The past just hurt me allot and I don't want to think about it but I don't know how it's diffucult really pla help me I really need help this thing gets me frustrated
2006-08-08 11:31:42 · 11 answers · asked by beautiful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the past is the past...and it is tough to look back at all the mistakes, and negative things that u've been thru. but think of it this way.. u can use those things to help you Change. u can use those things to help you Grow. use all that experience and knowledge you have to teach you what is Right and Wrong! u have the ability to change the future, one step at a time!
here's what i learned recently that REALLY opened my eyes... it was in bible study, Romans 5-8: that Jesus died for my sins, and if i accept that, i am Justified--> NOT GUILTY. of all past, present And future sins. so no matter what i've done, i'm not punished anymore. i am FREE to do what is right, without worrying about the mistakes i've made, or what people think of me. i can be a New, Pure, Clean person again, and start over. i can use my experiences from the past, all that hurt, anger, and frustrations, to help me be a better person! i don't want anyone to suffer from my hands. i want to be open minded, loving, and supportive, to anyone and everyone in my life! i don't want to choose the wrong or bad thing anymore, i WANT to be better. that is why, even tho we are forgiven of all things, it doesn't mean we are free to do all the bad things again..because we won't want to live that way anymore. u are not happy right? u want to make a change!! know that you can change urself, it's never too late. keep growing, keep learning, keep seeking out what you need to make yourself positive, healthy and happy. u have just as much potential to do good as bad, so make good decisions in life, and don't look back, except to glean the Positives out of the past and Learn from the Negatives!!
Good luck~~
2006-08-08 11:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has, and will have bad experiences- it's simply a part of life. You cannot forget your past, it's part of who you are. However, you can try to find closure on the situation that is causing you stress and grief. Reason with yourself- tell yourself that it wasn't your fault, or remind yourself that you have come out of this experience a better person. Bad things do happen, and it may seem like it's all bad to you right now, but know that all misfortunes are blessings in disguise. You learn valuable lessons from your past experiences, so just let time heal the pain of what has happened and wait for the real reward to come.
2006-08-08 18:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by danica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Improve your present and it will help expunge the past. You are probably not ready to make the necessary adjustments, though. You can begin by forgiving yourself for whatever part you played in your painful past and forgiving others when you feel ready. You probably have a lot of unresolved issues. Find ways, even symbolic ways to address them and put them in perspective. I know a girl who burned a picture of an abusive father. That helped her release her emotions and concentrate on the now.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-08 18:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a notebook, write down your story, every detail, let yourself experience the emotions associated with what you are writing. Breath, and let go.
Once you are done, get another notebook and begin to write a new story. The story of your future....goals etc.
If needed, burn the first book, but I recommend re reading the whole book from beginning to end every single time you start to dwell on the past. I promise you will start to annoy yourself and decide to let it go for good.
2006-08-08 18:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by happyness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always have your past. What you need to do is stop DWELLING on it. You cant change it but you can change what is to come. Learn from your mistakes and that will help you make better decisions in your future.
If it really gets bad go see a therapist and get on some anti depressants so you can find some mental clarity.
2006-08-08 18:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you want to run away from your past. Sometimes the best way to do this is to physically distance oneself from it. I can hardly recall anything from my childhood, even as I try to now, since I moved away from my family and the places that were at one time familiar to me so long ago. The fewer things you have around to remind you of the past, the easier it will be to forget. If something traumatic happened, distance yourself from it or seek counseling... you shouldn't have to go through this alone.
2006-08-08 18:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you drive which direction do you cast your eyes?
The past is like the rearview mirror. It should be referenced from time to time, but not focused upon to get to the destination ahead.
Be bigger than your past. You cannot change it? You can benefit from its lessons. Your destination is the Future.
2006-08-08 18:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by LeBlanc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is how i did it.... Get up each day and look in the mirror and tell yourself you are better than the hurt.... smile and say something nice about yourself.. slowwly your confidence will grow and some day the hurt will turn into a lesson
2006-08-08 18:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by badass99_er 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe that you must set goal for the future and dream of them and get busy trying to achieve them and do not look back. Stay busy with your dreams.
2006-08-08 18:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Tony T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will take time, and with that in mind the time will go way and ease the pain that's the best I can do sorry.
2006-08-08 18:36:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋