it is cute or makes him unique... well that is how he feels about you. He wouldn't have started liking you if he found you nasty..... my guess is accept what is wrong... and laugh about it. I have kinda a budha belly... i use to had it... i am just stating to learn that people come in all shapes and sizes..... sooo don't worry too much. I am sure you are smokin!
2006-08-08 11:45:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its a new relationship give urself time and dont jump into bed with him straight away hell respect u all the more then once ur happy with ur body thats all that matters
2006-08-08 11:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that there are people out here in da world that may not have a body like you and cant take care of themselves, therefore you are lucky to have a healthy body. So oyu may think there's sumthing wrong with you but other people may not.
2006-08-08 11:42:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never know I still feel self conscious and hate getting undressed infront of my husband but he has seen my wobbly bits for 6 years now. I am sure your new guy will love yours besides for them it is like a new playground.....
2006-08-08 12:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love yourself before anyone else can.
If you say to your other half that you hate your body enough he will stop trying to convince you otherwise and you will then feel he hates your body as much as you do which will make you feel worse.
You are who you are and you only live once, if your fat your fat, if your thin your thin. Everyone has someone that will love them for who you are
2006-08-12 07:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by Natalie K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't care, they really don't! As long as they are 'busy' It could well be a barbers floor before they notice anything. By then you will be standing at the foot of a bed with a cup of tea...
2006-08-08 12:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by janni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am paranoid about the way i look. reduce the number of times spent looking at the mirror. Tell yourself everyday that you're perfect .
2006-08-08 11:55:40 · answer #11 · answered by falleninlovecouk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋