My boyfriend works nights and I work days, therefore we only have weekends together. I'm working part time this week, so we have a few hours together everyday, in which he says he misses his alone time and wishes I would just go away. I know he's not cheating on me, but I don't understand why he's acting this way when he says that he always misses me and we usually have a great time on weekends. I just moved in, and I'd think we'd be having a happier "honeymoon stage" than we are now. Also, we rough-house sometimes, and he always ends up getting way too physical and I always get upset and tell him. Just today, he put his arms around my neck, and it took him several "stops" before he actually did. What's up with his attitude and impulsiveness?
2006-08-08 10:54:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he sounds like he's cheating on you
2006-08-08 10:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "honeymoon stage" immediately follows getting together and making a committment to each other. Sounds like you two are merely roommates, or an emotionally divorced couple. Sounds like he has some resentment issues as well. If your playtime gets out of hand, it could be an indication that he is harboring some anger towards you. Maybe he is feeling smothered, monitored, or regulated by your presence. Did he ASK you to move in, or did YOU suggest it? Did he get you on the lease? Are you there because he wanted your company, or the convenience of unlimited sex? You probably already know the answer to your question but maybe you don't trust your gut because you are in denial. Are you hoping someone will give you a more comfortable answer "Honey, don't worry about it" or some reassurance?
He doesn't trust or respect you enough to tell you what is wrong, and it is leaking out of him in the form of physical aggression. BIG RED FLAG!!! You are with a budding wife-beater! Can't you see the signs? What has to fall out of the sky for you to get a clue?
If you feel like there is, and you have to ask what's wrong, then there IS something wrong. If it becomes PHYSICAL, you should get out and move on. Think of it like a burning house......your relationship is on fire.
Will you wait for someone to tell you that the house is on fire before you decide to get out? Are smoke, flames, and heat not good enough clues?
Think about it.....
2006-08-08 11:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably a loner.I am that way when I am with someone even if I love them more than anything in the whole entire world I still like lots of alone time.
2006-08-08 11:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he don't feel as strongly about the relationship as he use to maybe you should move out and give him his alone time are you sure he don't have someone on the side becuase if yall barely spend time together why do he need alone time think about it
2006-08-08 11:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by shaki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl...he is JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!!!!
read the book. It will save you big time grief!
"he's just not that into you" by greg behrendt
2006-08-08 11:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋